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SweetErika
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How old are you?
What have you tried so far?
What have you tried so far?
iswallowloads
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How can i hold on for long while having sex without letting out my cum? i just wanna enjoy it for a longer period of time
For some men, position is really important to endurance. I can last at least an hour doggie style, and twice that standing up (if she's petite and my arms don't tire out). If she's on top it varies. Missionary position, forget it, I'm a two minute wonder.
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Do your partners actually enjoy penetration for an hour or two in either of those positions?For some men, position is really important to endurance. I can last at least an hour doggie style, and twice that standing up (if she's petite and my arms don't tire out). If she's on top it varies. Missionary position, forget it, I'm a two minute wonder.
If my guy lasted for an hour (nevermind TWO) of penetration, we'd be talking about why he was having trouble coming and what we could do about it. I'm sure some people enjoy marathon men, but I'm not one of them - too much of a good thing gets boring and painful really fast.
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Well, I'm not hung like an elephant, so I'm sure being bigger might pose a problem when doing it for that long. And it's not like I'm just pounding away for that whole time. Anyway, I haven't had any complaints. Most women I've been with are the opposite of you.
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basically I'd say think of anything other than what you are doing that is not at all sexual. One time I felt like I was gonna cum too soon and started thinking of pinball strategies (not really on purpose, just trying to think of something other than sex). Totally goofy I know, but distracted me and I lasted a while. Of course another time with the same woman I lasted long enough that she asked me to please finish cause she was getting tired, lol. The main thing for me seems to be how much recent activity I've had.
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No, size doesn't have anything to do with it for me.
That, or they're not coming before sex and/or are too worried about hurting your ego to tell you they'd prefer to have you hurry it up. Most women know better than to comment on their lover's cock size, erectile dysfunction and the time it takes him to ejaculate because brutal honesty regarding those subjects can do a lot of harm and rarely does any good.
Anyway, I'm not trying to plant seeds of doubt or asserting that some women don't enjoy hours of intercourse; I am bringing up the perspective that lasting longer intercourse isn't necessarily a good thing. Before men strive for Energizer Bunny status, they should talk to their partner(s) and see what's ideal for them because 5 or 15 minutes of really fantastic sex after an orgasm or three may very well be preferable to an hour or two of penetration.
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I'd prefer to stick to the purpose of this post, but just to clarify, I never said it lasted that long every time, with every woman. Not all men are the same, you know. Some of us do actually talk to our lovers about sex and care about what they think/how they feel.
But since the OP asked if anybody had any advice on how to last longer...
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How can i hold on for long while having sex without letting out my cum? i just wanna enjoy it for a longer period of time
Why do you have to hold on? Just enjoy it and go for round two if you're both interested.
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Good point. Round two's are always nice. And most men last quite a while the second time.
yeah i agree with that.. i always thought holding for a long time n cumming.. like in porn movies
Btw im 18 years old
..i just wanted to know what you guys gonna say about it..thanx for the help
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yeah i agree with that.. i always thought holding for a long time n cumming.. like in porn movies
Btw im 18 years old
That's where you're going wrong, young grasshopper. Porn isn't real life, and in most cases, real life shouldn't even try to emulate porn ('cause much of it's fake, a result of editing, etc. - it's fiction and fantasy, just like any other movie). If you have trouble with premature ejaculation (like coming before you get your pants off or as soon as you look at/touch your partner) or want to last a little longer, fine--there are ways to deal with those things--but if you're just trying to match or outdo what you've seen in porn, your efforts are better spent elsewhere. Like learning about your real body and mind, your real partners and real sex in general.
For instance, did you know that around 75% of women don't come from penetration alone? Porn would have you think all women come just from looking at or touching a cock or being touched by their partner. With the real numbers, you're much better off focusing on becoming great with your hands, mouth and toys than figuring out how you can keep your cock in a woman longer. There's nothing wrong with learning that, or how to give pleasure with your cock in general, but focusing on being a great lover overall will give you your best shot at pleasing your partner (and probably yourself, too).
yeah i agree with that.. i always thought holding for a long time n cumming.. like in porn movies
Btw im 18 years old
dude you should seriously check out debbie does dallas again on shotime if you can. It'll bust a lot of common illusions about porn. its a good show if you want to learn more about that industry behind the scenes.
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yeah i agree with that.. i always thought holding for a long time n cumming.. like in porn movies
Btw im 18 years old
Firstly, as Erika pointed out, porn is not real life. Women do not require a feature length fuckathon in order to be satisfied. You need to shift perspective a bit there.
Secondly, as you're 18 I'm taking a bet that you wank more often than you eat. This is a bad idea as you are probably getting yourself into a pattern of fast, vigorous stimulation with a rapid end result. Try slowing that down and gently bringing yourself almost to the point of cumming before backing off and regaining control a few times. Once you learn when to spot this point of no return, you can reach it and then ease off or pause penetrative sex completely and indulge in other activities until you're ready to fuck again. This can then be done multiple times until your girl is begging for mercy if that's your dearest wish.
You may find slower, gentler sex with your girl allows you to last longer too. Pounding away at her like a pneumatic drill will not do your staying power any favours.
There are condoms and lubricants available that claim to enhance performance, though I have no clue how effective they are. You could always try them out.
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