Seriously...what are men REALLY looking for?

[Spinoza]

Re: Amen????

Oh Spinoza...your list made me laugh! You gotta be Italian!

Hey watch it laura... I resemble that remark

 

[virginleo20]

ok

Most "normal" guys are just looking for a lady or a guy.. depending on their orientation...
Whom will treat them like a human being.
No rules or games just someone whom will behave like a real
live humanbeing and treat others in the same respect.

But then again what is the likelyhood of anyone ever meeting a person like that.

as to physical atributes... well none of it matters when you are dealing with an intelligent individual... though there are some idiots and mentally ill people whos judgements are overpowered by their fetishes and hangups.

in the wordes of avril... "what more can i say?"

Most people are just looking someone whom will treat them as human and whom does not ask for anything more in return.
Equality in all to say the least.

 

[Lovelynice]

A simple commonly mouthed response, but not necessarily a true one.

How do you define equality is a VERY important question...

A mouse can't do an elephants job, and you can't expect an elephant to live in a mouse-hole. It's an old saying in SE Asia, and it means that men and women are different, and therefore can't be treated the same. They don't even want to be treated the same. What a woman wants from a man is a very different thing from what most men think that she wants...

We're not all the same, so you can't treat humans equally. A lot of people don't even want to be treated equally, they want their differences respected.

 

[Vagrant]

I'd say the most general you could make it while still being true is that men want Companionship.

The problem is, that comes in so many forms. For me, I want someone I can talk to, laugh with, and share my interests. The fact that one of my interests is Videogames doesn't really help, but that's a whole other story. Sex is high up there too though, don't get me wrong.

Other guys want someone they can come home to, someone they know will be there at the end of the day. Something stable, that they can rely on after things go to hell everywhere else.

The list goes on, but those two are big. I think.

 

[lady*laura]

I know it is not a good thing to generalize but when a question is thrown out there you want many different responses. I agree that men and women want different things and yet they also want the same things. If you were to ask me right at this moment what I wanted and I told you it may not even be close to who I actually connect with. The entire chemistry thing is pretty powerful. You may find someone who is almost your exact twin and if the chemistry isn't there.....then it doesn't matter how much you have in common it just isn't going to happen.

 

[Frost_Bite_]

What men want

well i personally look for different traits in a women, therei s no one simple answer as is there none to what women want, every one wants somthen different, its just a matterof luck in finding someone that wants what you want , so in answer to yuor question " what do men want" I answer with a question, what do any of us really want? Not the answer your looking for but what fun would a direct answer be that any of you dont need to think about?, also...of subject um when you submit a story, does it have to be looked over by some one or somethen before its posted, cause its telling me the status of my story is "pending" coments any one?

 

[Frost_Bite_]

Re: What men want

well i personally look for different traits in a women, therei s no one simple answer as is there none to what women want, every one wants somthen different, its just a matterof luck in finding someone that wants what you want , so in answer to yuor question " what do men want" I answer with a question, what do any of us really want? Not the answer your looking for but what fun would a direct answer be that any of you dont need to think about?, also...of subject um when you submit a story, does it have to be looked over by some one or somethen before its posted, cause its telling me the status of my story is "pending" coments any one?

"Define Normal"

 

[James MacGregor]

I am quite puzzled. Just when you think you have them figured out they go and change the rules. What are you men really looking for? brains vs. boobs - passion vs. passive - madonna vs. whore


What is it?

I personally would buy a ticket to any one of those wrasslin' matches

 

[lady*laura]

bump

 

[SuperShyGuy]

What do I want?

What do I want in a woman?

First off she'd have to be one of my best friends, someone I'd never have to keep anything secret from. I want someone who knows me inside and out.

Brains are a big plus for me.

A sense of humor is also a must.

Someone who is emotional. I like a girl who's not afraid to get pissed off.

A hopeless romantic would be nice, you know someone who still believes in "happily ever after"?

A cuddler would also score big points.

I guess looks aren't as important as the confidence in one's looks. I want a woman who is not afraid to know that just because you're not a playboy playmate doesn't mean that you aren't still very sexy.

If I had to choose physicaly (yeah, like we ever get that choice ) I like tall women. Legs from here to the moon would be nice. Brunette. Blue eyes. B or C chest.

Now if anyone can find this girl, let me know okay?

 

[welshman]

I know it is not a good thing to generalize but when a question is thrown out there you want many different responses. I agree that men and women want different things and yet they also want the same things. If you were to ask me right at this moment what I wanted and I told you it may not even be close to who I actually connect with. The entire chemistry thing is pretty powerful. You may find someone who is almost your exact twin and if the chemistry isn't there.....then it doesn't matter how much you have in common it just isn't going to happen.

Maybe your question is wrong. If you are looking for 'him' the one for you, then all you can do is be yourself, be yourself to the utmost degree so if 'he' sees you and likes you then he'll probably let you know For example, if you are a sensual woman then you should dress so that is clear. Be yourself so 'he' can see that, that's all you can do. Don't try to be anything else, not IRL anyway.

 

[lady*laura]

Maybe your question is wrong. If you are looking for 'him' the one for you, then all you can do is be yourself, be yourself to the utmost degree so if 'he' sees you and likes you then he'll probably let you know For example, if you are a sensual woman then you should dress so that is clear. Be yourself so 'he' can see that, that's all you can do. Don't try to be anything else, not IRL anyway.

In real life I am about as ME as I can possibly be....shrugs....I don't know how to be anyone else....

How do you think a sensual woman would dress?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I don't know what men want...I know what I want...and getting it is almost impossible.

 

[lady*laura]

I don't know what men want...I know what I want...and getting it is almost impossible.

Oh Johnny...I do too......

 

[welshman]

In real life I am about as ME as I can possibly be....shrugs....I don't know how to be anyone else....

How do you think a sensual woman would dress?

sensually?

 

[lady*laura]

Oh my.....

sensually?

You did put a smile on my face! I walked right into that one didn't I!
Laura

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Well, in MY opinion....

In real life I am about as ME as I can possibly be....shrugs....I don't know how to be anyone else....

How do you think a sensual woman would dress?

I think a woman dresses most sensually when she is wearing my tshirt......as a matter of fact, i think I have an extra one if you need it... ;-)

 

[RoughPlay]

I am quite puzzled. Just when you think you have them figured out they go and change the rules. What are you men really looking for? brains vs. boobs - passion vs. passive - madonna vs. whore


What is it?

For a short term relationship boobs, passion and whore will do nicely.

For a long term relationship (particularly marriage) brains, a mixture of
passion/passive and being a private whore (she must never of been a public
whore) appeals greatly.

 

[Another Shy One]

I am quite puzzled. Just when you think you have them figured out they go and change the rules. What are you men really looking for? brains vs. boobs - passion vs. passive - madonna vs. whore


What is it?

love, affection, understanding

 

[Another Shy One]

I am quite puzzled. Just when you think you have them figured out they go and change the rules. What are you men really looking for? brains vs. boobs - passion vs. passive - madonna vs. whore


What is it?

P.S. I would suggest you to keep a certain level of objectivity and skepticism when you read the replies to your answer. The reason is simple: you're posting on a sex forums where there are many men (and women) who like sex. Meaning, the replies that you will get here do not reflect reality as it is because you're addressing yourself to a certain portion or group of the population. For example, if you asked the same question in a more "conservative" web site/forum (ex. a religious one), you would get totally different answers.

This doesn't mean that the answers that you will read here are false or useless, no. However, if you want to get a good view of what you're looking for, try to ask the same question in different fields and to different groups. That way you will see a broader reality.