Question ask on the radio today.....lets hear what you guys say..........

[Wizard]

Local station today had a caller call in and say she had found her 14 years old son with a playboy. The Dj then ask the folks in radioland what would you do?...........Take it off him?........talk to him.......Yell him it was ok?.......Some even said they have bought them for there kids......

Me myself I find it to be no big deal ....I mean come on most guys did the same shit.......
Some of the ladys that called in were....what the best way to say it...lets say prudes....Like they don't want there son looking at such a thing.....

Any comments on this...???????? There were alot of calls on this.....

On another note I have a 12 year old son and I do get "playboy here at home in the mail......As far as I know he hasn't found them yet but if he did it wouldn't bother me much but I wouldn't want him to take them to school or anything..............

 

[Xander]

14 years old...hell I had already recieved my first BJ by that age LMAO.

I would talk to the little guy about it. And then give a couple of the good stuff.

Hey the kid has to learn, one way or the other. Aint it better that it's the parents handling this problem, than anyone else??

You know they're gonna fuck when they get the chance....which young teenage guy wouldn't??

 

[chanaud]

I would thank God he's interested in women! LOL

 

[chanaud]

And then give a couple of the good stuff.

What kinda good stuff?

 

[estevie]

at 14, isn't that normal? My son is 11, I don't think he is looking at his dad's playboys...of course, i could be wrong. I would have no problem if my son looked at it. I don't consider Playboy pornography. On the other hand, I might react differently if he was looking at some of the raunchier mags, like Hustler and such. I still don't believe that I would freak out and yell at him. Isn't looking at naked ladies what little boys do? heyyy, now that I think of it, isn't it what all boys, little or big, do?

 

[Wizard]

I thought of all that myself too but it made for some intresting radio talk btw songs .....
One lady walked in on her son spanking it and admitted she was wrong for not knocking first, and then talked with him and told him what he was doing was alright and she was sorry for walking in..................

I didn't get any by 14 but was trying to like hell.................

 

[Phoenyx]

At 14 the first thing I would want to knwo is where he got his hands on it.
Either he stole it or someone older bought it for him...
Neither option I would be comfortable with..

 

[Xander]

Isn't looking at naked ladies what little boys do? heyyy, now that I think of it, isn't it what all boys, little or big, do?

uhm yes......

Chanaud, you sure you wanna know??

 

[Wizard]

At 14 the first thing I would want to knwo is where he got his hands on it.
Either he stole it or someone older bought it for him...
Neither option I would be comfortable with..

One lady did call in and say she also would want to know where he got it..........Now call me silly but would any guy really tell?........I mean I would have said I found it......
I mean if I tell then I won't be getting anymore.............

 

[MissVictoria]

Its healthy to be curious about sex. But I don't think it is healthy to learn all you know about sex from porn magazines.

I have a friend (still a virgin, 20 years old) whose father gave him the "talk" by handing him a dirty magazine, and leaving him.

This same friend just asked me yesterday what the purpose of an anus was on a girl... he thought women pooped, pissed and screwed all in the same hole.

Therefore............ I am for sex education in schools. I am for talking with your children about sex as soon as they become interested in it, and I am for letting your children keep whatever they have in their rooms, as long as it isn't physically or mentally harming them.

 

[Adoratrice]

Oh geeze ...that is so not what I want to walk in on...*sigh* but if I did I would have to deal with it....first of all, I would want to know where he got it. My son is eleven right now and I have given him all the "appropriate" books to teach him about his body & such. I would be quite upset if another adult gave him such material. I would also be a little worried that he was forming unrealistic views of women at such an early age and would force him to sit through a long boring speach about respect for women (or men as the case may be) and differing body types. I would then show him how to properly lock the door so that I would not be forced into giving the speach again in the future. I tell all my kids that it is their body and they can do whatever they want with it in private but if I have to see it........it is going to be a Lonnnnnng day.

 

[lovetoread]

Its healthy to be curious about sex. But I don't think it is healthy to learn all you know about sex from porn magazines.

I have a friend (still a virgin, 20 years old) whose father gave him the "talk" by handing him a dirty magazine, and leaving him.

This same friend just asked me yesterday what the purpose of an anus was on a girl... he thought women pooped, pissed and screwed all in the same hole.

Therefore............ I am for sex education in schools. I am for talking with your children about sex as soon as they become interested in it, and I am for letting your children keep whatever they have in their rooms, as long as it isn't physically or mentally harming them.

Totally off this topic,but you did explain it all to him,right?

 

[chanaud]

Chanaud, you sure you wanna know??

I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to know.

 

[Xander]

I wouldn't ask if I didn't want to know.

well, okay then.

You know all the GOOD porn mags...you know then ones that parents is usually uncomfortable with, finding under their sons bed.

And Playboy aint porn btw.

 

[morninggirl5]

Having dealt with 4 and 5 year old boys who had entirely too much knowledge about sex, I would venture to say that most 14 year olds ARE looking at porn of some type. In every instance that I've dealt with this problem with one of my students, there has been an older teenage brother at home who hasn't been careful enough with their "stash".

So, if it were my son, we would have a serious talk about fantasy vs reality and the difference between adult conversations, fantasies, reading material and what it is appropriate to expose a child to. My final statement would be, I know you're going to have it, be safe, if you have questions ask, otherwise, I really don't need the details.

 

[Skitten]

I do not know how I feel on this one. If I found out my son reading playboy. (looking at pics really), I would be glad he is looking at girls, but I would also be concerned about where he did get it and now that he had I would have to talk to him about the different things he may be seeing.

I mean I guess that they are all curious, but the mother in me doesn't want him to be looking at dirty pic's just to google over naked girls. I hope that I have raised him better than that. I just hope that he would be interested when the time is right to talk to someone. (I know this won't happen) But maybe even ask mom or dad about things. I mean we have talked to him about things but I just have hoped there is more to learning about sex than just dirty pic's. I do thank GOD he is still only 12 maybe I still have a fighting chance.

But I guess I wouldn't yell but I wouldn't be any too happy either. Knowing me I'd probably have a heart attack right there.
LOL.

 

[sigh]

his interest seems perfectly age-appropriate...learning about sex from playboy, though...hmmmm

awful age to get hit with an airbrush version of beauty...reality could be so harsh after that

but i wouldn't worry about it...seems like a good time for a heart-to-heart though

 

[Rrrosyn]

*giggle* I'm a girl and my mother bought my first one. I couldn't find the info for submissions without buying the magazine.

Writing erotica at fifteen. Guess what? It all sucked!! I never wrote anything worth submitting anywhere. I think the fact I was still a virgin really mad it hard to write.

 

[MidnightAngel]

From My Prospective...

I have a 14 year old son. I've never found him with any magazines, etc. If I did, I wouldn't get upset about it. I would, however, explain to him that (1) No, all females don't look like that, so please don't expect that; (2) Females are more than just a physical appearance. I want him to have a healthy attitude about sex, but at the same time I want him to really understand that women are far more than sex objects...that women (and ALL people) are to be respected for who they are, what they are, and not just what they look like.

 

[StevenWill]

Well said

Well said MidnightAngel---Perfect.

 

[naudiz]

Off topic, but I'm reminded...

I got caught by a teacher when I was in middle school writing an erotic story. She lectured me about how it was inapprpriate to write that kind of stuff at school (which I kind of had to agree), but she didn't turn me in to the principal because, in her words, "You know, this stuff isn't half bad. Just don't do it where anyone can catch you."

She kept the story, too.

Hmm.

On topic: I don't have kids, so I'm not sure how I would react. In general, I don't think it's a big deal as long there is some communication going on about reality vs. fantasy and all the other good points that have already been brought up on that matter. I'd be more worried if my child wasn't interested in sex by that age.

And if I did have kids, I could care less if my son was interested in men or women. I'd be concerned about the persecution a gay teen would face, but I'd love him dearly whether it was a Playboy or Playgirl I found in his sock drawer.

 

[Sateema Lunasi]

That seems normal. I was looking at my Dad's Playboys when I was eleven and I am female.

If I were in that situation, I would probably let him have them. Hell, I'd probably get him a subscription. There is worse shit he could be looking at. Playboy is at least artistic and tasteful. As for him learning about sex through the magazine, I would sure as hell hope his parents have already taught him about sex. At 14? The kid has probably already had sex. The average boy loses his virginity ("oops, where'd I put it?") at age 15. I would have had a birds and bees complete talk with him by age eleven or twelve.

 

[Paradox]

My mother gave me a subscription to Playboy for my 14th birthday. Yes, it is true. And, I think I turned out reasonably normal (others may argue, however). Now, realize that this was a long, long time ago (Hef was still actively involved with the magazine) and Playboy was, shall we say, a bit more demure than it is today.

I don't have any sons, but I certainly don't think I would worry about it.

Also, regarding parents walking in on their children masturbating. I once walked in on my daughter (she was probably 13-14) while she was...uh...massaging herself with our hand-held massager. She was on the couch in the living room for gosh sakes! Embarassing for both, but I didn't discourage her.