intothewoods
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Really? In Miami?
Munches
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Really? In Miami?
Stella_Omega
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I often stutter a bit when I meet people face to face, undecided whether to offer them my "Stella" handle or my "real" name. 
If you can't identify your BDSM proclivities-- in a discreet, non-demonstrative way-- at a BDSM munch, why go? You might as well be at a PTA meeting.
If you can't identify your BDSM proclivities-- in a discreet, non-demonstrative way-- at a BDSM munch, why go? You might as well be at a PTA meeting.
Marquis
Jack Dawkins
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Oh yes.
Lizzie_Borden
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About the same.
And then I consider the fact that I should probably find some friends that I can talk about D/s stuff with and I figure I should go.
Then I end up talking to y'all about it.
*shrugs*
00Syd
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I wrote this big long post about how other people I've known have combated the shyness/fear of going to their first event, and how groups I'm involved with are working to make it easier for people to come to their first event without fear, and how it's totally worth it to do it. I wrote like, two whole paragraphs about how this BDSM forum was really helpful to me when I was first starting to explore, but that it wasn't until I ventured out that I really felt like I was getting down to the nitty gritty of it all. And they were some pretty good paragraphs.
But then I hit the refresh button by accident. So, feel free to imagine how glorious my response was.
KoPilot
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Never been to one, and I don't really have much of a desire to if I'm going alone. Not interested in casual play at all, and I don't really have anything to ask about. If I do, I come here. 
It's a shame that other kinds of fetish folk are so cloistered... going to a meetup with some of them would be fun (assuming they're well-adjusted people, lol)~
It's a shame that other kinds of fetish folk are so cloistered... going to a meetup with some of them would be fun (assuming they're well-adjusted people, lol)~
FurryFury
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I found it greatly soothing to know I could talk to real life people in real time that had some kink in them and be myself in a nilla setting.
I wanted to see a demo on a few things too, if I could, that I needed to learn about before trying at home.
I have NO interest in public play at all.
FF
I wanted to see a demo on a few things too, if I could, that I needed to learn about before trying at home.
I have NO interest in public play at all.
FF
DVS
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Now that was fucking glorious. And It's nice to see that I'm not the only one that writes long posts.
The munch I went to that turned out to be so disasterous was full of people talking, eating and laughing. I don't remember if anyone mentioned names at all. At least nobody mentioned a name to me. It was at a normal resturant, so there is no fetish dress allowed, and unless a private room is rented, the topic of conversation must also be fairly vanilla.
Munches are suppose to be meet and greet affairs where you can get to know the group and see if you want to maybe go to a regular meeting. In a meeting, there is (or should be) a Sergeant at arms or some other kind of door watcher who keeps the order and doesn't let just anybody in. Munches are suppose to be a way for everybody to get to know one another in a safe, nonthreatening atmosphere.
Some people have social anxiety and I understand that, but a munch isn't any worse than any other kind of dinner arrangement...or at least it shouldn't be.
DVS
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If you've never had that opportunity, it is quite refreshing to get together with like minded people that you don't have to worry about saying something that could get some strange looks.I found it greatly soothing to know I could talk to real life people in real time that had some kink in them and be myself in a nilla setting.
I wanted to see a demo on a few things too, if I could, that I needed to learn about before trying at home.
I have NO interest in public play at all.
FF
DVS
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That was one of the reasons for sponsors. The sponsor would be the connection between you and the group...introduce you to other members and suggest mutual topics of interest which could be the start of a more interesting connection. And if nothing else, you'd have someone to talk to.
loneranger8921
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Well Munch's are gathering usually dinners whree people interested in Bd/Sm attend. The ones I have attended seem to have a high number of fetishests there to like crossdressers and such. Not an issue with me but there.
It is a good time with many sexual undertones and meanings.
I have gone with a girl that is expirancing the lifestyle with me.
I was wondering what happens at other munch's and what event people use to spark conversations. The last munch I went to had a yankee gift swapp it was a hoot. like to here more please
It is a good time with many sexual undertones and meanings.
I have gone with a girl that is expirancing the lifestyle with me.
I was wondering what happens at other munch's and what event people use to spark conversations. The last munch I went to had a yankee gift swapp it was a hoot. like to here more please
I am more scared about going and seeing someone I knew
Sir_Winston54
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*snort*
Wife #3 and I went to our first play party together, and ran into (literally) an excellent homicide defense attorney she worked with on a fairly regular basis... nekkid and being led around by a leash attached to a ring in his scrotum. Both their eyes got very VERY wide, both shyly said, "Hi," and walked in opposite directions. The next time she saw him in the courthouse, they both shyly said, "Hi," again, smiled, and acted as if nothing outside the courthouse had ever happened.
Remember: If you see someone you know at a munch or play party, the odds are *well past excellent* that they realize, as much as you do, that "outing" you would out them as well, and they have absolutely no interest in being outed.
Stella_Omega
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you've just learned as much about them as they have about you.
And you still haven't seen them DO anything except sit in a restaurant and eat a meal.
Lizzie_Borden
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I'm totally waiting for the day that I come across someone I know.
It would depend on the context. At a munch etc it'd be all like 'hey, you're a perv too! Sweet!' and no problemo. If I saw their naked pics on a hook up site, or saw them naked in person at a swinger's club, or worse, they saw *me* naked, then I'd be more than a little freaked out.
DVS
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you all are just too uptight. If you see someone you know, they are also seeing someone they know. Put yourself in their shoes. How can they say anything about you? You're both in the same situation. Sure, it might be a little weird in the beginning, but isn't everything a little weird in the beginning.
FurryFury
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Netzach
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That's how I met T.
His nametag had a normal name on it and he was wearing a button down shirt.
Two plusses.
Felix_Jones
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Getting ideas. I've found I can't regress sexually, every woman I see from now on's gonna have to have a strapon, some other toys and and S & M bench of some kind. Curses!
