Persistence - does it pay off?

[Black_Bird]

I have this infatuation with a girl I work with. I've already asked her out, but I'm considering the consequences of asking again. She's as beautiful as a rose and sweet to a fault; just the type I fall head over heals for. I'm afraid of her getting the wrong impression and thinking I'm harassing her. *That* would be pretty bad - I don't like my job, but I certainly don't want to be fired.

Does anybody have any advice for me? I think I should also mention that she's 17... and just before anybody HERE gets the wrong impression, I am, and would be, the perfect gentlemen.

 

[Azwed]

How much younger is she then you? If it is more then two years I would just back off and try and remain friends. Where I work during the semester tends to have a lot of mainly senior in HS workers as well. You don't always know they are HSers and think they are college freshman. Just best not to mess with them, since it looks pretty bad to be in college and be dating a HS girl.

 

[Black_Bird]

How much younger is she then you? If it is more then two years I would just back off and try and remain friends. Where I work during the semester tends to have a lot of mainly senior in HS workers as well. You don't always know they are HSers and think they are college freshman. Just best not to mess with them, since it looks pretty bad to be in college and be dating a HS girl.

Eh... Six years? That's about the difference between my mother's and step father's age. Besides, all through highschool I've watched MOST of the girls go for guys much older then I am now -and I'd prabably treat this girl ten times better...

I understand where you are coming from though...

 

[Rubyfruit]

My husband was persistent. I was convinced that our first date was our last, but he keep asking (and sending flowers) and here we are, almost 10 years later and still very happy together.

I do think you need to be careful though, Black Bird, in that you work with the girl. Maybe you should give it some time and see what developes naturally.

 

[cymbidia]

My first adult relationship was with a man who was seven years my senior; much depends on the maturity of those involved.

Unfortunately, in today's climate, an underage partner is an invitation to trouble if she lives with her parents. Carefully consider the ramifications before you decide to play with someone whose parents could legally object to your presence in their daughter's life.

 

[Black_Bird]

My first adult relationship was with a man who was seven years my senior; much depends on the maturity of those involved.

Unfortunately, in today's climate, an underage partner is an invitation to trouble if she lives with her parents. Carefully consider the ramifications before you decide to play with someone whose parents could legally object to your presence in their daughter's life.

True... which is another reason why I'm hesitant. It's one of those situations where your heart tells you one thing and your head tells you another. Everybody says "follow your heart", but there is just too much to loose. I generally get along with older people, I'm more respectful then most of my peers, but that doesn't mean that age wouldn't be brought up.

I'll just be patient and see what happens...

 

[Cheyenne]

Two words:

Jail bait.










Wait until she is 18. There is a lot of maturing each year between 16 and 21, in particular, I think. Give her a bit more time.

 

[perks]

Everybody says "follow your heart

never said that....and plus..I think it's crap advice....factor your heart into the equation, but use your brain.and when it's time to use your dick....use your brain even more.

Did she turn you down the first time you asked? what was the excuse? If it was ohhhh umm...I have to wash my dog.....or go see my sick grammy..then possibly I would not persist. There is way more information that we need on this to give you good advice.

 

[Black_Bird]

Two words:

Jail bait.

Yeah, I know - BUT SHE SO DAMN CUTE!!!

 

[Black_Bird]

never said that....and plus..I think it's crap advice....factor your heart into the equation, but use your brain.and when it's time to use your dick....use your brain even more.

Did she turn you down the first time you asked? what was the excuse? If it was ohhhh umm...I have to wash my dog.....or go see my sick grammy..then possibly I would not persist. There is way more information that we need on this to give you good advice.

It was because of schedualing... And I didn't use the word "Date" - I more or less suggested that we go to lunch sometime. Her reason seemed genuine enough.

I already said I was going to just be patient. I've heard some hear-say that suggests that she's interested in me, too - but I'm not going to risk making a fool of myself. I'll wait and see what happens... in the mean time I'll just do some harmless flirting.

Hell, I flirt with all the girls at work, so it won't be like I'm changing anything.

 

[perks]

I've heard some hear-say that suggests that she's interested in me, too - but I'm not going to risk making a fool of myself.

<smile> love makes fools of us all.....

and if you genuinely think she's worth it....I say go for it..take the chance.

but of course......lol......I married my boss....and he's younger too...

perks

 

[Angelus]

If you like her so much then try and become her friend and see if she feels the same way about you.

I mean all you can do is but ask and all she can say is no or yes. I know that it isn't really that simple but that's the only way I can put it.

 

[horny_giraffe]

I don't know about you, but I find chasing after little girls kind of humiliating. Life is a numbers game. Move on.

My two cents.

 

[Mae13]

Personally, I'd be leery of the whole 'coworker' thing. Yeah, I know, you date people you get to know somewhere, and you certainly spend a lot of time at work, but I am becoming an eternal pessimist at times and try to picture how things could be at work if the relationship ended ugly at whatever level...

But you're probably already thinking about that too Go for someone less complicated, hehe.

Mae

 

[dqrich]

I don't know about you, but I find chasing after little girls kind of humiliating. Life is a numbers game. Move on.

My two cents.

Here's a third cent...
Do you really feel strongly about her? ? ? ?
If not, move on.
Yes, period.
If you need something from her, (and I don't mean money, time, et al) THEN marry her.
If you want to spend alot of your waking moments with her but you're still not sure if she is the ONE for the rest of your life,...Sleep on it again
You're not quite ready to make this decision at this point in time...
This has been your majik 8-ball at work...!

 

[Black_Bird]

I don't know about you, but I find chasing after little girls kind of humiliating. Life is a numbers game. Move on.

My two cents.

If you would have seen her before, you wouldn't call her a little girl; you would call her a woman. Nothing is humiliating about a guy having a woman like that on his arm... Believe me...

 

[Black_Bird]

... I thought this thread had died...

... Will I be forever haunted by my embarressing revealations?

<shrugs> I've already figured out what I'm going to do... I'm waiting. If nothing more happens... oh well.

 

[xzchief]

When does she turn 18?

P.S. Threads here never die.

 

[dqrich]

Re: ... I thought this thread had died...

... Will I be forever haunted by my embarressing revealations?

<shrugs> I've already figured out what I'm going to do... I'm waiting. If nothing more happens... oh well.

I thought that was what you were expecting...Haaa Haaa Haaa!

Cut the questions loose here.....

 

[Black_Bird]

P.S. Threads here never die.

Okay... just give me a death sentance, why don't ya!

 

[dqrich]

Re: Re: ... I thought this thread had died...

I thought that was what you were expecting...Haaa Haaa Haaa!

Cut the questions loose here.....

Btw, I wasn't trying to slam you, sorry if you thought I was.... this thread ain't worth it.

 

[dqrich]

Must stop posting was a better "catch" and a better title over all.

 

[dqrich]

Okay... just give me a death sentance, why don't ya!

Turn your PM on so I can talk you

 

[Black_Bird]

My PM is turned on!

 

[dqrich]

I tried countless times but he seems to be ABOVE us all...
Screw it.