Saying Goodbye...

[calypso_21]

I was thinking on this knowing that right about now someone is not wanting to say these words. I'm right here, sweets!

I'm of the keep things positive and open philosophy...saying goodbye always seems so final and often negative...I got this view point ages ago after reading:

"Goodbye to me means this...a farewell. A very simple meaning...but I say this for a reason. I never say goodbye to those I've told this to, nor will I ever say it after I write this. To me, goodbye is like saying farewell forever. I look at it like this. Never say goodbye, because goodbye is forever."


How do you feel about saying goodbye?

Is there another closing phrase you prefer to use? Something that leaves a hint that you will return and pick up where you left off?

 

[Agent99]

"Parting is such sweet sorrow...

Let's do it again tomorrow!"




I really don't put too much emphasis on the expression. Of course, it depends on the circumstances. If someone is leaving town or just your orbit, goodbye is a nice way to end things and to provide the proverbial 'closure'.

Perhaps that is what colors your preference - the permanence of the end of the relationship. The sense of loss. By changing your lexicon, you are tricking yourself into delaying the inevitable. But, if it works for you, who cares?

I'd rather hear someone say goodbye than nothing at all.

 

[MissTaken]

I can remember the last time I saw my aunt. I knew it would be the last time we would be together.

No, I didn't say "Good bye." I still said, "See ya later, love you."

I often say "Take care" or "See ya later."

I just don't like the finality of "Good bye."

 

[Lasz]

Caly

You always make me want to say "Hello".

 

[calypso_21]

"Parting is such sweet sorrow...

Let's do it again tomorrow!"



On the phone I say "Talk to you later"
In person I say "I'll see you"

I really don't put too much emphasis on the expression. Of course, it depends on the circumstances. If someone is leaving town or just your orbit, goodbye is a nice way to end things and to provide the proverbial 'closure'.

Perhaps that is what colors your preference - the permanence of the relationship. The sense of loss. By changing your lexicon, you are tricking yourself into delaying the inevitable. If it works for you, who cares?

I'd rather hear someone say goodbye than nothing at all.

I agree with what you are saying. I'm not looking in the sense of closure...really if that is the case then nothing else is really more appropriate than saying goodbye.

BTW...I'm not saying goodbye and neither is the party I'm refering to, in the sense that it is over...they are merely parting for the moment...so goodbye to me just seems wrong. I tend to romanticize things though so to imagine them saying "Till we meet again, my love" is probably more along the lines of what I would do.

I suppose having someone say something rather than nothing is indeed a positive.

 

[kidthor]

"Sweet dreams, Beautiful. Come back to me."

 

[calypso_21]

"Sweet dreams, Beautiful. Come back to me."

Now this is romantic!

 

[Summery]

A real wise woman once told me, soon. The word soon stuck with me, and was much more preferred, than the word goodbye.

 

[Guest]

A real wise woman once told me, soon. The word soon stuck with me, and was much more preferred, than the word goodbye.

I wanna meet you and Caly. Soon. And then say Good Morning.

 

[kidthor]

Now this is romantic!

Thanks..she likes it too.

 

[Secret Pleasure]

You're right the word "goodbye" does tend to have a sense of finality to it.

I tend to end my notes or letters with love ya, hugs or something of that nature if it's in writing. If it's in person or on the phone love ya or speak to you soon depending on who it is.

Though, if it's a definate end to the relationship and I don't intend to speak to them again... Goodbye it is.

 

[calypso_21]

I can remember the last time I saw my aunt. I knew it would be the last time we would be together.

No, I didn't say "Good bye." I still said, "See ya later, love you."

I often say "Take care" or "See ya later."

I just don't like the finality of "Good bye."

Hey there MissT!!

You made my point...Even though it was your last time together the words you stated were true from your heart. I like that. I often think goodbye is a copout of sorts...too easily stated rather than to state what one is truly feeling in that moment. Sometimes it would be nice to know what is giong on behind the scenes...maybe it will make the parting ever so sweeter (depending on who you are parting with).

 

[calypso_21]

A real wise woman once told me, soon. The word soon stuck with me, and was much more preferred, than the word goodbye.

~SooN~





Did you sleep well darlin'?

 

[calypso_21]

Though, if it's a definate end to the relationship and I don't intend to speak to them again... Goodbye it is.

I dunno...depending on the definitiveness of the ending...I may use the words "Kiss my ass."

 

[Secret Pleasure]

I dunno...depending on the definitiveness of the ending...I may use the words "Kiss my ass."

LMAO... so very true!

 

[MissTaken]

Well, there are times when I wish it were "Good bye!" rather than "See you soon"

My ex?

Argh!

 

[Guest]

Good-bye, I agree, seems sorta 'final', but I don't agree, Caly, that it is 'negative'. Listen to it, by definition ... good . . . bye. I use it that way and mean it. So, maybe it's consistency of use by the individual, no?

In another age (and another time), farewell was good (a contraction and a wish of fare thee well (and may still is in certain parts of the country or world).

Now, that said, it certainly depends on the tone of voice (if you can hear it and it's not written down).

Contrasting that with truly 'gettouttamyface' phrases, thinking about selections from our vast lexicon, like: So long, sucker!, Fuck Off!, Get Lost!, or, Nevercallmeagainyoufuckingasshole! would imply a more ... ummm ... assertive and permanent separation, don't you think?

There seems to be many, many more ways to say things to put distance between two people, but the cherished few phrases we all know that have the intended meanings are still good, I believe.

How about, "Until we meet/talk/see each other again?". It's a mouthful (LOL), but may be a more optimistic alternative to Good-bye?

 

[calypso_21]

Well, there are times when I wish it were "Good bye!" rather than "See you soon"

My ex?

Argh!

Does that fit into the "don't let the door hit you where the good Lawd split ya!" category?

 

[Guest]

I dunno...depending on the definitiveness of the ending...I may use the words "Kiss my ass."

_____

Hmmm... that phrase coupled with your current AV has a very SPECIFIC connotation.


Be careful ... you may just well get what you asked for!

 

[Summery]

~SooN~





Did you sleep well darlin'?

We need a phone call! ~SooN~ Very....~SooN~

 

[calypso_21]

Good-bye, I agree, seems sorta 'final', but I don't agree, Caly, that it is 'negative'. Listen to it, by definition ... good . . . bye. I use it that way and mean it. So, maybe it's consistency of use by the individual, no?

There seems to be many, many more ways to say things to put distance between two people, but the cherished few phrases we all know that have the intended meanings are still good, I believe.

How about, "Until we meet/talk/see each other again?". It's a mouthful (LOL), but may be a more optimistic alternative to Good-bye?

LoL...I agree that with the word good one would think it is inherent in the closing however it is as you stated...the intended meaning is important to know.

I do happen to prefer my own closing...and my friends get that. I've used the " 'Til we meet again" often. The one I never want to say goodbye to gets something else entirely...more like a continual hello!

 

[calypso_21]

We need a phone call! ~SooN~ Very....~SooN~

Um, you could say that again! SOON!!!


And Manx, while this is true...I have already put that request in to the one I wanted to have take it that way! And a gal can only hope to have ALL her wishes come true!

 

[calypso_21]

Caly

You always make me want to say "Hello".

Hi there Laz!

 

[Guest]

LoL...I agree that with the word good one would think it is inherent in the closing however it is as you stated...the intended meaning is important to know.

I do happen to prefer my own closing...and my friends get that. I've used the " 'Til we meet again" often. The one I never want to say goodbye to gets something else entirely...more like a continual hello!

_____

I really think everyone has their own 'signature' line when closing off. It is an extension of your personality. Especially when you use it consistently and regularly.

You are what you say you are!

 

[calypso_21]

You are what you say you are!

Oh now that is an ENTIRELY different subject! You are what you say you are? Really? I think you are more what your actions are rather than what you speak though your words are an action of sorts, they are conveying thoughts which could be considered a passive subtle action of the mind. But people can say anything and often do...the proof is in the pudding!

Now I have the thought that you are what you eat in my head.