Married Posters

[_pebbles]

Sounds messy. Not sure I'd want to draw the new long distance gf into a threeway with the ex. Personally, I'd never allow such a tangled mess.

Married, going through divorce here (now lonely considering gf is 4000 miles away), wife (ex) does not know that I lurk here... weird situation is that she is however interested in getting something setup for a threesome with a girl or guy, told her that I probably know of a way to get it set up... *grin*

 

[_pebbles]

That's great that you include your wife ... it's always fun to get photogenic

yes my wife knows, in fact we have some pics on here together

 

[_pebbles]

Congratulations on the long lasting marriage, Finn ... and hello to a fellow Jersey neighbor! Look, the lucky bastard found himself a subbie to boot lol. I'm curious Finn, was your search for the perfect friend here at Lit a long one? Although there are so many willing people here, there isn't always that perfect chemistry of mutual mental/physical attraction.

thanks lass for the interesting subject and from the feedback a popular one at that..no,My wife does not know about My frequentations here,she is the vanilla one in our marriage(24 years strong)whilst I am the total uninhibited One,I find conversation with not only the ladies of Lit,but the Men as well very friendlyand titillating,and My subbie finds Lit very rewarding as well..pm Me and we can discuss this further..glad you are expanding your horizons

 

[lexxxiqon]

sexy sexy sexy

Pebbles,

You are one *very* sexy woman. Just thought you'd like to know! LOL.

Lex

 

[_pebbles]

It's great to see there are supportive spouses out there ... and he's willing to share your pics, generous man! Have fun, carrie.

My hubby knows I post here and it doesn't bother him at all. He has been very encouraging as far as posting pics of myself as my avs and also to my submitting stories here.

 

[_pebbles]

Did it turn into a don't ask/don't tell thing because of jealousy? Do you feel your marriage will last since you both are playing with others outside of the marriage? Or do you feel this outlet allows both of you variety without actually cheating?

I'm married, and though she knows I play on line, she doesn't know about Lit. I know she has played with other guys while on line also. I thought it was exciting at first, but it has become a don't ask don't tell situation. I would love to share with her, but I don't see it happening soon.

 

[_pebbles]

Do you feel guilty about keeping the secret, ch0415? Are there other secrets you keep from her?

Wife has no idea I frequent here, and I have to say that I am not ready to tell her. I will admit that she wonders where I have come up with some interesting sexual ideas but does not complain so why ruin a good thing. Have friends here and like to read the stories.

 

[rooster_19]

Goodbye

 

[_pebbles]

Re: Re: Re: Re: No I haven't told her

I don't believe this site causes an increase in how horny I am. I was already pedal-to-the-metal before I came here. Spending time here has made me think about if I'm actually going to turn into a cheater at some point. That scares me.

I always assumed it was the man that complained of initiating sex. Maybe it's this web site that causes the problem. You and I read all this hot stuff and maybe chat or exchange emails. It makes me horny as hell and I'm sure you too. So I take it out on my wife (lucky her ha).

Tell me how you would like it to happen.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: Re: Married Posters

You have the freedom to swing ... yet chatting may be off limits?!?! You never know what will send a woman over the edge! lol

We swing in R/L, and she knows I talk online, but doesn't know exactly about Lit or how involved I am. I haven't told her because she is just funny sometimes. Some things bother her, some don't, so I just keep this my dirty little secret

 

[_pebbles]

Where? In Jersey, of course!

Women initiate? When where? ????

 

[_pebbles]

You're an adventurous girl, vent!

i originally came to lit and read the stories only, never came to the message board, then back in Nov my dh wanted me to start chatting with guys on Yahoo and get the cam out and show them a thing or 2 and it has been a blast, we have always taken pics of me and so forth. then about a month ago i couldn't find any good stories to read or reread so i came to the board and my hubby encourages me to post my pics here,, i am very concerned with my body but everyone here has been so nice and well very interested in me and pm's me alot.,,, let's just say that i love it. and last night hubby got his own Lit name and is now posting with me. Of course my hubby also makes me take off my bra and look like a slut when we go out at night, but that is for another thread all together,,,wlol.

V

 

[moman4u]

pebbles, check pm

 

[MarkSand]

My wife doesn't know I frequent this site, and I sincerely hope she doesn't find out. We have issues in our marraige and there are certain areas we have tacitly agreed to keep private. But if she were confronted, as the old blues song says, it would be my funeral and her trial...

 

[NYCmale]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: No I haven't told her

Pebbles, If you are scared of cheating I have only one recommidation....Get some more toys to appease your HEATLHY sex drive.

I don't believe this site causes an increase in how horny I am. I was already pedal-to-the-metal before I came here. Spending time here has made me think about if I'm actually going to turn into a cheater at some point. That scares me.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: Hi Pebbles

looking for more? so greedy! lol

I am married and my wife knows nothing of this site. She has almost caught me on it a couple of times, but have covered up. I love this site and always looking to talk with gals to chat with online and would love more. lol. Lit is a great outlet for sexual fantasy and meeting great people.

JB

 

[_pebbles]

This is the only site you'd keep? Now that's testament to some hot stuff!

Seriously, I think this shows how important it is to know if you are sexually compatible PRIOR to marriage. I don't know how long you've been married, snafu ... I know way back when, people saved themselves for marriage. *there's the biggest mistake ever* Luckily I'm not in that category, but still find myself oh so curious.

I am married and she knows absolutly nothing of this site or any place on the net that I visit. She is very much a closed minded person when it comes to these sort of sites. If I weren't married, I would look for a lady here to become friends with and start a relationship. I think the openess of sharing is a positive and being secretive about your dreams and desires is a definate negitive. To bad the net was not availble when I was married. I really enjoy lit the most and find this is the one site I would keep if I could only have one.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: she knows...i share...

Congratulations on finally posting, tmurph. Al Gore would be oh so proud of your use of the "lockbox"!

I think married sex is great. You can be so raw and open when you know everything about your partner. There's alot to be said for that comfortable fit you have with someone you've been with for years and years.

i'm popping my cherry here (first post -- long time lurker)...

i printed out a few stories from lit and "accidentally" left a couple laying out...she asked where i got it from and i told her...she didn't mind and asked if i thought i could write something like the story i had printed out...i said yes and did, personalizing it just for us...

...after my first story for her, we had the best sex i'd ever to that point in our married lives (about two years ago)...

she keeps a journal in a lockbox in the bedroom that i insert stories in to that i've written just to us...i make her read them aloud while she/we masturbate and/or act on...

some stories are strictly fantasy that i know she'd never go along with and others are non-fiction...

...i think she really enjoys the fact that i take the time to get US going...

but, i'm at a point now where i'm ready to interact with somebody else -- since she doesn't really want to write herself...

thanks for reading...

 

[_pebbles]

No, I don't believe it effected my marriage. Long story short = it's over.

Did that "intense connection" start to affect your marriage? What happened to that relationship?
Mike

 

[_pebbles]

Sounds like you have a great friendship, Wally. I'm jealous! I don't think the friendship I had previously will happen for me again.

Wow... what an interesting thread. To stay on topic, the answer is "No, wifey doesn't know."

To digress (but I think I saw a question about it in the thread LOL)... as a result of surfing and posting, I met a married woman (not on Lit) who was open to some friendship and exploration.

It would take pages to explain the relationship that's developed. A short version is that it's an incredible balance of fantasy and reality (that's hard to explain!). The reality is that we'll never get together "in RL" but the reality is also that we've enjoyed some incredible time together. It's all very liberating, actually.

It's given us each a chance to explore our sensual natures and to discuss and "try things" that we might not otherwise. We've both been surprised more than once by the things that we can say and "do" with each other across the miles. Can I mention that we are currently looking for a woman to include in our chat for a little exploration and experimentaton? LOL

Pebbles asked about guilt... we do regular checks with each other and about the only guilt we feel is when we spend 3 hours of marathon chatting and "neglect" whatever else it is that we think we're supposed to be doing.

Mostly though, we're spending time with each other that we used to spend on boards, so the net change is minimal in that respect. LOL

I think it's hard to meet a "kindred spirit" this way, but it does happen. We're going to enjoy it as long as it works for both of us.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

No, I don't believe it effected my marriage. Long story short = it's over.

Its good to hear back from you.
You certainly have gotten an iteresting thread going.
I see that you have posted about your growing temptation, when playing on line, to end up meeting someone and cheating. I am so determined not to cross that line, and at the same time, I have a strong urge to get closer and closer to the line.
There was one time where I really took a risk, actually meeting someone I'd been chatting w/.
I'd told her there was a line I would not cross.
She did not believe me.
Its pretty crazy, I guess. Where is the line, exactly? Its arbitrary.

 

[envymyc5]

pm me

Pebbles....pm me please....27/m/married unhappily like you in IL

 

[Lovemplump]

Guilty?

Well, my wife has no idea that I visit this site or chat -and she wouldn't much care for me doing it either. But, I wouldn't be here if I was happy. I wouldn' venture out in hope of fulfilling any of my desires if I was satisfied at home. Knowing that ther are people here that understand, or even share a desire to chat or correspond with me seems to makes it less wrong. The notion that I'm "cheating" doesn't really concern me here. Once again, I'm not happy, if I get even a remote amount of pleasure or satisfaction with this, then It's all worth it.

 

[BigGuyPA44]

Great thread...very interesting

I too, am married and my wife doesn't know about this Forum...we both read a lot and look at porn, but don't dicuss it between ourselves much...but both of us have benefited from hers and my horniness that sometimes results!

We are another example of getting married too young and have learned not to ask nor tell about our extracaricular activities. I would love to share more, but she is an old fashioned girl to whom I have been married for over 20 years and plan to stay that way

B

 

[WallyLlama]

Don't be jealous, Pebbles. Join us!

Seriously, don't give up on finding that friendship again. I've been hanging out at various boards for much longer than I'd probably like admit. There have been some very intense and very brief encounters... I've not always understood the brief ones, but was never sad they happened.

I think that sometimes we worry too much about what we will do and what we won't do... what's okay, what's not okay... so much so that we just don't see the opportunities right in front of us.

To be a bit philosophical, sometimes we get so worried about whether or not we're going to F*** somebody that we forget to see the person and to experience what is possible.