Has viewing Porn affected your sexual relationship with your partner? ..Good, bad, neither?

[NCWSLvr]

Good. I’ve been a porn watcher before her growing up, it has opened my eyes to different things, which she appreciates, and she now watches with me and it has expanded her horizons as well. She didnt watch it until recently, but then I got her to and now she she loves it.

 

[RIPAphrodite]

I’ve honestly had exs that love porn and others that hate it. I’m a sex addict so I can never get enough of porn or sex hehe

 

[OnlyfortheLonely]

Neither. That's a good thing about only having an imaginary girlfriend.

 

[LMWM321]

especially boys, are going to come across it and I’m really terrified of how it’s going to mess with their mind.

I addition, young men need to be set straight on average dick size - which is something porn has definitely misrepresented.

Most importantly, they need to understand that dick size is not highly correlated w/ female sexual satisfaction. AND that the average penis according to the best available studies is 5.5" long and average girth is 4.59. Kids watch porn and come away believing that the average penis is 6 or 7" long which leaves well over 1/2 of the kids feeling like they don't measure up. And it's worse for young black men who grow up believing their dick should be even larger when actual studies show it's not. BBC is a harmful, racist trope that Porn has been promulgating and monetizing for eons.

As a consequence, you have a generation of young men who feel sexually inadequate even before they start to have actual sex. This probably leads to all sorts of toxic behavioral over-compensation.

All this said, I do admit to loving porn. ..But I approach it the same way I do alcohol and junk food. ..Enjoy it using common sense and discretion.

 

[Lustopia]

Has your viewing Porn affected your sexual relationship with your partner? If so, how?

I've try to used porn in relationships to try to advance our sexual life together into higher levels of eroticism. For instance I successful introduced a girlfriend into the idea of MMF threesomes using video porn.

But it has also been a big negative in relationships that were probably on a downward slide anyway. I have found myself gooning and jerking off so much that I was unable to perform sexually for my partner. And you know how that story ends.

On the other hand, my porn addiction has led me to swinger sites & chatrooms in the past where I hooked up with both men and couples for real world sexual encounters that wouldn't have happened otherwise.

I'm an old guy now. I suspect that for the younger generations the ubiquity of online porn is a net negative in their sex/love lives in the same way that social media has a net isolating effect on heavy users.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

The one thing porn has taught me is that we are all incredibly different and people thankfully have an extremely wide and varied kinks. Everyone is and can be attractive but there has to be effort and a mindset that excudes confidence. Basically don’t be lazy and expect to have a fulfilling sexlife.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

If I had the sex life I wished for with my spouse I think it would add to the experience. If I consume porn it turns me on and gets my libido going. If my husband were interesting take that energy and apply it to our sex. Since he has such a low see drive and no desire to have sex the way I like it, he doesn’t get the opportunity to benefit. My solo sex surely benefits though.

I’m the same - could not have put it better.

 

[drobert44]

I’m the same - could not have put it better.

I have been blessed to date a woman my age who has never had an orgasm; I sure fixed that.
We are 80.

 

[ILikeIt]

About thirty years into our marriage my wife told me of a fantasy of her's. It was to watch me have sex with a man. That never happened but we watch gay porn together and it drives her crazy.

 

[Hipshot1554]

If I had the sex life I wished for with my spouse I think it would add to the experience. If I consume porn it turns me on and gets my libido going. If my husband were interesting take that energy and apply it to our sex. Since he has such a low see drive and no desire to have sex the way I like it, he doesn’t get the opportunity to benefit. My solo sex surely benefits though.

Sadly common here.

 

[Billintulsa]

Speaking only for myself, I love porn. I prefer watching amature porn, though; videos pf "real" people engaging in sex is pure enjoyment for me.

Reading through the vrious answers has been entertaining an enlightening, which led me to the conclusion of "to each their own". Porn is certainly not for everyone and before introducing it to a partner (or potential partmer), a shared experience is always best. And one should never expose porn to someone who truly does not enjoy it.

I am single, but I have my share of fuck buddies, all of whom enjoy watching porn. It is epxecially exciting to have a large screen TV to serve as a background to a small group of like-minded people.

Like any other facet of sex, it is all or nothing; everyone needs to be in agreement or it should be no-go.

 

[Deleted member 6789170]

Ive watched porn for yrs. Its def made me more sensual, sexual and open to experimenting with toys.
Its made me curious about threesomes, gay porn and tribbing

 

[Billintulsa]

Ive watched porn for yrs. Its def made me more sensual, sexual and open to experimenting with toys.
Its made me curious about threesomes, gay porn and tribbing

I would LOVE to have you in a threesome with me and my cousin Vicki.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've been much more open to BDSM sex and being owned, leashed, collared, in chastity, etc.

 

[Britva415]

My (lack of) sexual relationship with my partner affected my porn viewing.

Now that the marriage is open and I have other opportunities, I've cut out the porn back to pre-internet levels again.

 

[Sweetdreams71]

I think social media including porn etc has really made people go to the extremes to get noticed in effort to find a sexual partner.

 

[NCWSLvr]

My (lack of) sexual relationship with my partner affected my porn viewing.

Now that the marriage is open and I have other opportunities, I've cut out the porn back to pre-internet levels again.

For me, pre-internet was still a lot.

 

[dobbins1]

Don't let my wife watch.....she might see what she's been missing all these years!!!n

 

[Naughtylo]

I would have to say its improved out love life.
We watch prn together and have acted out lots of it. Xxx

 

[wouldloveto]

We are currently using selected porn clips as part of therapy. We watch together (mostly) to discover what might pique her lost libido. We are finding out some things we did not know about each other.

 

[LMWM321]

We are currently using selected porn clips as part of therapy. We watch together (mostly) to discover what might pique her lost libido. We are finding out some things we did not know about each other.

Your therapy? So a therapist encouraged you to watch porn together?

 

[Redmandeadman]

My wife is fine with it, but I promised her I'll always follow these sensible rules:

• I'll never look at stuff that isn't fully consensual, or isn't convincingly enjoyed by all. ..No choking/ gagging BJ's, no "barely-legal", no painful anal or anything where the woman looks anxious or unhappy. I find this easy b/c that kind of porn turns me off.
• I'll never compare the women's bodies with hers.. Indeed, my preference is for Mature porn where the women have bodies much like hers. I'll take watching 40-50 + year olds over watching 20 and 30 year olds any day. To be enjoyable I need to be able to put myself in the scene and I'm not stupid enough to think younger women would have any interest in me.
• While I may propose new ideas - toys, positions, etc.. - that I see in porn, I'll never pressure her. I realize what I'm looking at amounts to fantasy. To make my wife feel bad about not doing what I see would be like her making me feel bad for NOT being able to do what a super-hero does in a Marvel movie.

All considered, it has been a positive in our relationship. Pegging harness, butt plugs, various vibrators, dildos and other toys - all of which she enjoys as much as I - wouldn't be a part of our sex life if not for seeing them used in Porn. And while she doesn't enjoy watching it, she's totally fine if I show her clip that show's a position we might try or how a toy is being used. ..She usually cringes as she watches it but agrees it can be helpful.

You lost me at no choking/gagging videos.

 

[Redmandeadman]

I addition, young men need to be set straight on average dick size - which is something porn has definitely misrepresented.

Most importantly, they need to understand that dick size is not highly correlated w/ female sexual satisfaction. AND that the average penis according to the best available studies is 5.5" long and average girth is 4.59. Kids watch porn and come away believing that the average penis is 6 or 7" long which leaves well over 1/2 of the kids feeling like they don't measure up. And it's worse for young black men who grow up believing their dick should be even larger when actual studies show it's not. BBC is a harmful, racist trope that Porn has been promulgating and monetizing for eons.

As a consequence, you have a generation of young men who feel sexually inadequate even before they start to have actual sex. This probably leads to all sorts of toxic behavioral over-compensation.

All this said, I do admit to loving porn. ..But I approach it the same way I do alcohol and junk food. ..Enjoy it using common sense and discretion.

I remember my first porno, the chick held his cock with two hands one on the base of the shaft and one above that one on his shaft and there was more of it left to pop out of the top of her second hand! I could only do one hand and had a few inches left. I didn’t feel inadequate though. Obviously, these men were hired based on their size. They didn’t represent average. They represented the exception rather than the rule. I think the guy in the video was John Holmes.

 

[Easypeter]

My wife caught me watching porn and she sat down beside me and asked a few questions . She put her hand on my crotch and watched after we fucked she asked why we had never did that before . We watch together and have fun teasing each other while watching . It’s helped our relationship over the years

 

[gametime07]

Not at all. In our prime, we would watch porn and imitate what they were doing. Seems like I could never find that other woman for the lesbian or threesome scene, lol. Sadly, we fast forwarded thru the lesbian scenes. I never put any porn star expectation on her and we enjoyed it very much.