Wife wants a 'boyfriend' to dominate

[SPARTAN047]

Agreed, most tend to forget that a couple looking for a third person means that both members need to mesh with the potential suitor.

The third person needs to understand that he is there to “help” the couple in their intimacy.

Maybe not bring up flogging on the first date! Just a thought.

Only bring up a bare ass red cheeked spanking and a rough fingering on the first date. Should be mundanely safe topics.

 

[eroticspank]

Not sure if this is a thing, but help me out here. Wife and I were pretty vanilla, explored a stag/vixen fantasy through role play, went to some sex clubs, and my wife has opened up and says she wants to get into some bdsm, tie up a guy, flog him, humiliate him, etc. We have a fairly equal relationship in and out of bed, but she likes me to be the lead in things and relatively more dominant overall. I suggested for the purposes of her fantasy, we could switch it up so she could try out being dominant, but she says she doesn't want to dominate me as it would ruin our dynamic and how she sees me. Fair enough, as I am not really into being tied up and whipped... But how do we go about finding the other guy to submit to her and let her experience her fantasy? Is there a name or description for this sort of situation?

Thoughts, tips, discussion, etc, please help us out.

Another thought is if you meet on a website or dating site, why not discuss what you are looking for ahead of time before you meet up? Example: If you put an ad here on Literotica, when you get replies, spend time talking to possible guys, then what you expect and ask them about their interests. Before the couple I mentioned earlier met with me, we had many discussions via email and phone.
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[Alpha_femboy]

Not sure if this is a thing, but help me out here. Wife and I were pretty vanilla, explored a stag/vixen fantasy through role play, went to some sex clubs, and my wife has opened up and says she wants to get into some bdsm, tie up a guy, flog him, humiliate him, etc. We have a fairly equal relationship in and out of bed, but she likes me to be the lead in things and relatively more dominant overall. I suggested for the purposes of her fantasy, we could switch it up so she could try out being dominant, but she says she doesn't want to dominate me as it would ruin our dynamic and how she sees me. Fair enough, as I am not really into being tied up and whipped... But how do we go about finding the other guy to submit to her and let her experience her fantasy? Is there a name or description for this sort of situation?

Thoughts, tips, discussion, etc, please help us out.

Your wife has a very valid point and it's good to know u have clear communication with eachother un like other couples.
Anyways you should find a guy ready to get dommed it'll spark up ur marriage a lot and keep it safe and secured too without any changes in it.
Maybe I can volunteer