Married Posters

[kure]

Mysticbob - as you can see, there are a few other male posters in similar situations. I don't know of a thread discussing it specifically. I would suggest finding a reliable sitter and having a nice evening out once a month. Get all spiffy for her, just like when you first met. Make the effort to do it up ... cologne, maybe flowers for her. Even if you can't afford a fancy restaurant, have a blast at the local bar or something. Feeling that connection of good friendship, romance all leads to awesome sex. If you can't get out, grill her favorite dinner outside after the kids are asleep. Light up the patio with candles ... music .. dance under the stars. *unsolicited advice from the hopeless romantic*

I have a thread going much like his problem. (only I have exposed my emotions more). Sometimes it just cant be fixed with the obvious things.

I would be interested in everyones ideas.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=248710

c

 

[Boobyprize]

Mine hasn't and i am sure she would go spare if i did, i agree about the dolls

Hmmm, so I suppose it would be difficult to introduce them just like that! How about starting with something a little less obvious then? Like some massage oil and a massager - is that any good? Or some jokey handcuffs, or bringing a vibe home and saying 'hey dear, you'll never guess what I won in the raffle at work - any idea what it is for?!!!'

 

[mickyp123]

I did think about the raffle one, but i think she might sus that, a friend gave us some body chockolate for chrismas but she ate it, i'll give the oil a try, and let you know.
If you have a draw of toys what is he doing, i would have got a job lot of batteries lol.

 

[Boobyprize]

I did think about the raffle one, but i think she might sus that, a friend gave us some body chockolate for chrismas but she ate it, i'll give the oil a try, and let you know.
If you have a draw of toys what is he doing, i would have got a job lot of batteries lol.

Well, yes....but what did she eat it off?! Obviously not you from the sound of it.... Unfortunately, the majority of my toys are either gathering dust, or used for solo pleasures these days (don't worry, I buy batteries in bulk)! x

 

[_pebbles]

Mabe this technology has allowed people to have "cyber affairs" instead of real ones as a half way house or as a safety valve, i mean it would be great if my wife could sit next to me and the both of us getting hot flirting with people.
Booby or pebbles what would your reaction be if your hubby bought you a sex toy, pleased or enraged?

I would be happy. He's bought me toys before. Any girl worth her salt has toys Shows that she's aware of her body and what makes her cum. If she doesn't know what will make her cum, it is highly unlikely that a man is gonna come along and figure it out for her.

 

[rl_dylan]

Know thy self

Well, I am a little older than what you are looking for _pebbles, but just wanted to expand on what you stated - - - if a woman doen't know her own body, the best lover in the world may not be able to do the right thing, touch the right places, lick the sweet spots, or move his tongue on your clit with the right tenderness. Show him with your "toys" and your fingers what you like, and (if he is man enough) will fill your nights with pleasure!!!

 

[SensualMale]

Hmmm... Hello again pebbles

No, my wife doesn't know I'm on here, or anywhere else And I plan to keep it that way, unless you're gonna tell her

We do have it often, but that's not enough! I'm always longing to smell and taste and lick and suck another hot pair of lips (both pairs). I have done that before, and ... lemme think ... I'll do it again with the right woman So far, I've been able to keep things private and separate, mentally and otherwise.

 

[_pebbles]

I have a thread going much like his problem. (only I have exposed my emotions more). Sometimes it just cant be fixed with the obvious things.

I would be interested in everyones ideas.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=248710

c

ty kure, I'll check out your thread.

 

[_pebbles]

Azcigar - print out a few of the finer stories here at lit and leave them on her pillow Her imagination can't help but flow ...

I'm a 35 yo married male. When my wife and I first met I was very upfront with my dreams, fantasies and my philosophies on how life is short and why not live it to the fullest. I was very upfront about how I need my mind involved with sex as much as my penis. I have a great imagination that needs to be fed. I was completely honest because I had been married before and was hell bent on not repeating that experience. She felt the same way and our sexlife couldn't have been better. After a few years of marriage my wife now says to me "oh I was hoping it was just a phase you were going through." :-( So, needless to say I now have no outlet for my imagination. I love her dearly. Sex in itself is great. Sex for me though can't be fulfilling if it's routinely just a physical act of getting off. No she doesn't know about lit and know she won't know about it either. I would love to find people to e-mail back and forth. I see it as a way of exercising the demons. Lol

 

[_pebbles]

I agree wholeheartedly about the safety valve. A cyber affair allows your mind to experience all the new and exciting aspects of desire and lust for someone new ...

Mabe this technology has allowed people to have "cyber affairs" instead of real ones as a half way house or as a safety valve, i mean it would be great if my wife could sit next to me and the both of us getting hot flirting with people.
Booby or pebbles what would your reaction be if your hubby bought you a sex toy, pleased or enraged?

 

[mickyp123]

I agree wholeheartedly about the safety valve. A cyber affair allows your mind to experience all the new and exciting aspects of desire and lust for someone new ...

Pebbles
I have not read every thread and you may have therefore touched on the subject, if you had an email session with someone and "got off" together would you feel any guilt?

 

[_pebbles]

I have no guilt about doing that, micky.

Pebbles
I have not read every thread and you may have therefore touched on the subject, if you had an email session with someone and "got off" together would you feel any guilt?

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Do you still feel you are struggling with the decision to stay faithful, Mike? I agree, the line is blurry once you think a line exists at all and that you may cross it. I'd say for about the first 7 or 8 years of my marriage that I didn't really notice other men in a sexual way. I was totally into my hubby and he was all I needed sexually. Now I'm not so sure.

Am I struggling with it? Yes. After 29 years of marriage. But that is a lot to risk. A whole life together.
Yet, for the entire 29 years, I certainly thought about other women in a sexual way. There were times when the thoughts were sort of academic
and others when it seemed very real.

And I've felt a strong need for different experiences.
Does cybersex constitute cheating?
Does phone sex?
I"ve told myself no.
But how much farther????

 

[ben23]

Hi

36 year old married guy from the uk here whose wife has no idea that I visit here.

Like so many other contributors here I love my wife to bits but our sex life is not great and show no signs of improving, so I visit here. As others have said its surely better than having an affair.

However I would like to meet someone to share emails and sexy experiences with, either from the uk or abroad.

Please PM me if your interested.


Ben

 

[tasskitty]

She knows and dosen't care

Hi all,

I have been posting on an off for a while here and my wife knows. Sometimes she likes to read what I post but other then that really doesn't care/ We have a very open marriage (were more like roommates then husband and wife) though I think that is because of our very diffrent intrests.

She has seen my cyber on line and just ignored it. Though she has asked me to actually do more then write responces to threads so eventually I will actually post a story..

Tass

 

[_pebbles]

I've told myself those things don't constitute cheating either. I don't know how much farther either. I want to cross the line, but most importantly I want to find the right man to do it with.

Am I struggling with it? Yes. After 29 years of marriage. But that is a lot to risk. A whole life together.
Yet, for the entire 29 years, I certainly thought about other women in a sexual way. There were times when the thoughts were sort of academic
and others when it seemed very real.

And I've felt a strong need for different experiences.
Does cybersex constitute cheating?
Does phone sex?
I"ve told myself no.
But how much farther????

 

[_pebbles]

I knew someone was bound to use this as to place their own personal ad! lol I hope you find your girl, Ben.

Hi

36 year old married guy from the uk here whose wife has no idea that I visit here.

Like so many other contributors here I love my wife to bits but our sex life is not great and show no signs of improving, so I visit here. As others have said its surely better than having an affair.

However I would like to meet someone to share emails and sexy experiences with, either from the uk or abroad.

Please PM me if your interested.


Ben

 

[Grizzman]

I've been enjoying this site for several years now without my wife's knowledge. She is pretty conservative sexually. While we have sex regularly, her conservative nature makes it rather predictable. Almost to a bore. This translates into some frustration you might say. I've learned quite a bit from this site, especially the article about conquering the "g" spot , and try to drop hints that'll get my wife here without her knowing that I lurk about the boards. Kinda my way of encouraging her to expand her horizons without giving her a complex. Hasn't worked yet. But HEH! I gotta keep tryin'. Anybody else have any suggestions on how to get your SO to open there minds without making them (or increasing their) self conscious(ness)?



Oh yeah. Awesome thread. I don't contribute much, but had to empty my pockets on this one.
Cheers,

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I've told myself those things don't constitute cheating either. I don't know how much farther either. I want to cross the line, but most importantly I want to find the right man to do it with.

I saw your comment about toys, that you made to Micky, and it does prompt me to respond, that my wife, who I consider to be a person of great value, is turned off by the idea of using toys. I can't get her at all interested. She finds it "gross."

Which, I suppose, only serves to feed my fantasy of wanting to watch I woman masturbate, to really get into it, and enjoy seeing me do the same.

Can I ask which stories you find particularly appealing?
Mike

 

[Optima99]

Me too!

There is so much honesty in this thread - thank-you to all. This is something I grapple with a lot. I'm happily married but I want to explore and discover so much more. Being the sort of person I am I will have to find a way to 'rationalise' these thoughts and decide whether to take them to the next level or not. I haven't reached that point yet, I'll keep you posted though! At the end of the day though this is all about desire & longing & need & adventure on one side and will-power and loyalty on the other. A tough battle indeed!

 

[Uncle South Loop]

I've PUROPSELY kept my entire online life, which began 5 years ago, a secret from my wife of 31 years. It WASN'T because I went online looking to find someone I could cheat on. Rather, I did it because 1.) I know she think it all foolish waste of time and 2.) because I needed, with her declining health and 5 of our 6 kids leaving the "nest", something ALL MY OWN.

I've enjoyed meeting new people, making freinds and take delight in writing and posting stories to fulfill my creative need.

 

[ben23]

I knew someone was bound to use this as to place their own personal ad! lol I hope you find your girl, Ben.

Pepples - I hope you didn't mind the 'personal' it did seem a bit of a cheek!

 

[_pebbles]

Re: Me too!

Optima, everyone deserves a place to openly vent without judgement. Fidelity is a struggle in every marriage, I believe. For those who say that's not true, they just haven't reached a point of temptation .... yet.

I feel that I'm a strong willed and loyal person. I just think that I may want to be loyal to my husband and a long term lover. Finding that ever elusive "right guy" is the challenge. Perhaps in the search I'll just grow weary of looking and give up on thinking it will happen for me and maybe that's for the best anyway.

There is so much honesty in this thread - thank-you to all. This is something I grapple with a lot. I'm happily married but I want to explore and discover so much more. Being the sort of person I am I will have to find a way to 'rationalise' these thoughts and decide whether to take them to the next level or not. I haven't reached that point yet, I'll keep you posted though! At the end of the day though this is all about desire & longing & need & adventure on one side and will-power and loyalty on the other. A tough battle indeed!

 

[_pebbles]

Toys aren't gross! They allow you the opportunity of self exploration ... that's never a bad thing. Hopefully your wife will see the light, she has no idea on what she's missing out on.

I saw your comment about toys, that you made to Micky, and it does prompt me to respond, that my wife, who I consider to be a person of great value, is turned off by the idea of using toys. I can't get her at all interested. She finds it "gross."

Which, I suppose, only serves to feed my fantasy of wanting to watch I woman masturbate, to really get into it, and enjoy seeing me do the same.

Can I ask which stories you find particularly appealing?
Mike

 

[_pebbles]

It looks like we all have our secrets. Health issues can very stressful on a marriage. I hope things work out your way.

I've PUROPSELY kept my entire online life, which began 5 years ago, a secret from my wife of 31 years. It WASN'T because I went online looking to find someone I could cheat on. Rather, I did it because 1.) I know she think it all foolish waste of time and 2.) because I needed, with her declining health and 5 of our 6 kids leaving the "nest", something ALL MY OWN.

I've enjoyed meeting new people, making freinds and take delight in writing and posting stories to fulfill my creative need.