My Gay Friend

[BiCuriousGeorge]

where to start... im 23 and bicurious. ive never really done anything with a guy, but i find myself sometimes thinking of what it would be like to do certain things with a guy. at first it was just a passing thought but the older i get the more i think about it and have recently begun honestly considering hooking up with someone, even if for nothing else than to scratch an itch. i recently met a guy who is gay. he has commented about thinks i like, like tv shows or movies, saying, "you know, most people that like that are closet gay". i truly dont beleive im gay, i perfer women to men, but i cant say im not curious. is my meeting him a sign? could this be the guy i experiment with? and how would something like that even begin? how do you expail you are only interested in certain things, and that this could all be entirely a one time thing? ive got so many questions...
i am at the mercy or your collective wisdon and experience. thnx

 

[AussieAngel]

talk to him.

sit down with him and talk about it. he is sure to understand i reckon.

tell him you are curious.. but only about certain things.. ask him for advice.. he could then either hook you up with someone else.. or help you himself..

dont worry about whether you are closet gay or not. just talk to him and give it a shot!!

good luck

 

[Hitchiker69]

Just do it

I fully agree with AussieAngel. You can think about it for years, you can talk about it here on these boards, you can go on forever in fantasy and curiosity. Or you can take action.

One of my favorite phrases is 'An unlived life is not worth examining'
Sitting at home, alone, typing your thoughts and concerns into a computer anonymously, is not a life.

Invite your friend over and talk to him. Tell him of your feelings. Ask him how he dealt with his first time, and how he came out. Ask him for advice. Then come up with your own plan. Do it with him or someone else.

The worst that can happen is that you won't like it, and you may have some regrets. The best is that it might rock your world and change your life.

You didn't say exactly what you have in mind, but here's an idea of how to get things started...a bottle of wine and a massage...so much good sex has started with this!

 

[horsie_gurl]

I see it this way:

If he has already brought it up with you...about being gay that is. Then maybe he has feelings for you or knows that you have some sort of fantasy about beig with a man. Why would he bring it up and almost tease you about it?


I think you should go for it. Try the wine and dine idea with a massage and I dont think he would have a problem with it. You know though, it would be fool proof to talk about it so whatever you decide. Best wishes to you and your fantasies.

 

[hokieclimber]

I concur with the talk to him sentiment.

That's how I had my first experience, I had a gay friend and we talked for quite a number of months about what I was feeling and I eventually decided that it was something I wanted to try and that I wanted to try it with him, since I knew him and trusted him I felt comfortable.

And I couldn't be more happy that I did, in my case I didn't regret it at all and it was definitely the right thing to do.