Married Posters

[Optima99]

I certainly never intended to judge anything or anybody, quite the opposite. I'm very sorry if my comments came across negatively.

 

[_pebbles]

I was reassuring you! Your comments weren't negative, just honest.

I certainly never intended to judge anything or anybody, quite the opposite. I'm very sorry if my comments came across negatively.

 

[_pebbles]

Not a shred of guilt? Wow, good for you. Would you consider yourself a "serial cheater"? Did it get easier to lie, etc to find time to get away with each new lover?

Hmmm... Hello again pebbles

No, my wife doesn't know I'm on here, or anywhere else And I plan to keep it that way, unless you're gonna tell her

We do have it often, but that's not enough! I'm always longing to smell and taste and lick and suck another hot pair of lips (both pairs). I have done that before, and ... lemme think ... I'll do it again with the right woman So far, I've been able to keep things private and separate, mentally and otherwise.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Toys aren't gross! They allow you the opportunity of self exploration ... that's never a bad thing. Hopefully your wife will see the light, she has no idea on what she's missing out on.

Of course, I agree with you.
But
how to get the message across.
Maybe I can find the right story here to get her to read.

 

[jackrabbitjim]

Married too. She has no clue..

 

[boomer3112]

I spend a lot of time online, my wife likes to look up sex sites with me, but is not interested in chatting.

I love to chat on here, and also to meet other people, i met a very sexy women online, her marriage had entered a rut and we both needed some excitment, that was 3years ago and we are still having fun together.

We are very discreet and can talk as well as have fun sex, we couldn't have done that without the internet.

I don't have a problem keeping secrets from my wife, and i still love her very much.

 

[seeu32]

pebbles,
crossing the cheating line for some can be a very hard dission,for some finding the perfect situation can take years,for others it might take only weeks.After being married for so long I would hope it would take a while.I am and have been in that same situation that you have mentioned in previous posts here.Loving my wife but needing more.I think I might have meet that special someone I feel such a stong connection with her,we seem to be on the same page,and in time we may meet,maybe for just coffee or in a park to talk and look into each others eyes and maybe for romance.I know it will be a very special moment in both of our lives.....Now all I have to do is get her to call me... ..M

 

[jerryid]

"hot wife"

Pebbles,
Have you ever read fantasies about female domination through cuckolding ? I personally find it to be the most wildly erotic fantasy imaginable. Basically it's where the hot, sexy wife (like you) "trains" her husband to accept the fact that she has sex with other men, while he remains faithful. There's all kinds of twists and variations on the theme, as you might imagine.

Anyway if the idea turns you on, a good place to start would be to share your secret with your husband and see how he reacts. If he were like me it would drive him mad with desire, and you would find yourself with the most attentive and devoted husband you could ever imagine.

By the way, if that's your picture, I'd be your slave in a minute !

 

[janenycgirl]

If my husband knew the type
of stories i read
and got off on
he would be SHOCKED ;-)

some secrets are better
kept secret.

btw i think that cuckold fantasy
thing doesn't last past the 1st
or 2nd encounter
and then you'd pay for all
of that 'extramarital' "fun"
just an opinion.


lotsa fantasies lose a lot
cummin true.

 

[_pebbles]

See,

When you hear her .. see her ... do you think you'll just *know* that She's The One?

pebbles,
crossing the cheating line for some can be a very hard dission,for some finding the perfect situation can take years,for others it might take only weeks.After being married for so long I would hope it would take a while.I am and have been in that same situation that you have mentioned in previous posts here.Loving my wife but needing more.I think I might have meet that special someone I feel such a stong connection with her,we seem to be on the same page,and in time we may meet,maybe for just coffee or in a park to talk and look into each others eyes and maybe for romance.I know it will be a very special moment in both of our lives.....Now all I have to do is get her to call me... ..M

 

[_pebbles]

So Last Night ...

My husband and I had wonderful, hot sex last night and yet here I am, still thinking I want more. Our sex was incredibly intimate, lots of eye contact, candles, music .. everything a woman would want. I nibbled and nipped at his neck as I rode him. Shuddered and moaned as he grabbed my ass. Anyway, a great encounter.

My mind turns to what it'd be like to have sex with another man and only find it to be disappointing. I wonder if new man would be quick, not take the time to know my body, etc. I wonder if all this mental build up that I've given to having an affair, would only turn out to be a colossel disappointment and I'd end up feeling like shit and guilty afterwards. And so, I wait ... hoping I'll just somehow know and feel when or if the right man comes along.

Any opinions?

 

[mickyp123]

Re: So Last Night ...

My husband and I had wonderful, hot sex last night and yet here I am, still thinking I want more. Our sex was incredibly intimate, lots of eye contact, candles, music .. everything a woman would want. I nibbled and nipped at his neck as I rode him. Shuddered and moaned as he grabbed my ass. Anyway, a great encounter.

My mind turns to what it'd be like to have sex with another man and only find it to be disappointing. I wonder if new man would be quick, not take the time to know my body, etc. I wonder if all this mental build up that I've given to having an affair, would only turn out to be a colossel disappointment and I'd end up feeling like shit and guilty afterwards. And so, I wait ... hoping I'll just somehow know and feel when or if the right man comes along.

Any opinions?

good points Pebbles i would like to come back to this one tomorrow when i have more time thankyou

 

[BabyBj]

I am married, and my husband knows I read stories online, but does not know of my other activities. I have a much stronger sex drive than he, and rather than risk cheating, which I have been tempted to do, I let my frustrations go here.

 

[jocular_guy]

We both have our own thing

Love this thread, as I was curious myself. I have watched porn on-line, submitted erotica here and other places, and my wife has chatted, although I don't know all the extent of her activities. I suspected it has gone on for years as she sometimes came to bed late aroused. I know she has become more aware of her body, and is more of an exhibitionist because of what she learned about others on-line. I love it !!!, so I don't mind if she keeps doing it (She is really hot by the way).

I let her know a few months ago that I know she has chatted for a while, and that it was OK with me. She was a bit embarrassed, but has become a little more open.

I wrote a few stories here and for other sites and got them posted, and I told her, and sent her some. She has enjoyed them, so she knows I am on an erotica site, but she doesn't know which ones.

We are aware, and we know our boundaries. The boundaries are out of respect for each other, and we know the other will work with boundaries as we really cherish our relationship. Our issue has more to do with different schedules. She can stay up late and sleep late, whereas I have to sleep early. She started exploring the on-line sex late in the evening.

I look forward to incorporating more of our on-line sex worlds as she feels she does not have to be so secretive. I will let you know as we explore more.

 

[coachendo]

Total agreement pebbles

Hey pebbles,

Great question posed...I find myself feeling much like you but my sex life is very poor at home but the rest of my 20 yr marriage is fine. Would love to find that one person to be a secret lover with even for one weekend a month. My wife is very conservative and knows nothing of this and would be appalled that I even discuss it. Just need to share some romance, passion, lust and intense sex either online or maybe inperson.

Dave

 

[winepleasures]

i suppose it depends

pebbles..

if a man knew you well and you trusted him...i bet it would be incredible sex...

knowing when to explore deeply...and then take you unexpectantly...

leaving you so turned on, you know that whatever he desired for you..would be for your ultimate pleasure..

and his as well...


as for the guilt?...doubtful...

 

[szyc0-1]

Hi peebles,

It is very interesting to contemplate such things, I know I can't answer to the question for anyone except for myself but here goes my personal experience with such things.

When my wife and I have sex many times it is of an adequate length of time for us, neither of us complain and both agree that when you're used to each other that although it may be quicker than desired sometimes it is still pleasing. Each and every time I begin a new experience with a woman who either I have wanted for some time or someone who I've just met recently I end up having exceptionally lengthy and satisfying sex. Take an experience I had just over 2 months ago for instance, I had met a very beautiful girl, we both knew something would occur from the start, and it did, it became about 5 hours of the best sex of my life. We didn't do anything kinky or unusual, neither of us knew enough about each other at the time to go down those paths, we just had incredible sex. To date it has been wonderful, but then I have also now taken on another lover and it has been wonderful also...it is very difficult to say that this cycle will ever quit for me, but it is one that I choose to continue...at the same time, my wife is aware of these encounters and that I continue them and we still continue to have great, very satisfying sex that is where I experience far more perversion than I would ever expect anywhere else...

It's not to say that the same would be true for you, nor anyone else, it's absolutely just the way that it works for me, the only thing to remember - you won't know unless you try me, um, I mean it.

 

[ozeboy]

hmmmm

Whilst most men would easily be able to detach sex from love/marriage etc - most women struggle to remove sex from love. Why? Are men really from Mars?

 

[zukethecuke]

My wife has a general knowledge of my interest in porn and related erotica, but doesn't know that I post and chat on Literotica. She knows I sometimes go to x-rated movies, although I never tell her when I'm going or when I've been -- she just knows that sometimes I see them. She knows I used to go to topless bars, and was reluctantly OK with that for a while, but then asked me to stop (I mostly have, with only an occassional relapse). She knows I've had phone sex, and really didn't like that, and said she wanted me not to; I said I'd consider stopping, but didn't want to and wouldn't promise, just think about it. She found out some years ago was I having a chat relationship with a woman, and was afraid it would turn into a real affair; when I told her the other woman lived in Wales (we're in Missouri) she relaxed, at least a bit.

She does enjoy some porn herself, though an awful lot of stuff turns her off so I've sometimes filtered it for her and given her a disk of stuff I though she'd like. Then she'd start feeling guilty and asked me not to keep saving stuff for her. The short story I have posted in Lit was written for her -- she liked it a lot, but she's an intelligent reader and knew, without my saying so, that giving her the story was an invitation to act out the story line, and she made it clear that she would not want to do it in real life, just read about it.

 

[looking4fun]

Re: Re: Re: No I haven't told her

Frequency is my main issue here at home. I feel as though I have to initiate constantly and that isn't always the way I want things to happen.

Oh how I can relate to this!! Strange how reading about others with similar problems can ease the soul.

I am in the same boat as you & others that have posted here. I have been married for 15 years. During the first 7-10 years I never gave much thought to being unfaithful. However for the last 5 years I have thought about it a lot. But I have never crossed the point of no return.

I have tried several things to get my wife to be a little more adventurous, but none has worked. Mostly she just thinks I am a prevert for wanting to spice things up. She feels our sex life is fine & if its not broke don't fix it.

So the frustration continues & my Lit journey continues.

 

[_pebbles]

Wow Zuke - you keep pushing the envelope and she keeps allowing you to. Have you outright asked if she'd be okay with you going outside of your marriage?

My wife has a general knowledge of my interest in porn and related erotica, but doesn't know that I post and chat on Literotica. She knows I sometimes go to x-rated movies, although I never tell her when I'm going or when I've been -- she just knows that sometimes I see them. She knows I used to go to topless bars, and was reluctantly OK with that for a while, but then asked me to stop (I mostly have, with only an occassional relapse). She knows I've had phone sex, and really didn't like that, and said she wanted me not to; I said I'd consider stopping, but didn't want to and wouldn't promise, just think about it. She found out some years ago was I having a chat relationship with a woman, and was afraid it would turn into a real affair; when I told her the other woman lived in Wales (we're in Missouri) she relaxed, at least a bit.

She does enjoy some porn herself, though an awful lot of stuff turns her off so I've sometimes filtered it for her and given her a disk of stuff I though she'd like. Then she'd start feeling guilty and asked me not to keep saving stuff for her. The short story I have posted in Lit was written for her -- she liked it a lot, but she's an intelligent reader and knew, without my saying so, that giving her the story was an invitation to act out the story line, and she made it clear that she would not want to do it in real life, just read about it.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: hmmmm

I believe that it is natural for a person to want to feel loved. Even though my husband loves me ... I crave more.

Whilst most men would easily be able to detach sex from love/marriage etc - most women struggle to remove sex from love. Why? Are men really from Mars?

 

[_pebbles]

Re: Re: Re: Re: No I haven't told her

It's refreshing to have a place to vent. Don't ya think, looking? Hubby and I still try new things. The man is doing everything right. Yet the curiousity of taking a lover invades my thoughts constantly. I wonder how his lips will feel .. if I'll shiver all over when he kisses me. How my body will fold and melt into his ... that first moment of seeing and feeling us joined. Umhum, I do like thinking about it.

Oh how I can relate to this!! Strange how reading about others with similar problems can ease the soul.

I am in the same boat as you & others that have posted here. I have been married for 15 years. During the first 7-10 years I never gave much thought to being unfaithful. However for the last 5 years I have thought about it a lot. But I have never crossed the point of no return.

I have tried several things to get my wife to be a little more adventurous, but none has worked. Mostly she just thinks I am a prevert for wanting to spice things up. She feels our sex life is fine & if its not broke don't fix it.

So the frustration continues & my Lit journey continues.

 

[mickyp123]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: No I haven't told her

It's refreshing to have a place to vent. Don't ya think, looking? Hubby and I still try new things. The man is doing everything right. Yet the curiousity of taking a lover invades my thoughts constantly. I wonder how his lips will feel .. if I'll shiver all over when he kisses me. How my body will fold and melt into his ... that first moment of seeing and feeling us joined. Umhum, I do like thinking about it.

Pebbles I do feel that people coming on to this thread generally seem to have high values, and are taking steps too try and sort the problem, obviously the thought of bedding someone can seem fun but it is a one way ticket and if you love your SO you will feel guilt.
Looking at the threads i would say most would like a better relationship with the partners they have rather than having a "shag" or "screw" with someone else. people if i am wrong please say!

 

[hardmanepr]

Married and on-line fun

I'm a married man. I've been married 25 years and love my wife a great deal. We have a good sex life, but she is not very interested in sexual adventures. I have been "playing" on-line for the last 8 years and feel that in many ways my on-line affairs have made our relationship better since I am not trying to force her to be someone she isn't and I can release the tension through my on-line life.

At times I feel guilty but I don't consider what I'm doing as cheating, even when I use my web cam. I enjoy role playing where I get to act out my fantasies as well as just talking about sex, sharing experiences and exploring my and others sexuality. I've discovered a lot about myself and have expanded my sexual horizons.