Password Privacy - Emails and PMs - Part II

[Cath!]

Let's ask this in the manner it should have been asked in the first place...please feel free to repeat your answer if you happened to have seen a similar topic elsewhere.


How many of you have/had access to someone else's email/pm password and accounts??

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I believe in trust.

 

[Mistress]

I have.



And it is well known that you have too

Next?

 

[patient1]

Me.

 

[geri]

not on my part but He has all of mine.

 

[Draco]

Yes, I have some of SweetCherry's passwords and she has some of mine. We consult on those occasions where we need to access each others accounts. Next question?

 

[RisiaSkye]

If you have nothing to hide from your SO, why would this be an issue? If you do have something to hide, you've got bigger problems than being too dumb to figure out how to change your passwords.

 

[lovetoread]

Yes he has mine,and at one time I had his. I dont think I have his anymore as it never interested me in keeping it.

Trust is the key.

 

[estevie]

I don't get the whole topic. Why would you want passwords to your SO's private things? Or anyone else's for that matter. Its private thats why it has a password. Reading something that does not belong to you can lead to many misconceptions. What is a simple "how you been" email to you, may mean something completely different to someone else. I don't understand why you would need to get into someone else's private things. If its not an email and is a site that you need password for, get your own..its not that difficult.

If Southern asked me for my password to an email account, I would be pissed. Why would he want it? What reason does he have for wanting to read my mail? And it goes both ways, why would I want his...just to see what kinda shit he gets in his box? I think not! I don't care who he gets mail from, even if it was filled with naked pics of chicks, which btw, it is! Trust is the issue here. I trust him not to hurt me, its as simple as that.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

yes i have.... actualy I've hacked a few peeps passwords. No i'd never do anything with what I found or go snoopeing.

 

[april-wine]

yes i have.... actualy I've hacked a few peeps passwords. No i'd never do anything with what I found or go snoopeing.

Damnnnnnnnn Fly, you ahhhhhh didn't see those ummmmmmmm, nekkie pics did ya??????

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Damnnnnnnnn Fly, you ahhhhhh didn't see those ummmmmmmm, nekkie pics did ya??????

I Pleed the 5th.

 

[sexy-girl]

I don't get the whole topic. Why would you want passwords to your SO's private things? Or anyone else's for that matter. Its private thats why it has a password. Reading something that does not belong to you can lead to many misconceptions. What is a simple "how you been" email to you, may mean something completely different to someone else. I don't understand why you would need to get into someone else's private things. If its not an email and is a site that you need password for, get your own..its not that difficult.

If Southern asked me for my password to an email account, I would be pissed. Why would he want it? What reason does he have for wanting to read my mail? And it goes both ways, why would I want his...just to see what kinda shit he gets in his box? I think not! I don't care who he gets mail from, even if it was filled with naked pics of chicks, which btw, it is! Trust is the issue here. I trust him not to hurt me, its as simple as that.

i have lisa's passwords and she has mine for on here and email

from someone that uses emails lots everyday writing to eachother i know that emails can go missing with hotmail trouble so everytime i write an email i logout and log into lisa's email account and make sure my email is sitting there waiting for her call me nuts if you like but its nothing to do with trust or anything its just because i want to make sure my email is there because in past i've wrote an email and its not arrived and shes got upset

 

[estevie]

I can understand that, sexy-girl. I have had those problems too...let me ask you this...if you go into Lisa's email and you see an email from someone you don't know or perhaps even someone that you do know...do you read it?

If y'all break up (God Forbid ) would you continue to go to her private box? Would you read her mail and draw your own conclusions about what she is up to? or make assumptions based on how you react to what was written? It goes back to what is a "friendly, how ya doin?" email to Lisa...can be misconstrued by you to mean something completely different!

 

[Angel]

Originally posted by estevie


I don't get the whole topic. Why would you want passwords to your SO's private things?

To answer your question, when I was still with BK, he had all of my passwords and I had all of his passwords. We both changed them regularly, and if the topic came up we'd tell each other what they were. I didn't need or want them, and I don't even know how we got into the habit of doing it.

I think it actually started when I brought him to Lit - I had his password from the get go because I set his account up for him and then I went in to do his sigline for him.

In fact, I still have access to his Literotica account. I just checked, although up until right now I haven't even tried to get into it since he got some PMs he wanted me to see and told me to log in and look.

I never once logged onto his AOL or AIM accounts, although I had full access to them for most of our relationship.

What is a simple "how you been" email to you, may mean something completely different to someone else.

You know, it depends on the context of the e-mail or who it is from. When BK asked me to go into his account and look at his PMs, he told me to read all of them and there were two PM's from Starfish in there, which being that I adore her to death I didn't want to read, but he asked me to so I did.

And you know what? I'm very happy he told me to read it because I love her even more for the words she wrote to him during that time - and it was proof positive that she is a very very good friend and someone I can trust with EVERYTHING. (Not that I needed the proof!)





I have a Dragon Realms account, which is a text based, mulitplayer RPG game, a MUD. Not only did BK have access to it, but my cousin, my mom and a few assorted friends who I trust.

I had my main character, and 10 additional slots for other characters which I rarely, if ever used.

Some of the people used those slots for another character, which they would drag along with t heir own or just play - or they would log onto me to borrow me to use my character's skills (Who was a thief) for something, or to borrow in game money or an item from her. They would also log on to pay it back.

I also had access to many of my friend's accounts for the same purpose.

-shrug- And in the years I have been playing that game and letting certain people into my account I have never had problems. With that account info they also had access to the game's message boards as well.

 

[sexy-girl]

ok i get what your saying about trust vs privacy


well this is kinda difficult with lisa and i our lives are wrapped very closely people rarely talk to one of us without talking to the other as well ... lisa gets emails from her sister and her brother in her email box and her family ... i read them yeah because often they are directed to me as well (we might as well have one email box really ) ... so its not about lack of trust its just something we're use to doing we have not one single secret from eachother ... i'd never actually go hunting to check up on her but i never need too ... if she did ever try to keep a secret from me it would probably eventually just open itself up infront of me our lives are just that closely knit


as for if she left me ... sure i would check her emails still i'd also tap her phones and stalk her and phone her in the middle of the night and not say anything ... what can i say im obsessed and i know it

 

[JazzManJim]

I have a Dragon Realms account, which is a text based, mulitplayer RPG game, a MUD. Not only did BK have access to it, but my cousin, my mom and a few assorted friends who I trust.

Wow...I haven't heard of that game in a long time. I played in years ago when it was free and on AOL - that and Gemstone III.

I used to raise all kinds of hell in the goblin hunting zones with my studly little Ranger.

But, on the topic, I don't have anyone's passwords. My ex used to have mine, which she used to sign onto my ISP when she would visit me. When we broke up, she snooped into my e-mails and harangued me over something that turned out to be quite innocent. I changed that tout-sweet.

I'd probably not do that again, not because I have a paranoid thing about privacy, but because I believe that sometimes in a relationship, there be something that's uniquely *mine* just as she have something that's hers - whether that be friends, hobbies, or e-mail passwords.

 

[Angel]

Wow...I haven't heard of that game in a long time. I played in years ago when it was free and on AOL - that and Gemstone III.

I used to raise all kinds of hell in the goblin hunting zones with my studly little Ranger.

No shit? Who were you? I started with Gemstone, and moved to Dragonrealms when it opened for Beta. I've been playing it since AOL was charged by the hour, went back when AOL went flat rate, and transferred my addicted ass when Simu went to the web

 

[JazzManJim]

No shit? Who were you? I started with Gemstone, and moved to Dragonrealms when it opened for Beta. I've been playing it since AOL was charged by the hour, went back when AOL went flat rate, and transferred my addicted ass when Simu went to the web

Ugh...that was a while ago. As I recall, I was Greyham (at least on Gem...I think I ended up on DR as Leander, a Cleric)...never got to hunting the real big dogs, but I did go on many a hunting party into the mondo dangerous places. I was a dead shot with an arrow, once they wrote those into the game and I could run my ass off for the rezzers.

I ahven't played in a long time, mostly because the lower-level skill advancement things drive me batshit (forage forage forage whittle whittle whittle cast light cast light cast light. Anyone teaching anything?). There was just a lot of downtime when what I really wanted in my AD&D-conditioned brain was to hunt goblins all night and stagger back to town loaded with coin and goodies ready to pawn. In time, I just got bored.

 

[lobito]

ok i get what your saying about trust vs privacy

as for if she left me ... sure i would check her emails still i'd also tap her phones and stalk her and phone her in the middle of the night and not say anything ... what can i say im obsessed and i know it

Remind me never to date a lesbian living in the U.K. that goes by the screen name of sexy-girl!

 

[estevie]

I see what you guys are saying but I still don't get it.

The question asked was about emails and pm's. I understand games and things like that. Its different. I just don't understand why you would need or want passwords to emails and pm's. I get that he asked you to go in and get his mail, thats different, but just to pop in and read whenever/whatever you wanted to...I don't know, its just not right...to me.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

My passwords & my accounts are mine , there is no need for him to be going into my accounts.
I don't hide anything from him , if he asks me a question I will answer...I always end up telling him any thing & every thing anyways.