~ Relationship Rules ~

[ShamelessFlirt]

Re: Re: Re: Re: One rule...

Thanks, Chey. It is actually the way that I finished off last year as well. I guess it never is too late to teach an old broad new tricks, eh?

Now you just have to find an old broad ...lol

We keep telling you, "YOU'RE NOT OLD!!"

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: One rule...

Now you just have to find an old broad ...lol

We keep telling you, "YOU'RE NOT OLD!!"

LOL...thanks. Happy New Year!

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: One rule...

LOL...thanks. Happy New Year!

Back at ya!

 

[Mia62]

For the late crowd...cause I think Chey made some valid points.

 

[Gil_Favor]

how can there be rules in a cyber relationship? quess i just dont get the cyber thing. as for real life the rules in a committed relationship should be fairly simple. trust and honesty.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

RULES?

WE DON' NEED NO STEEKIN' RULES..............

 

[Cheyenne]

how can there be rules in a cyber relationship? quess i just dont get the cyber thing. as for real life the rules in a committed relationship should be fairly simple. trust and honesty.

So online relationships don't need the trust and honesty, too? Why not?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

how can there be rules in a cyber relationship? quess i just dont get the cyber thing. as for real life the rules in a committed relationship should be fairly simple. trust and honesty.

the problem with that is, some people get very attached to people online. Just because you don't 'get' it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I'm seen people crushed by the end of an online relationship, and I'm one of the people who has had his feelings hurt in a 'cyber' situation.

 

[cybergirly]

how can there be rules in a cyber relationship? quess i just dont get the cyber thing. as for real life the rules in a committed relationship should be fairly simple. trust and honesty.

A cyber relationship can be just as real as a r/l for some people. In an online relationship, rather it be just friendship or something more the simple "rules" or a relationship are even more important. Communication is huge. You can't see that persons face or know how they are feeling by thier body language, so both parties have to be willing to communicate how they are feeling through words. The same applies to honesty, just because that person isin't sitting next to you doesn't mean they won't be hurt by lies you tell them. And you can't think for a moment that they won't find out. Eventually the lying party is going to slip.

 

[erosman]

I'm not sure that I am smart enough to have a rule that only applies to relationships. For me, it's too difficult to pause and decide whether to reveal the truth or some form of it. The question for me though, is how transparent I should make myself. Here at Lit. and in RL, you can innocently reveal the real inner person, and have it come back to bite you in the ass.

I sometimes wonder if each relationship - whether it's your lover or the gas station attendant - doesn't have an honesty equilibrium. Some people really don't want to know the bare facts, while others want to distinguish between the shades of grey. What is unimportant to one person, becomes a neurosis for the next. In the end, I think you have to be yourself.

Remember, most liars don't consider themselves liars. Most people believe they are honest...even with themselves.

 

[Debbie]

bigrednz and I don't have 'rules' per say.

We do respect each other though and we have talked about what we feel is acceptable and unacceptable in r/l and on lit.

I respect bigrednz and our relationship, I respect myself.

And conduct myself on lit as I do in r/l.
Except I am a little more flirty here.

 

[RegisteredTroll]

1) Don't be an adulterous whore/whoremaster

2) Don't lie

3) Don't lie

4) Don't be an adulterous whore

Pretty simple rules to follow, but can Mia do it? Time will tell.

 

[sterlingclay]

1) Don't be an adulterous whore/whoremaster

2) Don't lie

3) Don't lie

4) Don't be an adulterous whore

Pretty simple rules to follow, but can Mia do it? Time will tell.

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[TWB]

 

[TWB]

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[Cheyenne]

1) Don't be an adulterous whore/whoremaster

2) Don't lie

3) Don't lie

4) Don't be an adulterous whore

Pretty simple rules to follow, but can Mia do it? Time will tell.

Just FYI, MIA wasn't the focus of the original thread discussion. Lance was. Then it morphed into a general discussion of relationships.

 

[plasticman33]

Re: One rule...

I believe that the only rule I have when it comes to relationship, regardless what kind of relationship it is , I just have that one rule that simply says :

Don't lie


That is the only rule I think I have when it comes to my relationships. There are no real rules in my relationship except the one I just mentioned, I just live in the moment & go with the flow when it comes to my relationships.

I know. I made that mistake and it was fatal.

 

[Lost Cause]

Rules are good......

For those who can't think for themselves. I've had relationships where all the females wanted was a good poke, stroke, and choke, nothing else. I treat each one with a custom approach to the character, and needs of the other, as well as my own. There are hardwired rules that I've had implanted by observing my parent's, and picking what I liked about their relationship. (They've been at it 60 years) I go into a relationship with my "cup empty," and will abide by the mutual guidlines time establishes in it. It's all good!

 

[weed]

This is a sticky one for me lately.

"Lies come back to bite you in the ass" a friend recently commented about her own situation.

This is easily applied to everyone, no doubt, including myself.

I've been developing some new rules for myself of late. Honesty is included. Honesty to myself as well as others.

Very important also is keeping a bit of myself that is just for me. Something I'm feeling a strong need for these days.

I think you can be too honest at times. Or perhaps that too much honesty is demanded and the room for private thoughts and emotions invaded.


That leads me to acceptance. With all that honesty there must be acceptance.


For some that might be that there is a part of the person that is not involved in that relationship. That some space is needed at times.



But aren't these all things we can apply to all aspects of our lives?

 

[Gil_Favor]

So online relationships don't need the trust and honesty, too? Why not?

i do not understand emotional/romantic relationships between individuals who have never met or will never meet in real life. i can understand a basic friendship, and within that friendship there must be honesty and trust.

 

[perks]

each person is different, therefor each relationship would be different.

There are different "rules"<for lack of a better term> for everyone.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Honesty has to be a rule in ALL relationships, even if it is only an aquaintance from work, or someone you know online. Period. Lying is bad for you.

 

[patient1]

Re: Rules are good......

For those who can't think for themselves. I've had relationships where all the females wanted was a good poke, stroke, and choke, nothing else. I treat each one with a custom approach to the character, and needs of the other, as well as my own. There are hardwired rules that I've had implanted by observing my parent's, and picking what I liked about their relationship. (They've been at it 60 years) I go into a relationship with my "cup empty," and will abide by the mutual guidlines time establishes in it. It's all good!

Regardless of the relationship, there still needs to be honesty about what each wants from it, right?

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Re: Rules are good......

Regardless of the relationship, there still needs to be honesty about what each wants from it, right?

Exactly the point of the original discussion, I think. The same honesty is required whether you are in a relationship online or in real life, I think. If you wouldn't two time someone in real life, why would it be okay to do in an online/phone relationship? I thought honesty would be a basic rule for most people for ANY relationship, but maybe that is just wishful thinking.

What about those of you that said there are no rules or the rules change depending on the person? Do you at least agree that honesty is the base to start from, even if you don't call it a "rule?"

Lost Cause? Perky? Storm?

 

[Temptress_1960]

Re: Re: Re: Rules are good......

What about those of you that said there are no rules or the rules change depending on the person? Do you at least agree that honesty is the base to start from, even if you don't call it a "rule?"

Honesty is definitely the base.

I think the rules change depending on the person because everyone has different limits. What is ok with one person is not necessarily ok with another person. One lover may be very comfortable with flirtatious behavior, at a party, for instance - yet that same behavior might cause intense jealousy and anger from a different lover.

Every relationship is different, and I think it's important in each relationship that both parties know what is acceptable and what is not acceptable.