Love or Sex??

[Shy Tall Guy]

Which would you choose? Love or Sex?

No equivocating.

No "other" choices.

No saying sex would turn into love.

No saying you would have sex then love, or love then sex, or that one would turn into another.

If you choose one then you cannot have the other.

Just imagine that you are stranded on deserted island with two people with whom you could either have only love with one or have only sex with the other, but not both - one who wanted only sex from you but not your love, nor would give it, the other only your love but not sex with you at all. They are intractable, and you cannot choose both for they would not have anything to do with you if you do, and you cannot decieve them or hide your relationships from them. Nor can you choose neither lest you go mad. Nor is there any chance of rescue or others coming to the island, for the rest of your life.

Make your choice, and explain if you care (and no complaining about no "other" choice).

 

[lilminx]

Geez- I'm the only one who picked "sex". I guess at this point in my life, I just don't feel that it's necessary.

 

[lavender]

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Love, Cause if it's love that person will always be there for you and you for them...

If it's just sex... do they need you for anything else? no...

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Sex is the easy answer, everybody's interested in it, but we need love to feel complete, don't we? Currently, I have neither a girlfriend, now awife, and i feel more incomplete without love than sex...funny, I guess, how the things you don't have can be so important.

 

[chanaud]

Love lasts longer than sex!

 

[JazzManJim]

Ouch.

Is it sad that I really can't answer this question?

 

[Sabineteas]

Oh jeez

This is an easy one, love. I have had sex without love and it only scratched the itch and afterwards I did not feel that good about myself. My choice will always be love. Sex is for a short period in your life, if the love is right, it is forever.

 

[juicylips]

ARRGGGHHHH

This kind of thread should not be allowed, STG!!!

No choices....no other....sex without love...love without sex....
But..but...this is a no win situation...I love sex..but to have sex over and over again and know that person would never love me...
We are talking about great sex...sex that never ends and continues to thrill me day after day, right???

I have to think some more...
Cassidy

 

[sexy-girl]

love ... yes yes yes it would be very very very very very very very hard to give up sex that i have with lisa


but i could never give up the love i have so in the end its a easy choice ... love hands down

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: ARRGGGHHHH

I have to think some more...

That is the purpose of the thread - to make people think. Some have no problem and can make the choice, others have to think a bit.

Personally, I have done without both for some time, but I did vote for love. Even as the originator of the thread I have to restrain myself from equivocating as I really like sex, but I do not really want sex without love or at least the possibility of love - and I can do without sex, so love is my choice.

The response so far is a lot more lopsided than I thought it would have been given some previous postings by members who have said they have only wanted sex without strings from their partners. Maybe they haven't voted yet - then again, maybe put in this context, without the eventual possiblity of love they are not willing to exclude that possibility forever.

Having to make clear and unequivocable either/or choices often helps people understand what is really important to them - and it seems to most that Love is more important than Sex.

I want love over everything else, and while I want to love someone who is sexually open and enjoys the kinks I enjoy, that is secondary to the love. It kind of makes one think about what else is important in comparison with love - doesn't it?

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: ARRGGGHHHH

That is the purpose of the thread - to make people think. Some have no problem and can make the choice, others have to think a bit.


Having to make clear and unequivocable either/or choices often helps people understand what is really important to them - and it seems to most that Love is more important than Sex.

I want love over everything else, and while I want to love someone who is sexually open and enjoys the kinks I enjoy, that is secondary to the love. It kind of makes one think about what else is important in comparison with love - doesn't it?

Ok... I feel really shallow now...
Cassidy

 

[erosman]

damn choices

I complain when I go to the store to buy bread. "Why don't they have just two choices", I say. "It would be so much simpler if it was white or wheat." Now, I've only got love or sex and I'm saying, "Where are all those 'other' varieties? I want more options." lol
Sex is my tentative choice...I've lived without love - or at least existed. I can compensate for abscence of love with delusion. Abstinence produces insanity for me. There is nothing quite as clarifying to my thinking process as sex. It's a healthy choice for me.

 

[MacCortz]

Which would you choose? Love or Sex?

No equivocating.

No "other" choices.


This is like a food or water question... you can go a while without either but soon you need water....but eventually you need food to survive.

I voted love but if I really needed sex.......... I'd have to change my vote at least temporarily!

 

[seXieleXie]

well, i would pick love in this scenario as i'd be picking between the two forever. however at this point in my life i *don't* want to fall in love. i don't have the time/energy/stability to do that. i would take sex over love right now, but not for the rest of my life.

 

[beauchampd]

Love of course, for sex without love is just like masturbating with another person.
But sex with love is the ultimate physical and emotional bonding.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Re: Love or Sex??

I voted love but if I really needed sex.......... I'd have to change my vote at least temporarily!

No changing! Your choice would be one or the other, forever.

The purpose of the thread is to force the choice - no equivocating - nada!

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Love of course, for sex without love is just like masturbating with another person.

Not at all - there is a huge difference as I have had sex without love, sex with love, and no sex with masturbation. There is a huge difference between good sex with another person and masturbation, or even masturbation with another person. I know the analogy you are attempting, but I have to disagree with it.

But sex with love is the ultimate physical and emotional bonding.

Agreed.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Re: Re: ARRGGGHHHH

Ok... I feel really shallow now...

No reason you should feel that way - you are thinking right?

To answer your question about the sex - the sex could be in any form you want it, mind blowing, as much as you want, when you want - just no love. The same with the love; it could be as romantic and deep as you can imagine - just no sex.

Evil bastard ain't I?

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Re: Re: ARRGGGHHHH

No reason you should feel that way - you are thinking right?

To answer your question about the sex - the sex could be in any form you want it, mind blowing, as much as you want, when you want - just no love. The same with the love; it could be as romantic and deep as you can imagine - just no sex.

Evil bastard ain't I?

Where I am stumbling at is the idea that I am so deeply in love and yet can't physically express it. Isn't sex a physical manifestation of love? Especially romantic and deep?? That would be such total frustration for me!!!

Cassidy,
still thinking..

and yes..it is an EVIL BASTARD of a question!!!!!

 

[Cheyenne]

No hesitation at all. Love, of course.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: ARRGGGHHHH

still thinking..

and yes..it is an EVIL BASTARD of a question!!!!!

Then don't dwell on the intricacies - think about the big picture; which can you do without forever - love or sex?

 

[AskACumSlut]

Re: Re: ARRGGGHHHH

That is the purpose of the thread - to make people think. Some have no problem and can make the choice, others have to think a bit.

Personally, I have done without both for some time, but I did vote for love. Even as the originator of the thread I have to restrain myself from equivocating as I really like sex, but I do not really want sex without love or at least the possibility of love - and I can do without sex, so love is my choice.

The response so far is a lot more lopsided than I thought it would have been given some previous postings by members who have said they have only wanted sex without strings from their partners. Maybe they haven't voted yet - then again, maybe put in this context, without the eventual possiblity of love they are not willing to exclude that possibility forever.

Having to make clear and unequivocable either/or choices often helps people understand what is really important to them - and it seems to most that Love is more important than Sex.

I want love over everything else, and while I want to love someone who is sexually open and enjoys the kinks I enjoy, that is secondary to the love. It kind of makes one think about what else is important in comparison with love - doesn't it?

Hi sweetie,

The fact that you started this thread says that you are a decent thoughtful guy, but it seems that in every other post you are conflicted.

The fact that we have to witness your marathon length posts about nothing in particular is sad. Go get some real therapy away from the computer. Or get laid. Or both. But your chances are dimming with the sunlight.

Now skeedaddle!!!! Get!!!!

 

[Xander]

Without a single doubt in my mind.

LOVE....hands down.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Re: Re: ARRGGGHHHH

The fact that you started this thread says that you are a decent thoughtful guy, but it seems that in every other post you are conflicted.

And an example of that would be?

You do realize that humans can and often do have conflicting viewpoints that can coexist with our other views - in short we don't always make that much sense. That is what it is to be human.

The fact that we have to witness your marathon length posts about nothing in particular is sad.

As opposed to your posts?

No one is forcing you to read my posts or my threads so you don't have to witness or be sad about anything. The fact that you think you do is what is sad.

You are entitled to your opinion, but besides trolls most people seem to like my posts - and most seem to think I have something to say rather than nothing. But to each their own.

Go get some real therapy away from the computer. Or get laid. Or both. But your chances are dimming with the sunlight.

This is my "therapy"; Lit has helped me in ways you can't even begin to imagine. As for getting laid - that is highly overrated, as are other forms of "therapy".

Might I suggest before you start attacking other people about how "sad" their "nothing in particular" posts are, that you make some of your own - unless your personna is another troll (which I suspect it is - probably for a board member without the balls to say what he/she really thinks under their own name), then just go do what trolls do (shit everywhere about "nothing in particular") and I will add you to my ever growing Ignore list.

In short - go get fucked yourself, I am not in the mood to deal with trolls today.