Denial of PIV Sex and FemDom

[NancyPan]

I have been open on this forum that I am not allowed PIV sex any more. Over about the last 15 years,She has allowed it 3 times as a reward. All 3 of those times it was over very quickly because I was so aroused in anticipation and She said some “magic words” that She knew would put me over the edge. Of course these premature ejaculations only later served as more “evidence” of the inadequacy of my penis to satisfy Her.

I have largely adapted to acceptance that my small penis is not worthy of Her and that I am far more successful at pleasing Her (as She deserves) with oral worship.

I do still fantasize about fucking Her, however, and when I am worshipping Her pussy I sometimes imagine/recall the wonderful feeling of being inside of Her.

Are there others that are denied PIV? Or Women who allow it as a reward only for their submissive partners? Does denial increase your craving? Your submission?

This happened many years into our marriage after I had naively taken fucking my wife for granted. Then I asked her for an FLR. Once She considered it and we talked about it, She said that the only way She would do it was if I agreed to no more PIV sex. After menopause, She no longer enjoyed it, but loved having me bring Her to a climax with oral worship.

 

[NancyPan]

I posted this two weeks ago. Zero responses.so I am literally the only guy on this board who is not allowed penetrative sex? I’m amazed, but even more humbled.

 

[Patsysub]

wife decides when or where i,m allowed to have sex with her

 

[Bobsterama]

I'm in a similar position in that my wife's preference is my tongue in her cunt. If I'm lucky she lets me slip my cock in afterwards as a reward for making her cum, although I'm usually so hair triggered after licking her out that it's usually just for two pumps and a squirt (which she finds hilarious).

 

[NancyPan]

I'm in a similar position in that my wife's preference is my tongue in her cunt. If I'm lucky she lets me slip my cock in afterwards as a reward for making her cum, although I'm usually so hair triggered after licking her out that it's usually just for two pumps and a squirt (which she finds hilarious).

I have been allowed a few times as a special reward, of course always with a big buildup which, like you, has resulted in my prematurely ejaculating. My wife didn’t laugh, she actually acted sympathetic, like it’s too bad I wasn’t able to enjoy it longer — but, and this is the humiliating part, she has then used these quick spurts as examples of reasons why I can’t fuck her. “You know, honey, it’s just too frustrating for both of us. It’s better tis way.” (Meaning with my mouth and her vibrator.)

 

[shemyezza]

to be honest I am allowed PIV sex BUT at my wifes command and I am the one being penetrated ,so does that count

 

[eroticspank]

I have been open on this forum that I am not allowed PIV sex any more. Over about the last 15 years,She has allowed it 3 times as a reward. All 3 of those times it was over very quickly because I was so aroused in anticipation and She said some “magic words” that She knew would put me over the edge. Of course these premature ejaculations only later served as more “evidence” of the inadequacy of my penis to satisfy Her.

I have largely adapted to acceptance that my small penis is not worthy of Her and that I am far more successful at pleasing Her (as She deserves) with oral worship.

I do still fantasize about fucking Her, however, and when I am worshipping Her pussy I sometimes imagine/recall the wonderful feeling of being inside of Her.

Are there others that are denied PIV? Or Women who allow it as a reward only for their submissive partners? Does denial increase your craving? Your submission?

This happened many years into our marriage after I had naively taken fucking my wife for granted. Then I asked her for an FLR. Once She considered it and we talked about it, She said that the only way She would do it was if I agreed to no more PIV sex. After menopause, She no longer enjoyed it, but loved having me bring Her to a climax with oral worship.

I have seen or heard about this several times before from friends. The main reason for no PIV sex mostly has to do with menopause and how the woman feels, vs not being satisfied. It is usually painful for penetration so oral sex is fine. Some women completely lose their sex drive which leads to no sex at all.
ES

 

[NancyPan]

I have seen or heard about this several times before from friends. The main reason for no PIV sex mostly has to do with menopause and how the woman feels, vs not being satisfied. It is usually painful for penetration so oral sex is fine. Some women completely lose their sex drive which leads to no sex at all.
ES

She had some initial vaginal pain post menopause, but got over that. The main thing was that she decided to be forthright that penetrative sex (with me and we were and are monogamous) was not all that satisfying. As I am small, she tended not to orgasm with vaginal sex and as she is very attractive, I tended to prematurely ejaculate. Her frankness about my performance inadequacy was humbling, but long overdue.

We are both much happier, and, although I get fewer orgasms, I get more sex!

 

[eroticspank]

She had some initial vaginal pain post menopause, but got over that. The main thing was that she decided to be forthright that penetrative sex (with me and we were and are monogamous) was not all that satisfying. As I am small, she tended not to orgasm with vaginal sex and as she is very attractive, I tended to prematurely ejaculate. Her frankness about my performance inadequacy was humbling, but long overdue.

We are both much happier, and, although I get fewer orgasms, I get more sex!

That is nice to know. Thanks for sharing that and I am glad you are both happier.

I read about a similar situation and one of the things they did was the husband went out and bought a hollow strapon. He wore it over his own small dick and used it to fuck his wife. It made him much bigger, he could last as long as she wanted, and she was able to have strong orgasms with it. He was surprised at how it increased their intimacy and really enjoyed holding her tight during her orgasms. I know it is not something for everybody, but I thought I would mention it since they were in a similar situation.
ES

 

[NancyPan]

That is nice to know. Thanks for sharing that and I am glad you are both happier.

I read about a similar situation and one of the things they did was the husband went out and bought a hollow strapon. He wore it over his own small dick and used it to fuck his wife. It made him much bigger, he could last as long as she wanted, and she was able to have strong orgasms with it. He was surprised at how it increased their intimacy and really enjoyed holding her tight during her orgasms. I know it is not something for everybody, but I thought I would mention it since they were in a similar situation.
ES

Thanks for trying to help. I am aware of penis sleeves and have done some research on them. Good ones are expensive, but would be worth it if she wants it. Right now what we are doing seems to satisfy her. Our situation is somewhat unique in that we are in an FLR, she manages and restricts my orgasms, and she is quite skilled at erotic humiliation, which sends me over the edge. She will remind me why I can’t fuck her.

We moved into an FLR at around the same time she announced there would be no more PIV sex. In fact that was the “bargain” I accepted (part of it) for her to agree to dominate me.

 

[CuMex1]

Absolutely, we enjoy PIV denial which usually involves her using a much larger dildo than what I got size wise and me licking her Pusey out which I don’t mind and it really turns me on. Tried to PM but to no success,

 

[eroticspank]

Thanks for trying to help. I am aware of penis sleeves and have done some research on them. Good ones are expensive, but would be worth it if she wants it. Right now what we are doing seems to satisfy her. Our situation is somewhat unique in that we are in an FLR, she manages and restricts my orgasms, and she is quite skilled at erotic humiliation, which sends me over the edge. She will remind me why I can’t fuck her.

We moved into an FLR at around the same time she announced there would be no more PIV sex. In fact that was the “bargain” I accepted (part of it) for her to agree to dominate me.

That sounds like a great arrangement. You may want to try a face dildo. It may work for her and provide humiliation for you too.
ES

 

[NancyPan]

That sounds like a great arrangement. You may want to try a face dildo. It may work for her and provide humiliation for you too.
ES

Thank you. Yes, a face dildo excites me, and may intrigue her. PM me if you have a suggestion for a specific one.

 

[svengali_decL]

Maybe too many TLAs...

 

[eroticspank]

Thank you. Yes, a face dildo excites me, and may intrigue her. PM me if you have a suggestion for a specific one.

I tried sending a PM but it didn't work. I don't have great experience with them but have seen some amazing ones in videos.
ES

 

[eroticspank]

I have a different problem. My wife does not enjoy sex with me because of my small balls. Would you believe this. She says my balls do not hang low enough like some men do to slap her ass. She told me once there is nothing like a big set of balls slapping your ass when having sex and you do not hang low enough sorry. What do you think? My balls size is 1 inch in length and the other ball is 1 1/2 inches in length they are tight balls. Is she right they are too small? Not sure.

Did you find this out after you were married? Talk to her and find out if she is interested in exploring different options. There are toys you can attach to your dick that hang down and vibrate for example.
ES

 

[eroticspank]

All I can say is that you need to talk to her. She may be interested in trying toys or might want to try swinging or the cuckold lifestyle. But that is up to both of you. Send me a PM if you want to talk further.
ES

 

[NancyPan]

I tried sending a PM but it didn't work. I don't have great experience with them but have seen some amazing ones in videos.
ES

Yes, I have seen some of those videos, but have never seen one on an actual site that looked suitable. To contact me, you should only have to click on my name/avatar and when mt
Y profile pops up, click “start conversation.”

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I have one I would consider a female led relationship. Some chastity, tons of orgasm control for me. I cum about once a month.

But we have lots of penetrative sex, usually from 2 to 4 times a week. I’m just not allowed to cum.

This works really well for us. In fact, she came home from lunch while I was working from home today and we had sex in between online meetings I was having.

 

[eroticspank]

I sent you a PM let me know if you received it. Thanks

Got it.
ES

 

[eroticspank]

Yes, I have seen some of those videos, but have never seen one on an actual site that looked suitable. To contact me, you should only have to click on my name/avatar and when mt
Y profile pops up, click “start conversation.”

Didn't work, send me a PM if interested.
ES

 

[IARainman]

My wife and I have one I would consider a female led relationship. Some chastity, tons of orgasm control for me. I cum about once a month.

But we have lots of penetrative sex, usually from 2 to 4 times a week. I’m just not allowed to cum.

This works really well for us. In fact, she came home from lunch while I was working from home today and we had sex in between online meetings I was having.

Does she cum from this or need other stimulation? Does she make you Jack off and edge or give you edging hand Jobs?

Sorry for all the questions, I’m in admiration of the situation

 

[Wonderer67]

Does she cum from this or need other stimulation?

Yes, she has many orgasms from this. I know just how to fuck her to hit her g spot; mostly in spoons position which is what she likes best. But also in female superior, reverse cowgirl (she gushes and squirts about 95% of the time in this position) and missionary.

Does she make you Jack off and edge or give you edging hand Jobs?

Yes. . All of the above.

I realize how lucky I am. She’s a phenomenal domme and a great loving wife and we built a great life together.

 

[IARainman]

Yes, she has many orgasms from this. I know just how to fuck her to hit her g spot; mostly in spoons position which is what she likes best. But also in female superior, reverse cowgirl (she gushes and squirts about 95% of the time in this position) and missionary.

Yes. . All of the above.

I realize how lucky I am. She’s a phenomenal domme and a great loving wife and we built a great life together.

I wish I could find one

 

[NancyPan]

Yes, she has many orgasms from this. I know just how to fuck her to hit her g spot; mostly in spoons position which is what she likes best. But also in female superior, reverse cowgirl (she gushes and squirts about 95% of the time in this position) and missionary.

I am denied PIV sex for basically 3 reasons: 1) I am small, so my wife does not tend to experience orgasms from my penetration. 2) I had a tendency to prematurely ejaculate, which was extremely frustrating for her, so I could never do what you describe — fuck without spurting. 3) She very much enjoys the power it gives her as it increases my lust and hunger for her pussy and makes me easy to arouse and more compliant.

I realize how lucky I am. She’s a phenomenal domme and a great loving wife and we built a great life together.

Denial is very powerful! You do sound lucky, but my guess is that you, like us, have worked hard for what you have. Good FLR relationships don’t just happen. They take good communication!