~ Relationship Rules ~

[Mia62]

I suppose there are also those relationships that are just for fun in the short term, or those that "aren't real" just because they are cyber-relationships (depends on your definition of "real"). Perhaps the "rules" are different for those?

Cheyenne wrote the above post in a different thread (yes, I got her permission to move it ) and I found it an interesting concept to explore.

There are so many types of relationships that involve sex...long-term...exclusive...open...cyber...that I wondered how people come to terms with the "rules" set in their own relationships.

Do people base their rules upon the type of relationship or according to societal acceptance or religion or politics? Do the rules change depending upon the type of relationship embarked upon even tho the people involved may be the same? Do people carry the same rules from relationship to relationship - ie second marriages?

Please feel free to expand or expound on any of the above questions or ask your own.

 

[Guest]

I don't abide by "rules".

 

[Cheyenne]

I think the whole post is important though, to put the comment in context. I was originally questionning the honesty in relationships where people hide information from their partners.

There is definitely nothing wrong with not being "hip!"

In the last two years, I have toyed with all varieties of templates for relationships and find myself back where I started.

One man.
One woman ~with children

And a lot of commitment.

I agree, except for that "with children" part.

I think both of us are talking about serious, long term relationships. I suppose there are also those relationships that are just for fun in the short term, or those that "aren't real" just because they are cyber-relationships (depends on your definition of "real"). Perhaps the "rules" are different for those?

Orig thread:

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&postid=3631157#post3631157

 

[Mia62]

I don't abide by "rules".

But isn't that a rule in itself?

 

[Guest]

There is only one rule: It's a fantasy unless the puppett master tells me other wise.

 

[Mia62]

I think the whole post is important though, to put the comment in context. I was originally questionning the honesty in relationships where people hide information from their partners.

Thanks. I was just going back to get the rest of it...cause that concept is part of a set of relationship rules.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

One rule...

I believe that the only rule I have when it comes to relationship, regardless what kind of relationship it is , I just have that one rule that simply says :

Don't lie


That is the only rule I think I have when it comes to my relationships. There are no real rules in my relationship except the one I just mentioned, I just live in the moment & go with the flow when it comes to my relationships.

 

[Guest]

But isn't that a rule in itself?

What are you, Dillinger now?

 

[Mia62]

What are you, Dillinger now?

I only swim with the dolphins...I don't own one AND I love to eat carbs.

 

[Guest]

AND I love to eat carbs.

And dolphins?

 

[Mia62]

And dolphins?

Depends upon how they are served.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: One rule...

I believe that the only rule I have when it comes to relationship, regardless what kind of relationship it is , I just have that one rule that simply says :

Don't lie

That was my exact point in the other thread. Honesty on the part of both people in the relationship is critical. I only wondered if some people use that rule for their "real" long term relationships and not for other relationships that they see as less "real" for some reason.

 

[Mia62]

Re: One rule...

I believe that the only rule I have when it comes to relationship, regardless what kind of relationship it is , I just have that one rule that simply says :

Don't lie

This rule is one that I have learnt hard and fast based upon my past behaviour. I caused a lot of grief in my marriage due to lying and hiding things.

Any new relationship that I ever get involved in will have this rule as the primary one.

Nothing good ever comes of dishonesty. It may have taken me 40 long years to learn this concept...but, by god, at least I learnt it.

 

[Guest]

Re: One rule...

I believe that the only rule I have when it comes to relationship, regardless what kind of relationship it is , I just have that one rule that simply says :

Don't lie


That is the only rule I think I have when it comes to my relationships. There are no real rules in my relationship except the one I just mentioned, I just live in the moment & go with the flow when it comes to my relationships.

That was funny.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: One rule...

This rule is one that I have learnt hard and fast based upon my past behaviour. I caused a lot of grief in my marriage due to lying and hiding things.

Any new relationship that I ever get involved in will have this rule as the primary one.

Nothing good ever comes of dishonesty. It may have taken me 40 long years to learn this concept...but, by god, at least I learnt it.

Very cool. If you start off 2003 with this rule, it has to be a better year for you, Mia.

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: Re: One rule...

Very cool. If you start off 2003 with this rule, it has to be a better year for you, Mia.

Thanks, Chey. It is actually the way that I finished off last year as well. I guess it never is too late to teach an old broad new tricks, eh?

 

[Temptress_1960]

I think the rules are different for each relationship. The one constant rule, as has been said in this thread already, is honesty.

Apart from that, the rules are whatever the people involved agree upon.

I like to know the rules upfront, so that both parties have the same expectations.

I don't mean that online/cyber relationships are less real - I think that in their venue, they are very real indeed.

There are real people with feelings in front of the computer monitors, and that's important to remember.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Honesty, yes. I also think disclosure is important. Telling your partner how you feel and how things make you feel is also very important in a long term relationship. The partners also needs to listen and be sensitive to those things that hurt.

I think it is the little resentments that build until there is no hope of salvage.

 

[The Heretic]

Please feel free to expand or expound on any of the above questions or ask your own.

I have a couple of rules for any kind of relationship whether it is an intimate relationship, "just friends" relationship or even a business relationship:

1) Communicate, communicate, communicate.

2) Treat the other person(s) in the relationship the way you wish to be treated yourself.

Almost all other rules can be derived from those two.

 

[morninggirl5]

Honesty is the only rule left for me in relationships. I've broken all the others that i had.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hmmm...an important question would be "How do you define a relationship?" I personally tend to treat people the same whether it is long/short term, real or cyber. I'm always honest, I try to communicate my feelings, and I do everything I can to maximize teh good feelings and minimize the bad ones. beyond that, relationships are too complex to have set rules.

 

[bad kitty]

Don't expect them to care as much about you as you do about them. Ya don't get hurt that way.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Don't expect them to care as much about you as you do about them. Ya don't get hurt that way.

Blah...I can have low expectations, but unfortunately, I can't control how much I'm going to feel for someone. What's life without risk?

 

[Guest]

Sip King Louie and not give a fuck.

 

[Drama Queen]