Sex to love: separation anxiety?

[sweettalk4u]

When a good sexual relationship ends, do you want her even more? Even if the ending was planned, does your heart kick in and take the relationship to another level? Could this stem from some weird separation anxiety as a child?

 

[pplwatching]

When a good sexual relationship ends, do you want her even more? Even if the ending was planned, does your heart kick in and take the relationship to another level? Could this stem from some weird separation anxiety as a child?

I don't have any idea what it stems from, but Thomas Bayly famously wrote "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" to express how we humans tend to love people more once we're separated from them. We tend to forget the things that brought the relationship to its inevitable end. I think it may be a bit of panic at first, but over time we certainly tend to romanticize the good memories.

 

[PaxNurgle]

Sometimes the cliche of "Accepting someone for who they are" also means accepting them for who they are not.

The person who I thought at first was the female domme of my dreams, my fantasy girl, turned out to be purely interested only in financial gain- taking advantage of men for their money and milking them as cash cows. That's who she was. She was not, and never was, and never will be, the girl of my dreams.

Though it's tempting to think that she was, now, as I miss her, and miss the sessions in submission to her. I have to keep reminding myself of who she really was, and not merely what I had hoped her to be.

It was, perhaps, my fault for letting myself develop feelings for her, which only made it easier for her to manipulate me into to spending more and more money on her. In the end I was the one who broke it off, but it was difficult to do. I had keep reminding myself of the negatives, and going over the realization that it was never going to work- even if I had stayed with her, SHE likely would have broken it off as soon as I was dead broke from her incessant demand for more and more expensive gifts.