Seriously...what are men REALLY looking for?

[lnxguru]

Well, I thought...

Well, I thought I found the right woman, and occasionally still do, too bad she can't commit or make up her mind. Its not about looks, its about that feeling you get when you wrap your arms around her for the first time and give her a hug, and the both of you know that this person is special. I've never particularly kept myself to one type of girl. Its all about attraction. Well, attraction, and being smart doesn't hurt. Dumb is a big turn off.

 

[lady*laura]

I would think.....

...in order for one to find the ONE person that was right for you....you'd have to date alot of different type women to realize which one was right. Sometimes it takes a long time. Attraction and chemistry. That pheromone thing is really tricky!

 

[RomanHans]

Re: Re: oh Johnny.....

maybe stick a finger in his butt?

ROTFLMAO. Classic!

Roman

 

[lady*laura]

....yeah...he makes me laugh alot!

 

[RomanHans]

Guess I should try to contribute something substantive instead of just heckling from the back benches...

There's a difference between what men are REALLY looking for, and what they look for because (a) they don't know any better, or (b) they don't think about looking for something, because they're so self-centered that they figure women should just KNOW what they want. I imagine that the same is true for women.

So, given the question of what men REALLY want, I'd say that they want a true partner--someone who is self-confident enough to pull their own weight in a relationship, and also to support the man (when justified) without fearing that it makes them less powerful. As for why men may run away from women with that kind of self-confidence--it may be because the men lack the same kind of self-confidence, and they're afraid that it shows.

Jeez, that totally did not make sense to me, but it's a pretty accurate description of my opinion, so there.

Roman

 

[lady*laura]

What you just said made perfect sense to me. Oh my goodness....what does that SAY about me? Having been in the married treches before and escaping with my sanity intact I can say that being with some who wants a partner and not a drudge nor a yes woman is very important.

Amazing to think one can become less confidant because the person they are with is so insecure and undermines your self confidence. (how is that for confusing?)

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I am quite puzzled. Just when you think you have them figured out they go and change the rules. What are you men really looking for? brains vs. boobs - passion vs. passive - madonna vs. whore


What is it?

I can't speak for anyone but myself...but here is what I am looking for....

I want a woman that is smart, happy, satisfied with herself as a person, has a positive outllok on life, refuses to sarcastically ridicule people in an attempt to make themselves look better, enjoys staying at home, is warm and affectionate and has a steady demeanor.

I want my dream woman to enjoy our similarities and love our differences....a woman that enjoys her nights out with friends and with me....and enjoys my time away with friends.....she would like traveling with me on short trips, and enjoy the planning and researching of a trip almost as much as the trip itself....

I would like a woman that isn't "artificially helpless" at doing things she is capable of doing....and isn't afraid to get in my face when I become my usual lazy-ass self. I want a woman that I look up to and respect and that the thought of letting her down would crush me.....

Her abilities in the kitchen or housecleaning are unimportant....as is her sexual abilities...however, I would prefer a woman that LOVES the challenge of trying to get better and enjoys learning what she doesn't know already.....effort and enthusiasm win out over technique for me anytime.

Naturally, since this dream woman surely has high standards for herself when it comes to selecting a man.....for ME to have a shot with her she must also have relatively poor eyesight......

 

[lady*laura]

......smiling here too!

at first I read your post and thought...well..he doesn't want much does he? and then I got to the end and I had to laugh. I think it is good for one to really think about what one is looking for in a partner. I have filled out too many and read too many personal ads that sound so..so...pre-packaged? is that the word I am looking for? anyway....the slicker you can sell yourself the better your chances are? I dunno...I am just bumbling along I guess...

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Re: ......smiling here too!

at first I read your post and thought...well..he doesn't want much does he? and then I got to the end and I had to laugh. I think it is good for one to really think about what one is looking for in a partner. I have filled out too many and read too many personal ads that sound so..so...pre-packaged? is that the word I am looking for? anyway....the slicker you can sell yourself the better your chances are? I dunno...I am just bumbling along I guess...

Actually, I think I will find that woman...she will have all those traits I mentioned...just some will be more "pronounced" than others.....and her eyesight will be just fine....perhaps her morals and standards will be a tad lower than she would hope...lol....

 

[Reverie]

I have no idea what men are looking for, but judging from my lack of a love life I'd assume they aren't looking for me.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I have no idea what men are looking for, but judging from my lack of a love life I'd assume they aren't looking for me.

Try buying a man a beer at a bar...and hold it at chest level...I'm sure he'll be yours.

 

[trollbone]

i think men really looking something delight and have some brains?

helllo there all readers of the literotica sorry if im not going to read some messages here cause im to busy cause im a student of a unversity in philippines. and now men really looking some brains what if the men sleep in a girl without using his brains is that so pathetic im mostly men looking for boobs and brains and of course famous? and hot! and y men always drink some ectasy to have sex are they really good and it is like the song im on a high maybe.....? but mostly of men looking for brains not boobs

 

[lady*laura]

I agree with you Reverie

.....looking at my love life I am thinking men don't want me either.

What is up with that?

 

[RomanHans]

What you just said made perfect sense to me. Oh my goodness....what does that SAY about me? Having been in the married treches before and escaping with my sanity intact I can say that being with some who wants a partner and not a drudge nor a yes woman is very important.

Amazing to think one can become less confidant because the person they are with is so insecure and undermines your self confidence. (how is that for confusing?)

One of my wife's more wise observations is that you know that you belong with someone when you find that they make you a better person by being with them...the converse is also true.

And don't look at your love life, or lack thereof, as any indication of your own attractiveness....if you change yourself to be something that you think men ARE 'really looking for,' is the man who would choose you after that really worth it?

Roman

 

[Spenser41]

Can I tell you all what I have noticed? I am so thankful to this site because it has been helpful to hear what women really think and want. I was married to someone who was not this open and it was very frustrating and one of the reasons the marriage ended. To be honest, I was beginning to think alot of women were like her. But what I have found here are women of all shapes and sizes and every one of you is very very sexy and erotic. It is not about the body, as much as it is the openness and attitude. Since I have been on this site, I have found out you all love sex but what you love the most is pleasing your partner. And if we guys would do what the women do and that is to focus on their needs as they focus on ours there would be a lot more solid relationships. It is all about putting the other person first and not all about us. I think to be honest the thing that is the sexiest thing I have read on here is how the women want to please their man, the enjoyment they get from giving him pleasure and what that does for me, is turn me on big time and I want to give that back to her and then even more. So you ask us what do real men really want? A partner that loves us and someone who takes pleasure in giving to us. From sex to snuggles to sharing and talking to just taking a walk together and just being close. I could care less if she is a great cook or excellent housekeeper. What I want is a partner that she and I try to out do meeting each others needs. That is what I think keeps a relationship alive. Oh and Ladies, we men are a little slow in getting the message. We are also not mind readers... so PLEASE tell us what you want, how you want it and what can we do to rock your world.
Thanks for the chance to share this.

 

[cycleman]

Maybe your looking in all the wrong places Laura?????

 

[Guest]

what a guy wants

 

[lady*laura]

cycleman....

....where do you propose I should look?

 

[cycleman]

Maybe the toughest part of all is where to look to find a partner. Looks like woodcarver is the luckiest man on earth. Maybe that should be your next thread. Where to find the person you've been waiting for. You could always try the internet........personals.......message boards.....chat rooms

 

[lady*laura]

Maybe the toughest part of all is where to look to find a partner. Looks like woodcarver is the luckiest man on earth. Maybe that should be your next thread. Where to find the person you've been waiting for. You could always try the internet........personals.......message boards.....chat rooms

and here I thought you were going to say that I had found you.......sigh......

.....................little chuckle....

 

[cycleman]

Hey I thought I found you Laura.......oh oh our first argument is that a bad sign?? What was the question again?? My mind is wandering again??

 

[Spinoza]

woodcarver is right

Hey I think woodcarver might be on to something here. Now where do I find a woman who is into

playing sports competitively
watching football on a wide screen TV
or any sports for that matter
playing XBOX/ PS2
paintball
watching porn
going to strip joints
drinking games
any type of games for that matter
betting
watching action movies
talking about politics,philosophy,religion and be able to bullshit about it and not take it to seriously
and having sex atleast twice a day because it isn't just a desire but a must have to think straight
(yes I could have made this list longer)

Can I get Amen for that



Spin

 

[lady*laura]

Amen????

Oh Spinoza...your list made me laugh! You gotta be Italian!

 

[Eros731]

My current g/f embodies most of what I look for. She's pretty, fun, smart, and incredible in bed. To be honest, the only thing I'd change about her is her breasts. Mentaly she's EXACTLY what I'm looking for. Smart, funny, the same sick, twisted sense of humor. But she has A-Cup breasts, the only thing I'd change is her breasts, a B or C cup would fit her build PERFECT. She's self contious about her breasts anyway...if they were a cup size bigger she'd be happier about them. I'm not saying I don't like what she has, but she's so self-contious about them I just wish they were a bit bigger so she wouldn't cover them up all the time when she's nude.

 

[ozraven]

Re: At This Rate...

I'll never please a man!

LMAO, now you get a glimpse of how men feel?