never understood this....

[bicurious19]

in a lot of the porno's you see of anal sex, the receiver always seems to be in pain, and it is the general consensus ever where that anal sex is painful..
however, when playing at home, with at times objects larger then any dick you'd probably see in front of u. now, an erect cock, be it stiff, it still remains softer and slimline/sleek then many toys on the market, and many other dick substitutes one may use.
does no one relize, that with enough lube and patience... it doesnt hurt. and u can actually come to enjoy it...a lot.



(talking from experiance with toys, not the real thing unfortunately )

 

[PressNightly]

It depends on the performers in the vids, but also a lot of times the faces we make during sex can be misinterpereted as pain too lol.

The key to avoiding pain is first to practice, the more you take it the easier it gets, and also being in the right mood helps alot too. Also take your time, go slow till you've passed the inner sphincter and you're good. For me I've never really had any problem with pain when I play anally. Sure a couple times I went too fast, or didn't prepare myself but other than that....

 

[CandiCame]

It still kinda hurts- I like that kind of pain.

But yeah, it gets easier every time. Practice makes perfect and all that jazz.

 

[Rolando2]

I have been having anal sex with men for at least 50 years, and sure the first time did hurt, but I learned relaxation is the key. I guess that after the 5 or 6th time It was ok. practice, practice, and make sure he is gentle at first, then anything goes!

 

[janeyruth]

And above all, remember this. The pleasure is not in the pain, but in the anticipation of pain. I think Aristotle said that to Alexander The Great...

 

[jackstud]

Lingus

I am sure your partner Loves it too

 

[CandiCame]

First of all, I'm a guy. I wanted to try anal sex for years and years but was scared to death to try it. Finally I figured out what to do: take charge.

To lose my virginity I was the one calling all the shots. I got the guy all hot and bothered, sucking his cock and licking his balls. Didn't have anything special to use as a lubricant except J&J Baby Lotion. Used a bottle with a nozzle to squirt a bunch of the baby lotion up my ass. Then I slopped a handful on the guy's cock. Then I squatted over him and slowly lowered myself onto his cock. Slowly. It worked just fine. Then I began to lift myself up and then lower myself down, up and down, up and down on his hard cock. It was wonderful.

That's how I initiate all anal sex. After I'm loosened up, I can then assume the ass up - face down position and let him fuck the living shit out of me.

I love sucking cock. Now I also love being fucked in the ass.

That's one of my favorite positions; that's why it's my avatar.

 

[stude_cruiser19]

And above all, remember this. The pleasure is not in the pain, but in the anticipation of pain. I think Aristotle said that to Alexander The Great...

There is a very fine line between pain and pleasure for most people, but many have never found that line, or if they get close to it, never keep pushing to see what the limits are, more afraid of the pain before they can realize the pleasure.

 

[jackstud]

That's one of my favorite positions; that's why it's my avatar.

One of my favorite one's of you too Candi

 

[bicurious19]

I've never found it to hurt. All u gota be careful is not to ram it in without slowly getting past the actual ass opening, when it's stretched out a little and the cock feels comfortable, with lots of lube offcourse, then I like to tell the sexy tgirl who's cock is in my ass to fuck me hard. There's only about 20 seconds of discomfort and then hard deep anal fucking.
It also feels awesome when u push back as deep as u can and clench ur muscles real hard and slightly move side to side. I did that a couple times and she came in 20 seconds, I was a little disappointed cos I wanted it for longer, but we layed there for a bit, 10 minutes later I put her cock in my mouth, she got hard straight away, and this time it wasn't gentle, she thrust straight up my ass and fucked the shit out of me, I came without touching my cock, caught all my cum, rubbed it on her cock and then sucked it off. There's just something about having a tgirls cock up ur ass that's amazing!

 

[titerear71106]

I have been bottoming for over 15 years and I haven't felt any pain since my second or third time. With the exception of a little pinch upon insertion from an over eager inexperienced top. Other than that it's pure pleasure. Lots of foreplay and lube is the key

 

[Safe_Bet]

I've never found it to hurt. All u gota be careful is not to ram it in without slowly getting past the actual ass opening, when it's stretched out a little and the cock feels comfortable, with lots of lube offcourse, then I like to tell the sexy tgirl who's cock is in my ass to fuck me hard. There's only about 20 seconds of discomfort and then hard deep anal fucking.
It also feels awesome when u push back as deep as u can and clench ur muscles real hard and slightly move side to side. I did that a couple times and she came in 20 seconds, I was a little disappointed cos I wanted it for longer, but we layed there for a bit, 10 minutes later I put her cock in my mouth, she got hard straight away, and this time it wasn't gentle, she thrust straight up my ass and fucked the shit out of me, I came without touching my cock, caught all my cum, rubbed it on her cock and then sucked it off. There's just something about having a tgirls cock up ur ass that's amazing!

Dude, only a couple of months ago you had never had anal sex with another human being. Now, all of a sudden, you are this "old pro" having anal sex with transsexuals.

**sniff sniff**. I detect the distinct reek of POSER!

Know what I mean, Jelly Bean????

 

[bicurious19]

I found a local bar that have gay/bi/ts nights. And they are quiet popular

 

[shybiguy71]

I've always found anal to be heavenly, never painful

 

[klippert]

the first time i took a cock...their was plenty of prep....rimming, fingers, then astro-glide....on his cock, my ass, then he fingered me with two finger....lubed fingers, despite the lube, that ring still needed to be tenderized...little push in, then out, in and hold, then out....you get the picture...
The total bliss.....

 

[girlsmiley]

Dude, only a couple of months ago you had never had anal sex with another human being. Now, all of a sudden, you are this "old pro" having anal sex with transsexuals.

**sniff sniff**. I detect the distinct reek of POSER!

Know what I mean, Jelly Bean????

You're game "sniffing" around in this thread, chick!

 

[44special]

That is one of my pet peeves, or whatever you call it, about porn. Especially gay porn, or the fem-dom stuff. If anal sex didn't feel good to the receiver, why would anyone want to do it?
I know it feels good to me.
But then, the folks in porn are actors, and they are acting, so...

 

[Chrissi]

in a lot of the porno's you see of anal sex, the receiver always seems to be in pain, and it is the general consensus ever where that anal sex is painful..
however, when playing at home, with at times objects larger then any dick you'd probably see in front of u. now, an erect cock, be it stiff, it still remains softer and slimline/sleek then many toys on the market, and many other dick substitutes one may use.
does no one relize, that with enough lube and patience... it doesnt hurt. and u can actually come to enjoy it...a lot.



(talking from experiance with toys, not the real thing unfortunately )

I would have to disagree with some of your generalizations. I cannot say that I have seen a lot of porn where the bottom appears to be in pain, unless it's some sort of B&D or dominance sort of role play going on. Which in that case it is just play acting. Usually the bottoms are easily able to accommodate their often well endowed tops. At least the porn I have seen.

Plus, I personally know of no true bottoms or vers men who find anal painful by any definition of the word, and I know many gay men. Some of us even fist,
DP and can clear some truly huge missiles.

Sure, I know men who have at one time, initially found anal to be painful (myself included for all of about 10 seconds), but I cannot say there is a general consensus "everywhere" that anal sex is painful, quite the opposite, in fact.

-topher

 

[HeyAll]

Nobody wants to watch a porn where the receiver shows no emotions and keeps the pleasure bottled up inside.

 

[CandiCame]

Didn't someone say that crazy happy sex face & pain face are really similar? Because I could see that.

 

[lustatopia]

My experience is that it's just like vaginal sex, the first time is going to be a tight fit but after a few gentle good fuckings, the membranes and tissue stretch out a bit and it becomes easy and totally enjoyable. The trick is not to bust ass on your first time out.

But then I've never fucked a guy that was a real virgin. It seems like all us queers stick a lot stuff up our own asses before we actually find a boyfriend to fuck us. Thus, most gay men have little problem getting fucked for the first time if you're gentle. I'm kind of the exception (as my ex, girlsmiley, who loves her huge black strap-on, will vouch for) I'm a real tight ass.

Oh...keep in mind - the fundamental different between anal and vaginal sex is that the vagina supplies its own lubrication and the anus doesn't, so come prepared, boyscout!

Also don't just jump right in there unless you're fucking a real anal whore like Safe_bet whose ass is so wide she regularly sticks her whole head up herself.... Foreplay, lotions, rimming, fingering and licking will make the experience that much more pleasurable for all involved.