How do I relax down there?

[nene_x]

So I'm gonna get straight to the point. I really, really want to have sex but I close up down there. Like my vagina will literally will not let even a finger go in. But I did sleep with my ex although it wasn't enjoyable until the fourth time we had sex. But then we broke up. And I thought I was all good and it's been a year since and I'm talking to this new guy and we tried having sex like a month ago and it would just not go in. Even with lube. I'm meeting him again soon but I'm so nervous it wont go in again. Idk what to do

Any advice to relax myself? Or if any of y'all faced the same issue how did you get through it?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Have you tried speaking with your gynecologist about this? For a lot of women, we need to feel 100% safe to be able to relax and really enjoy sex. But, what you’re describing seems like it may be more complex than needing help relaxing and feeling safe. I would definitely recommend speaking to an OB/GYN about this. Hopefully the guy you’re seeing is full of green flags and wants to support you through this. And I sure hope you find your way to relaxing and really enjoying sex.

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