Porn: Cause or symptom of relationship problems?

MrAwkward

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I know this sounds like a chicken vs. egg problem, but I'm interested in hearing your perspectives:

Does pornography cause problems in relationships?

Or:

Do problems in relationships lead to porn use?

What is your experience and opinion?
 
I know this sounds like a chicken vs. egg problem, but I'm interested in hearing your perspectives:

Does pornography cause problems in relationships?

Or:

Do problems in relationships lead to porn use?

What is your experience and opinion?

What exactly did mommy give you timeout from the internet for?
 
I know this sounds like a chicken vs. egg problem, but I'm interested in hearing your perspectives:

Does pornography cause problems in relationships?

Or:

Do problems in relationships lead to porn use?

What is your experience and opinion?


Porn can also make relationships better.
 
I know this sounds like a chicken vs. egg problem, but I'm interested in hearing your perspectives:

Does pornography cause problems in relationships? To both questions.

Or:

Do problems in relationships lead to porn use?

What is your experience and opinion?

The answer is yes.

Like any self-defeating behavior it is all part of a counter productive spiral. Not porn in and of itself, but porn as and if it impacts your relationship. It is entirely possible to incorporate porn into one's life individually or within the context of a relationship without harmful effects but that requires that it not offend either your own or your partners values.

You would not be asking if that was the case.
 
Lack of communication is a bigger problem than porn usage, in relationships. If you can't communicate openly in a relationship, it's doomed.

I don't watch porn, it does nothing for me but I wouldn't be upset with a partner watching it, unless it interfered with family or career. But obsessive behavior of different kinds can result in the same negative consequences. So if it becomes an addiction, then it will cause problems.
 
nothing wrong with a bit of porn. nothing at all.
even gardening is a problem if it becomes obsessive.
 
I'm unable to give an informed opinion

Quoted for truth. It is good to see you showing some insight, Hashtag. Maybe this new name will provide a new start for you.
 
Quoted for truth. It is good to see you showing some insight, Hashtag. Maybe this new name will provide a new start for you.

he has a crush on me.:rolleyes:
keeps following me around
 
he has a crush on me.:rolleyes:
keeps following me around

You have a weird idea about "following." If you will notice I posted before you did in the thread. No one is going to feel sorry for you for the consequences of your unstable behavior
 
You have a weird idea about "following." If you will notice I posted before you did in the thread. No one is going to feel sorry for you for the consequences of your unstable behavior

cool:)
 
Old guy's perspective:

I had only a little exposure to porn before I started out with relationships. So little that I don't think it had any impact at all upon my exploring sexuality with others.

But I do worry for those who are now teenagers who have had years of hours of exposure to perhaps the worst kinds of female-abusive/male arousive porn. They have been meted out a huge disadvantage, both for themselves and for any prospective SO who may have to help them un-learn and profoundly refigure their expectations of sexual relationship and practice. For some, what a mess!
 
Old guy's perspective:

I had only a little exposure to porn before I started out with relationships. So little that I don't think it had any impact at all upon my exploring sexuality with others.

But I do worry for those who are now teenagers who have had years of hours of exposure to perhaps the worst kinds of female-abusive/male arousive porn. They have been meted out a huge disadvantage, both for themselves and for any prospective SO who may have to help them un-learn and profoundly refigure their expectations of sexual relationship and practice. For some, what a mess!

Valid point.
 
Lack of communication is a bigger problem than porn usage, in relationships. If you can't communicate openly in a relationship, it's doomed.

I don't watch porn, it does nothing for me but I wouldn't be upset with a partner watching it, unless it interfered with family or career. But obsessive behavior of different kinds can result in the same negative consequences. So if it becomes an addiction, then it will cause problems.

Nailed it.
 
Here's a mind blower... He is the alt.

You f..g assholes didn't read my previous posts? In order to avoid any paranoia or confusion, I told you that I'm gonna change my username, given that the stupid latest "notoriety" made me uncomfortable.

And in hops Disgustipated to make a bufoonery of it and confuse things even more.
Let go of this!
 
nothing wrong with a bit of porn. nothing at all.
even gardening is a problem if it becomes obsessive.

I agree completely. Any obsessive behavior will likely take away from a relationship. Porn can be a lot of fun to watch together or to show your partner something that turned you on, or even something that shocked you (of the "You have GOT to see this but brace yourself" sort). Porn can also destroy relationships. Balance is important.

I agree with Simon that teens watching porn is causing problems in their early sex lives. It sets up some unrealistic expectations of all involved.
 
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