Questions about sex drive for ladies in menopause/and or their partners

[Scarlett_69]

Hello everyone......Just curious about this, because I am in very early menopause (mood swings and irregular cycles).

I do not find that my sex drive has been diminished at all due to my hormonal changes, in fact it is as strong as it's ever been.

But, I am wondering about others:

Ladies, if you are going through menopause, how has it affected your sex drive?
Men, if you are in a relationship with a menopausal woman, has it affected your sex life at all?

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Hello everyone......Just curious about this, because I am in very early menopause (mood swings and irregular cycles).

I do not find that my sex drive has been diminished at all due to my hormonal changes, in fact it is as strong as it's ever been.

But, I am wondering about others:

Ladies, if you are going through menopause, how has it affected your sex drive?
Men, if you are in a relationship with a menopausal woman, has it affected your sex life at all?

Yes. It has affected our sex life. My wife is currently experiencing menopause, and her sex drive is almost non-existent. As a result, sex is most often a solo activity for me.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Hmm. I am five years past menopause and have no hormone replacement therapy -- yet. But I had better take steps soon, get that going.

I can kind of seperate my sexuality into parts, and of those;
My desire for orgasms has not dropped. But my ability to have them has. And that doesn't seem to bother me as much as it would have six years ago.

My desire to fuck other women has not dropped. I see someone that attracts me and it's porn film in my head time. But I am not as concerned with getting fucked as i used to be. Sometimes I just don't want anything in my vag. Its like I get off vicariously more often these days.

Does any of that make sense?

 

[Scarlett_69]

Yes. It has affected our sex life. My wife is currently experiencing menopause, and her sex drive is almost non-existent. As a result, sex is most often a solo activity for me.

Hmmm...So sorry to hear that, hun.....Is she on any hormone therapy yet?
I have heard it helps with diminished desire.

 

[Scarlett_69]

Hmm. I am five years past menopause and have no hormone replacement therapy -- yet. But I had better take steps soon, get that going.

I can kind of seperate my sexuality into parts, and of those;
My desire for orgasms has not dropped. But my ability to have them has. And that doesn't seem to bother me as much as it would have six years ago.

My desire to fuck other women has not dropped. I see someone that attracts me and it's porn film in my head time. But I am not as concerned with getting fucked as i used to be. Sometimes I just don't want anything in my vag. Its like I get off vicariously more often these days.

Does any of that make sense?

I think I get what you are trying to say....Now your sexual desire is more centered in your brain than in your body.....Does that sound right?

 

[peachesmelba]

I am many years past surgically induced menopause and not on HRT - I know this doesn't hold true for everyone but I still am just as interested (just as intensely and as often) - the only problem that I have is occasional dryness but not even much problem with that. The SO makes certain that foreplay is long enough (and of a type guaranteed) to assure that it won't usually be a problem - a bonus both of us enjoy. I hate to generalize here but I've often thought that the women I know who seemed most ready to 'give it all up' were those who were looking for some kind of excuse - and that could be because of deeply personal reasons of their own or because they simply have a clod for a lover who only really wants a wet willing hole for his own pleasure

 

[Scarlett_69]

Thanks so much for your input, peaches, very interesting...!!

 

[ejredlady]

going through menopause was HOT! I used an herbal supplement called Remifimen. Remember it is herbal and not instant. Takes about 2 to 3 weeks to really get in your system and produce results. 3 years ago I started receiving biodentical hormone replacement therapy. This is compounded naturally for each individual based on your blood work/hormone levels. I have also used Yam cream.
My sex drive never diminished. I did take a little extra foreplay to become nice and wet. Since the hormone implants moisture is never a problem! The desire is as high as ever, which really creates a problem since I have been without a partner for a year. My concentration and focus are back to pre menopause levels. Over all, I think being post menopausal is the hottest time of my life!!! No fears of pregnancy. Most inhibitions have been banished and I am looking forward to exploring new frontiers with the right and perfect partner.
SottoPelle trained physicians can assist you. www.sottopellelife.com.
*** I am not a physician and am not suggesting any of these options would be right for you. They were right for me and my life is so much calmer because of the implants.

 

[Hedo_Harry]

I lived through the menopause of two different GFs. One had her sex drive reduced to zero. She was so hot all the time she didn't want to be touched. The other had her sex drive ramped up and just couldn't get enough. Obviously, I preferred the latter effect. In any case, both were temporary.

 

[C2W]

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when my wife first started going through the change her sex drive nearly drove me out the house...don't get me wrong I am up for a challenge but hey I ain't as young as I used to be. But then just as quick as she started, her voraciousness dropped out. Now I'm like a man wandering in the desert looking for water.
But thats her, I hope such things never happen to you.

 

[daddys_girl3]

Starting to go through menopause now...my sex drive hasn't changed..I want sex more than ever..I enjoy finding new things that are erotic and pleasing my husband..but I read and hear all kinds of horror stories..I never want to change...makes me sad!!!

 

[Sirlickalot77]

Hello everyone......Just curious about this, because I am in very early menopause (mood swings and irregular cycles).

I do not find that my sex drive has been diminished at all due to my hormonal changes, in fact it is as strong as it's ever been.

But, I am wondering about others:

Ladies, if you are going through menopause, how has it affected your sex drive?
Men, if you are in a relationship with a menopausal woman, has it affected your sex life at all?

I'm an older male 59 met a female same age OMG what a kinky freak she was for the first 4 months then her periods stoped over the next two months she doesn't even think about it anymore still together but ain't had it but 2 times in the last year. But she's a awesome woman in every other way.

 

[vanquished005]

my wife is now 60 and had gone thru menopause.

we never had a very robust sex life. my catholic wife was a virgin when we got married, and, despite my gentle prodding to the contrary, our sex life for most of our marriage was very standard and kind of bland....always at night, always with the lights out, and generally the same positions, etc. etc. etc.

after my wife went back to school to earn a masters degree in theology, her sex drive took off. i assume that younger guys at school were hitting on her, and that triggered her sex drive.

ultimately, she seemed to become guilty by her skyrocketing sex drive, and told me that she needed to go to counseling to cope.

she then went to our parish priest for counseling. the short of it -- she ended up sleeping with the priest for about 6 months behind my back.

after that, she began sleeping with a much younger stay-at-home husband who is in her bible study group. that has been going on for about 4 years.

i have not confronted her about her affairs. our sex life has dwindled down to about once every 2-3 months. but ... when we do have sex, she is much more active and involved than she has been for most of our marriage. i guess .... mixed blessings.

 

[TnA4U]

I'm also in menopause and on HRT. For a while, before starting HRT, my sex drive plummeted. Now, if I could, I'd fuck all day long. I masturbate first thing in the morning and often wake up in the middle of the night do so. There are days when I don't have much work to do, when I surf porn for hours.

The HRT has been critical!