Married Posters

[_pebbles]

Re: Re: No I haven't told her

Frequency is my main issue here at home. I feel as though I have to initiate constantly and that isn't always the way I want things to happen.

Nice to see other women in the same position.

Ditto to my hubby.........maybe they are brother and sister?

My posting has helped him a great deal, however........he just isn't smart enough to take advantage as often as he whould.......poor thing.

I like chatting and interacting with other people, and don't get much of an opportunity outside of work.......other than online......due to his closed mindedness and our lack of a "social life"........so I do what I can here and there.

 

[AV guy II]

I'm married, and though she knows I play on line, she doesn't know about Lit. I know she has played with other guys while on line also. I thought it was exciting at first, but it has become a don't ask don't tell situation. I would love to share with her, but I don't see it happening soon.

 

[ch0415]

Wife has no idea I frequent here, and I have to say that I am not ready to tell her. I will admit that she wonders where I have come up with some interesting sexual ideas but does not complain so why ruin a good thing. Have friends here and like to read the stories.

 

[MANual]

Re: Re: No I haven't told her

Ditto to my hubby.........maybe they are brother and sister?

My posting has helped him a great deal, however........he just isn't smart enough to take advantage as often as he whould.......poor thing.

I like chatting and interacting with other people, and don't get much of an opportunity outside of work.......other than online......due to his closed mindedness and our lack of a "social life"........so I do what I can here and there.

Hi Greeneyez... What would our spouses do if they knew all the sexy and erotic idea's we have learned here? Would they be jealous? Would they get turned on or think some of this is too kinky? It is a shame to let all this erotic energy go untapped.

I agree with you on the limited social activity. Maybe that comes from working and being married. I work from home so that REALLY cut down any social interaction.

 

[MANual]

Re: Re: Re: No I haven't told her

Frequency is my main issue here at home. I feel as though I have to initiate constantly and that isn't always the way I want things to happen.

Nice to see other women in the same position.

I always assumed it was the man that complained of initiating sex. Maybe it's this web site that causes the problem. You and I read all this hot stuff and maybe chat or exchange emails. It makes me horny as hell and I'm sure you too. So I take it out on my wife (lucky her ha).

Tell me how you would like it to happen.

 

[Guest]

I was curious how many married posters/lurkers frequent the boards without the knowledge of their spouses. Do you feel your participation here has positively or negatively effected your marriage?

Personally, my husband doesn't know. I'd like to include him at some point. I guess I'm enjoying flirtation with other men without his knowledge an exciting thing. We've been married my entire adult life. Flirting with other men is something I find I'm craving at this point in my life.

We swing in R/L, and she knows I talk online, but doesn't know exactly about Lit or how involved I am. I haven't told her because she is just funny sometimes. Some things bother her, some don't, so I just keep this my dirty little secret

 

[nudeintpa]

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[_pebbles]

Raphy,

Congrats to you. Having met here, I imagine you and your wife have a very open sexual dialogue?

I speak openly and honestly with hubby about what I want sexually ... and he gives it to me. Sadly, marrying so young, I find my eye wandering to other men. Insanely curious about how another man's body would fit with mine.

I'm married.

Does she know about lit?

This is where we met

 

[_pebbles]

Re: new at this...

I also don't see the harm in discussing. I'm curious if others have found friends here at lit that they think about while they are intimate with their spouses. Do you experience guilt associated with this?

This is my first time visiting this site. My husband doesn't know and doesn't ask. We have a strict "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy. I think there is no harm in discussing fantasies on-line with other married people.

 

[_pebbles]

I wouldn't say I've gone wild. I've chatted with some very interesting men. I felt an intense connection with one for quite a while.

LOL
I have to ask.
Have you gone wild since you got here?
Or, are you feeling tempted to do so?
If so, what have you done.
I will admit to taking one pretty wild chance as a result of my visits here.

 

[MelissaDyan]

My husband does not know I frequent this site. There are certain things I've decided to keep private.

 

[ventress69]

i originally came to lit and read the stories only, never came to the message board, then back in Nov my dh wanted me to start chatting with guys on Yahoo and get the cam out and show them a thing or 2 and it has been a blast, we have always taken pics of me and so forth. then about a month ago i couldn't find any good stories to read or reread so i came to the board and my hubby encourages me to post my pics here,, i am very concerned with my body but everyone here has been so nice and well very interested in me and pm's me alot.,,, let's just say that i love it. and last night hubby got his own Lit name and is now posting with me. Of course my hubby also makes me take off my bra and look like a slut when we go out at night, but that is for another thread all together,,,wlol.

V

 

[JBroadrunner]

Hi Pebbles

I am married and my wife knows nothing of this site. She has almost caught me on it a couple of times, but have covered up. I love this site and always looking to talk with gals to chat with online and would love more. lol. Lit is a great outlet for sexual fantasy and meeting great people.

JB

 

[snafu]

I am married and she knows absolutly nothing of this site or any place on the net that I visit. She is very much a closed minded person when it comes to these sort of sites. If I weren't married, I would look for a lady here to become friends with and start a relationship. I think the openess of sharing is a positive and being secretive about your dreams and desires is a definate negitive. To bad the net was not availble when I was married. I really enjoy lit the most and find this is the one site I would keep if I could only have one.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: longtime reader

Pent up sexual frustration can make for a stressed out lifestyle. A disinterested partner makes it difficult to keep things feeling hot and exciting. Happy to see Lit is providing you with the release you need.

Have been a follower of the lit scene for quite some time, but the wife does not know. She would never understand what i see in this. I think it has helped our relationship because it helps me ease a little bit of my sexual frustration. She is not nearly as interested in sex as i am.

 

[flyrv9]

My wife knows of this site; and she knows I come here and also frequent other sites. She has her sites and I have mine. We are very open in our sex lives and have fun with it. She prefers adult chat sites. I lurk and occasionally post at her fav site, but I'm a slow typest and find it hard to keep up. She also used to do phone sex, but it got to be a hassle when guys don't follow the rules and call at all hours. We did have fun on a few occasions having phone sex as a couple while we were having sex and the other couple was too. Got to have a speaker phone!

 

[fulie57]

Re: No I haven't told her

My wife is not very open minded and she would probably not approve of me posting here or indeed writing stories for publishing.

Like you I enjoy the chat with other women and because its online there does not seem to be any harm in keeping it secret. If you want to chat swap stories pm me. I am a serious guy who just likes a bit of fun.

I'm in the same boat as you, brother. I was recommended this site by a friend, and now we are messing around.

I have never been with anyone other than my wife and it has driven me crazy knowing what is on the other side of the fence.

 

[NYCmale]

Married

Pebbles, I have not told my wife or share my online experiences with her. I have tried to explore sexual fantisies with herm but she is not interested. This does not mean that I dont love her. Therefore I have chose to use the internet to help to channel my sexual energies.

I think I can understand your point of view.

 

[_pebbles]

I guess your being honest about frequenting Lit has been a downside for the two of you. She knows you are "sexually playing" but not to the extent you do? Not sure I understand. In any event it sounds like she's a willing partner ... perhaps share the fantasies you are sharing with the women of Lit and see how she reacts?

Very interesting thread. My wife knows I play online but not to the extent I do. I have quit from time to time because of her wishes. As others have stated, I love talking intimately to other women. I don't think it does any harm to our relationship. Nor do I claim it enhances our relationship. The main issue is my wife feels bad about it because I am coming here for sexual play as opposed to her. I can understand that, I guess. I would not want her to know the details of what I do, I guess that is lying to her in a way. Bottom line, though, this is a safe way to indulge my fantasies without doing any real harm. I enjoy it and will keep doing it discretely. She will never do it because she thinks it is silly. She would rather fuck than talk about fucking. My long range goal is to get her interested in being with other guys in real time with my knowledge.

 

[tmurph_1966]

she knows...i share...

i'm popping my cherry here (first post -- long time lurker)...

i printed out a few stories from lit and "accidentally" left a couple laying out...she asked where i got it from and i told her...she didn't mind and asked if i thought i could write something like the story i had printed out...i said yes and did, personalizing it just for us...

...after my first story for her, we had the best sex i'd ever to that point in our married lives (about two years ago)...

she keeps a journal in a lockbox in the bedroom that i insert stories in to that i've written just to us...i make her read them aloud while she/we masturbate and/or act on...

some stories are strictly fantasy that i know she'd never go along with and others are non-fiction...

...i think she really enjoys the fact that i take the time to get US going...

but, i'm at a point now where i'm ready to interact with somebody else -- since she doesn't really want to write herself...

thanks for reading...

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I wouldn't say I've gone wild. I've chatted with some very interesting men. I felt an intense connection with one for quite a while.

Did that "intense connection" start to affect your marriage? What happened to that relationship?
Mike

 

[mr happy]

Most days will find visiting LIT.

And no the little lady doesn't know I'm here, dont think she would be to worried about it, just never told her.
Sex at home is awesome, but Lit just gives you that little bit extra to help you through the working day.
Always great fun chatting and posting.

Hi to all the lovely ladies of lit, oh and the guys too of course

 

[WallyLlama]

Wow... what an interesting thread. To stay on topic, the answer is "No, wifey doesn't know."

To digress (but I think I saw a question about it in the thread LOL)... as a result of surfing and posting, I met a married woman (not on Lit) who was open to some friendship and exploration.

It would take pages to explain the relationship that's developed. A short version is that it's an incredible balance of fantasy and reality (that's hard to explain!). The reality is that we'll never get together "in RL" but the reality is also that we've enjoyed some incredible time together. It's all very liberating, actually.

It's given us each a chance to explore our sensual natures and to discuss and "try things" that we might not otherwise. We've both been surprised more than once by the things that we can say and "do" with each other across the miles. Can I mention that we are currently looking for a woman to include in our chat for a little exploration and experimentaton? LOL

Pebbles asked about guilt... we do regular checks with each other and about the only guilt we feel is when we spend 3 hours of marathon chatting and "neglect" whatever else it is that we think we're supposed to be doing.

Mostly though, we're spending time with each other that we used to spend on boards, so the net change is minimal in that respect. LOL

I think it's hard to meet a "kindred spirit" this way, but it does happen. We're going to enjoy it as long as it works for both of us.

 

[AV guy II]

Wally, do you think the wife plays?

 

[lexxxiqon]

i love this thread

I love this thread. Thanks pebbles!

One variant I'd like to hear about: how much flirting, etc. do you do on the sly? I'm not talking about cheating, but about flirting/teasing. For instance, do any ladies like to wear short skirts and cross their legs when they know a guy is looking? Do you try to make eye contact? Do you go home horny and fuck your husband like mad? Does he wonder what made you so horny?

anything along these lines would be great. I fantasize about my wife doing things like this... I also try to be the beneficiary of others' wives when I can.