Porn: Cause or symptom of relationship problems?
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What exactly did mommy give you timeout from the internet for?
Que
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The answer is yes.
Like any self-defeating behavior it is all part of a counter productive spiral. Not porn in and of itself, but porn as and if it impacts your relationship. It is entirely possible to incorporate porn into one's life individually or within the context of a relationship without harmful effects but that requires that it not offend either your own or your partners values.
You would not be asking if that was the case.
I'm not a troll. I'm a real person in a wonderful relationship that is enhanced by porn. We enjoy it separately, we enjoy it together, and sometimes we make it.
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Well, then...
Since you said "please," I will...politely...point you in the direction of The Playgrovnd...
...over there >>>>>>>>>>>
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Aella_
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I'm unable to give an informed opinion, since I get my rocks off through reading erotic stories and not through watching porn.
But I remember this entertaining+interesting clip from TYT:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qAuL-IbS68w
http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/
But I remember this entertaining+interesting clip from TYT:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qAuL-IbS68w
http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/
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Lack of communication is a bigger problem than porn usage, in relationships. If you can't communicate openly in a relationship, it's doomed.
I don't watch porn, it does nothing for me but I wouldn't be upset with a partner watching it, unless it interfered with family or career. But obsessive behavior of different kinds can result in the same negative consequences. So if it becomes an addiction, then it will cause problems.
I don't watch porn, it does nothing for me but I wouldn't be upset with a partner watching it, unless it interfered with family or career. But obsessive behavior of different kinds can result in the same negative consequences. So if it becomes an addiction, then it will cause problems.
Curmudgeonly
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Well, then...I guess he left.
That was...awkward...
That was...awkward...
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Que
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Quoted for truth. It is good to see you showing some insight, Hashtag. Maybe this new name will provide a new start for you.
Que
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he has a crush on me.
keeps following me around
You have a weird idea about "following." If you will notice I posted before you did in the thread. No one is going to feel sorry for you for the consequences of your unstable behavior
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Eeeww....... porn. Yuck.
Too obvious?
Too obvious?
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Old guy's perspective:
I had only a little exposure to porn before I started out with relationships. So little that I don't think it had any impact at all upon my exploring sexuality with others.
But I do worry for those who are now teenagers who have had years of hours of exposure to perhaps the worst kinds of female-abusive/male arousive porn. They have been meted out a huge disadvantage, both for themselves and for any prospective SO who may have to help them un-learn and profoundly refigure their expectations of sexual relationship and practice. For some, what a mess!
I had only a little exposure to porn before I started out with relationships. So little that I don't think it had any impact at all upon my exploring sexuality with others.
But I do worry for those who are now teenagers who have had years of hours of exposure to perhaps the worst kinds of female-abusive/male arousive porn. They have been meted out a huge disadvantage, both for themselves and for any prospective SO who may have to help them un-learn and profoundly refigure their expectations of sexual relationship and practice. For some, what a mess!
Que
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Valid point.
Disgustipated
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Here's a mind blower... He is the alt.
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Nailed it.
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You f..g assholes didn't read my previous posts? In order to avoid any paranoia or confusion, I told you that I'm gonna change my username, given that the stupid latest "notoriety" made me uncomfortable.
And in hops Disgustipated to make a bufoonery of it and confuse things even more.
Let go of this!
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I agree completely. Any obsessive behavior will likely take away from a relationship. Porn can be a lot of fun to watch together or to show your partner something that turned you on, or even something that shocked you (of the "You have GOT to see this but brace yourself" sort). Porn can also destroy relationships. Balance is important.
I agree with Simon that teens watching porn is causing problems in their early sex lives. It sets up some unrealistic expectations of all involved.
