Masculine men, this is your thread.

[goodsonformom]

How did you know who was excited by it?

I believe most men who are "awake" have been dealing with men who appreciate other men's bodies since they were boys. I know I have always recognized certain men who saw me in a sexually attractive way, by either an obvious "tell" or through a subtle gesture or glance.

 

[goodsonformom]

On the LGBTQIA+ forum, there are many threads about "sissydom" and the desire to be a sissy. This desire is foreign to me, and, I think, to many gay and bisexual men. On one thread, the comment was made that masculine men don't post on forums like this and are mainly concerned with getting their rocks off. Suck, fuck, cum, go. Maybe that's true for many, but from my own personal experience of sex with other men, the best sex has been relational, even if it was only a brief relationship, The emotional side of sex is, in my opinion, powerful.

I would like to see posts from other masculine men who also have no desire to be a sissy, or even to be with a sissy. I'd like to test the waters to see if the comment referenced above is true, or if, as I suspect, other masculine men do actually post on forums like this.

So, masculine men, are you out there? And are you in touch with your emotions without losing your sense of masculinity? It will be interesting to see if this thread goes anywhere.

This is such a great topic, Thank you Ron for opening Pandora's box. From a man who is now very masculine in appearance, but has his beginnings as a more submissive young male and has always recognized his bisexuality, I applaud this discussion. I don't know if the label masculine is being applied correctly, as many Dominant Gay men are very masculine. Can't this question be more appropriately discussed in the forum of are there any masculine males who desire to be with another masculine male? Of course, there are. I think what we may be talking about is a Bi-curious male or a male who believes he's a straight male and is in denial of his true desires or capacity to be with another male sexually. We read stories quite often about straight men turned Bi or Gay, for a wide variety of reasons. The question of whether the male in "question," is not if he is willing to be with a sissy or more feminine male, but is he more or less attracted to them. I've known plenty of masculine males who would only date or have a relationship with a sissy or more feminine male as it seemed closer to being with a woman. From my perspective, this makes far more sense for a man who struggles with his masculinity or is in denial of his own sexuality. I think much of this centers around the "cock"....many men would never admit to being intrigued by the power of the cock nor might they post on forums like this, but you might be surprised. I believe it's dangerous to attempt to pigeonhole a man's sexuality and desires into neat boxes. We all have had sexual and masculine experiences relating to men all of our lives, how those experiences have impacted us by opening and closing doors is varied and individual. There is a part of this world that is becoming more open and inclusive, and then there are those who are desperately holding on to past fears and judgmental rhetoric.

 

[mtsnowrider]

Interesting perspective. I think I am a fairly typical (if somewhat confused) but not hyper masculine guy. I do not find sissy/feminine man attractive but I have always enjoyed looking at in-shape male bodies and fantasized about having a sexual relationship with another man that includes some emotional attachment - an actual friendship that involves sex but more than sex. The anonymous hookup does not interest me at all and since that seems to be the norm for dl meetings I doubt, at this point, I will find what I want without significantly lowering my standards - (but then maybe that's just my confusion/reluctance/fears talking)

 

[goodsonformom]

Interesting perspective. I think I am a fairly normal (if somewhat confused) but not hyper masculine guy. I do not find sissy/feminine man attractive but I have always enjoyed looking at in-shape male bodies and fantasized about having a sexual relationship with another man that includes some emotional attachment - an actual friendship that involves sex but more than sex. The anonymous hookup does not interest me at all and since that seems to be the norm for dl meetings I doubt, at this point, I will find what I want without significantly lowering my standards - (but then maybe that's just my confusion/reluctance/fears talking)

Hey, what's normal?...lol. I look at male-to-male relationships exactly like I look at heterosexual relationships. What makes some women like BBC, or some men like BBW...it's all a personal choice, right? I suppose my very first male-to-male sexual relationship framed my desires and preferences and was what all would be compared to. I have no problem with a quick anonymous encounter if the situation is appropriate...but my first Gay relationship was with my best friend growing up. We did what most young males did, she showed each other our cocks, graduated to touching each other, then sucking. One day he told me he needed more. I actually walked away, not understanding what he needed. it took me some time to ask him what he meant. I was a straight young male, what could he mean by wanting more? I told him I was a straight young male. He said, "Really, you've been sucking my cock, and I yours for 3 years...you've had a couple of girlfriends who you never slept with, but we have shared a bed many times...all I want from this relationship is some affection, not just sex.

There it was. The thing I struggled with the most. I wanted to run. My denial and fear of looking at myself as a faggot or queer was powerful. Then he leaned in and kissed me.

 

[sensual69male]

i appreciate males who are happy being male.

 

[cdstefi]

On the LGBTQIA+ forum, there are many threads about "sissydom" and the desire to be a sissy. This desire is foreign to me, and, I think, to many gay and bisexual men. On one thread, the comment was made that masculine men don't post on forums like this and are mainly concerned with getting their rocks off. Suck, fuck, cum, go. Maybe that's true for many, but from my own personal experience of sex with other men, the best sex has been relational, even if it was only a brief relationship, The emotional side of sex is, in my opinion, powerful.

I would like to see posts from other masculine men who also have no desire to be a sissy, or even to be with a sissy. I'd like to test the waters to see if the comment referenced above is true, or if, as I suspect, other masculine men do actually post on forums like this.

So, masculine men, are you out there? And are you in touch with your emotions without losing your sense of masculinity? It will be interesting to see if this thread goes anywhere.

Rob, where would you stand on guys who are masculine, do not pretend or affect any kind of sissy behaviour, but still like to crossdress? For me wearing lingerie is kind of a libido turbo that just makes me feel even more masculine and centred on my cock.

And despite my own predilection for lingerie and desire to be with another wearer, I can't deny that a man dressed in male underwear (whisper it, maybe even socks too), especially with a large masculine bulge outlined in the fabric, is pretty enticing and gets me a little weak at the knees.

 

[sandybrooke]

i appreciate males who are happy being male.
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This is the kind of shot I jerkoff to!!

 

[stargame]

i appreciate males who are happy being male.
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I'd kiss him in a thousand ways....

 

[mtsnowrider]

I'd kiss him in a thousand ways....

And a thousand places, no doubt

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

Rob, where would you stand on guys who are masculine, do not pretend or affect any kind of sissy behaviour, but still like to crossdress? For me wearing lingerie is kind of a libido turbo that just makes me feel even more masculine and centred on my cock.

And despite my own predilection for lingerie and desire to be with another wearer, I can't deny that a man dressed in male underwear (whisper it, maybe even socks too), especially with a large masculine bulge outlined in the fabric, is pretty enticing and gets me a little weak at the knees.

Where I stand on this is where I always stand: Everyone should do whatever they want, dress how they want, and not worry about labels if they choose to not be labeled. I started this thread only because I saw so many threads related to Sissy/fem/cd/whatever. I was curious to find if there were other men like me who didn't care for that and would comment. This in no way is to denigrate anyone's sexual lifestyle choices and preferences.

 

[goodsonformom]

Where I stand on this is where I always stand: Everyone should do whatever they want, dress how they want, and not worry about labels if they choose to not be labeled. I started this thread only because I saw so many threads related to Sissy/fem/cd/whatever. I was curious to find if there were other men like me who didn't care for that and would comment. This in no way is to denigrate anyone's sexual lifestyle choices and preferences.

I think it was a brilliant idea for a thread and appreciate the opportunity to share and learn from others about their feelings..

 

[cdstefi]

Where I stand on this is where I always stand: Everyone should do whatever they want, dress how they want, and not worry about labels if they choose to not be labeled. I started this thread only because I saw so many threads related to Sissy/fem/cd/whatever. I was curious to find if there were other men like me who didn't care for that and would comment. This in no way is to denigrate anyone's sexual lifestyle choices and preferences.

Well reasoned and thoughtful answer, thanks. My personal opinion, for whatever that's worth, is that sex and being horny is triggered by a lot of things that are personal to each individual. I'm personally not drawn to overt, traditionally butch masculinity and like a bit of fem energy in guys, but not too much, not all the way down the sissy road. I like sensitivity.

After all if you're even considering sex with a man, you're gonna be dealing with cock, and male energy and ultimately the male orgasm and drive.

 

[goodsonformom]

you're gonna be dealing with cock, and male energy and ultimately the male orgasm and drive.

Stefi...Great comment...I concur completely with your words..."you're gonna be dealing with cock, and male energy, and ultimately the male orgasm and drive." And frankly, even with a slightly feminine male, this is still part of the dynamic, and what I love the most...I love everything about it...

 

[mtsnowrider]

Hey, what's normal?...lol. I look at male-to-male relationships exactly like I look at heterosexual relationships. What makes some women like BBC, or some men like BBW...it's all a personal choice, right? I suppose my very first male-to-male sexual relationship framed my desires and preferences and was what all would be compared to. I have no problem with a quick anonymous encounter if the situation is appropriate...but my first Gay relationship was with my best friend growing up. We did what most young males did, she showed each other our cocks, graduated to touching each other, then sucking. One day he told me he needed more. I actually walked away, not understanding what he needed. it took me some time to ask him what he meant. I was a straight young male, what could he mean by wanting more? I told him I was a straight young male. He said, "Really, you've been sucking my cock, and I yours for 3 years...you've had a couple of girlfriends who you never slept with, but we have shared a bed many times...all I want from this relationship is some affection, not just sex.

There it was. The thing I struggled with the most. I wanted to run. My denial and fear of looking at myself as a faggot or queer was powerful. Then he leaned in and kissed me.

True... I changed " normal" to "typical" . Did not mean to imply that anyone's choices were not ok ( except obviously minors or unwanted force)

 

[Andis72]

On the LGBTQIA+ forum, there are many threads about "sissydom" and the desire to be a sissy. This desire is foreign to me, and, I think, to many gay and bisexual men. On one thread, the comment was made that masculine men don't post on forums like this and are mainly concerned with getting their rocks off. Suck, fuck, cum, go. Maybe that's true for many, but from my own personal experience of sex with other men, the best sex has been relational, even if it was only a brief relationship, The emotional side of sex is, in my opinion, powerful.

I would like to see posts from other masculine men who also have no desire to be a sissy, or even to be with a sissy. I'd like to test the waters to see if the comment referenced above is true, or if, as I suspect, other masculine men do actually post on forums like this.

So, masculine men, are you out there? And are you in touch with your emotions without losing your sense of masculinity? It will be interesting to see if this thread goes anywhere.

I feel exactly the same and I want to be with other like minded men. 51 mwm Canada

 

[Andis72]

Interesting perspective. I think I am a fairly typical (if somewhat confused) but not hyper masculine guy. I do not find sissy/feminine man attractive but I have always enjoyed looking at in-shape male bodies and fantasized about having a sexual relationship with another man that includes some emotional attachment - an actual friendship that involves sex but more than sex. The anonymous hookup does not interest me at all and since that seems to be the norm for dl meetings I doubt, at this point, I will find what I want without significantly lowering my standards - (but then maybe that's just my confusion/reluctance/fears talking)

Don't give up your standards I think a lot of us are out there .. I really like the way you put it a friendship that involves sex but more than sex.. right on

 

[mtsnowrider]

Don't give up your standards I think a lot of us are out there .. I really like the way you put it a friendship that involves sex but more than sex.. right on

Thanks. Don't need "a lot of us"....just one will do -lol

 

[sensual69male]

See? I love this! Even though I prefer girls/women in general, naked alone in a communal shower with that guy, I'll make my dick hard and in full view for him to appreciate just because my body asks to suck him off! A masculine men wanting another masculine men is a really sensual and natural thing for me

after the showers... we can "check things out" in the sauna, where the heat displays cock and balls so nicely. ~

 

[goodsonformom]

after the showers... we can "check things out" in the sauna, where the heat displays cock and balls so nicely. ~

Oooooh, a hot sweaty sauna...and two hard cocks.

 

[lit_ch3]

after the showers... we can "check things out" in the sauna, where the heat displays cock and balls so nicely. ~

A sauna is exactly the random, impromptu place I expect to suck the second cock in my life....

 

[lit_ch3]

I told this story elsewhere but amma repeat it here because it's fun and appropriate to the topic!

I like to go to the spa. Period. I'd go alone but most of the time, me and my wife like to go together. Lots of things to do there, besides relaxation, although its the main activity:
-Enjoying the locker rooms and their intimacy, showing off of cocks between men, showering, etc.
-In the spa sections, bathing with strangers has always been fun for me: looking at women and men of all shapes, sizes, colours and ages barely clothed, usually in a very "laid back" mood. Having secret (or not so secret) erections in the warm water, enjoying the view in general is very fun as well.

At these spa, me and wifey like to play a game: we pick someone in the general crowd there, and always say two numbers. The first one is their age. The second one is a general appreciation of if we'd be open to have sex with them, purely based on looks, 1 meaning "no thanks", 5 meaning "i wouldn't care" and 10 meaning "He/she can do whatever he/she wants to me". As a general rule, if i pick someone, she would have to answer first, and then i would, vice versa.

We both learned a lot about our sexuality there, playing for 10-15 minutes at a time, here and there. For instance, I once asked her about a man probably in his late 50's. He was very average looking to me, but looked like he took care of his body. I picked him and asked. She said "50-9". I was surprised! I questionned her but she just told me he looked very manly and looked like his "thing" was big. Indeed he wore a very tight bathing suit. I then answered 55-3.

Later that day, she picked a black guy. He was tall and well grimmed, and also quite muscular. He was with his girlfriend, and the girl was gorgeous. At first, she pointed in their general direction. I asked: him or her? "Him". I said: 25 and... 10. It was the first time i said 10.
The look that she gave me was priceless: her eyes were round with surprise. She then answered 28-6.

At the end of our visit, we went to the 18+ section of the center. Basically, this was the part of the center where they handed you an extra towel and you could take off you bathing suit. It was also more intimate, but still outdoors: there were two hot spa, a cold one, a sauna and a steam room. Guess who we met in the steam room! The black guy and his white girlfriend, of course. I smiled. My girl noticed. I went over to sit next to them. Passing by them, I glanced at the balls and the cock of the man: dark, furry and big, real big.
I whispered to my wife: "Earlier, I said 25-10. I stand corrected: 26-12." I would have sucked him off right there and then. She smiled and whispered back: "okay he's a 10". I took my towel off to show them my dick and we chatted a little. He was a lawyer! Gosh if i wasnt married!

I've said it before. I'll say it again. Little real-life stories like this are why I come to Lit. Thanks for this....

 

[CEOescape]

Welcome back to the forum, Rob.

While I have no desire to be feminize or to feminize other men, I think that for some reason extremes tend to be emphasized in the m2m world way more then they should. I've noticed that many from the feminized world of men tend to de-emphasize the positive traits of real women (family), and over-emphasize what I rarely see -- a sex craved creature like the porn industry would like you to think women are. Then on the other extreme that I don't care for are these guys who think m2m is all about sex (getting off), no physicial attraction, and (HEAVEN forbid) some emotional connection. I'm sorry, but I don't see cock-obsessed, but male-heart no-interest men as some kind of valid non-gay/non-bi sexuality identity. I see it as an extreme character flaw that I just wouldn't have time to interact with such individuals if I were free or wanted to do so.

I never pulled out an engagement ring when I was single and on the prowl. I never expected a man with family commitments to dump them all for me, but to think I didn't imagine that one day some loving man cared enough to choose me would also have been a lie. I'll have been with my better half 21 years this coming Labor Day. We have our ups and downs, but I wouldn't trade him for anything. He is my better half. He is the one who makes my life something I enjoy every day.

I love doing thing for him if I can. I tend to do the laundry for instance. Not because I'm effeminate, but because it is something I can do for him. The only gender bending I wish were possible were for 2 men to be able to create life. It's not about feminizing myself or my partner, but I wish m2m love led to something that last past our lifetimes. Sex is about bonding and pro-creating, and sadly the latter isn't an option for m2m relationships. I am infertile, so it wasn't in the cards for me, but I do know that something is missing in that I did not continue on my life because I couldn't sire kids. My partner did. I think it is part of his goodness. I couldn't imagine loving a guy that didn't like kids (and as an extension of that -- animals).

That is my only regret. However, I couldn't imagine life without him if the creator said I get a do over, but could be fertile, and sire kids in such a do over if I never met my partner. My heart would have a big hole without him.

veery well said !!!!!!!!!!!

 

[roseburgsteve]

I consider myself masculine, I love being with masculine men. I am a bottom and I get very passionate with the men I am with. Masculine doesn't mean you can't be passionate and emotional with another man.

 

[wallio]

like i said before. when I'm with a man i want them to act like a man if i want feminine I'll fuck the wife

 

[roseburgsteve]

like i said before. when I'm with a man i want them to act like a man if i want feminine I'll fuck the wife

Me to for sure