Litiquette

[ChainedUp]

This is a bit of a rehash that Aquagal brought up early in this thread, so apologies for that, but... I received a PM in response to a post I made in Sept of last year, nearly 10months ago. In and of itself the message was fine but expecting me to remember context, without prompting over that time period is just plain stupid. My advice to Litiquette-izans, don't reply to a person from a post approaching a year old.

And if you just can't help yourself, reset the context for the recipient. Start your PM like this: "I apologize for responding so long after you posted but but back in [insert daye] you posted this [insert summary] and I just felt like I had to respond"

 

[Bitesback]

..............My advice to Litiquette-izans, don't reply to a person from a post approaching a year old.

And if you just can't help yourself, reset the context for the recipient. Start your PM like this: "I apologize for responding so long after you posted but but back in [insert daye] you posted this [insert summary] and I just felt like I had to respond"

I get your point and understand it's relevance to this thread but I hope your PM reply was more gracious.
As a relatively new participant here, back pages to threads offer all sorts of insight to the development of specific threads and to the general feeling of those who reply to both the OP and the later posts. Finding old posts which resonate with you can give you a better sense of being a part of this site.

Not knowing the content of the PM, my first thought was that it is entirely possible that you were the focus of this person's attention, not necessarily what you said way back when. Perhaps they saw responding by PM to your post as a means of initiating dialogue with someone they might like to get to know. Your old post provided a common point of interest. In which case, the PM message was probably framed less out of stupidity and more out of timidity, maybe even a reflection of their inexperience and understanding of the ever changing nature of discussions here.

Plenty of people complain about random PMs with no attempt to engage the recipient, complaining about those making an effort to reach out seems a bit unfair.

Why should they apologise? Do posts have a use-by date?

 

[ChainedUp]

All fair points and yes I was more gracious in my PMs. We actually had a 4 or 5 PM exchange. My PMer was also male and not interested in me

Posts don't necessarily have a Use By date but you shouldn't be surprised when questioned about replying to an old post. In this particular situation the response made no reference to my precious post and I was thoroughly confused.

I get your point and understand it's relevance to this thread but I hope your PM reply was more gracious.
As a relatively new participant here, back pages to threads offer all sorts of insight to the development of specific threads and to the general feeling of those who reply to both the OP and the later posts. Finding old posts which resonate with you can give you a better sense of being a part of this site.

Not knowing the content of the PM, my first thought was that it is entirely possible that you were the focus of this person's attention, not necessarily what you said way back when. Perhaps they saw responding by PM to your post as a means of initiating dialogue with someone they might like to get to know. Your old post provided a common point of interest. In which case, the PM message was probably framed less out of stupidity and more out of timidity, maybe even a reflection of their inexperience and understanding of the ever changing nature of discussions here.

Plenty of people complain about random PMs with no attempt to engage the recipient, complaining about those making an effort to reach out seems a bit unfair.

Why should they apologise? Do posts have a use-by date?

 

[Ellafun]

Along those lines, ChainedUp, I get thoroughly annoyed when someone bumps a thread that had a last post from 2006. By all means, read through the thread, but it is absolutely unnecessary to comment with a "wow, that's hot" 8 years later. This seems to happen a LOT in the How To forum, when the OP is not even around anymore.

N00bs.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Along those lines, ChainedUp, I get thoroughly annoyed when someone bumps a thread that had a last post from 2006. By all means, read through the thread, but it is absolutely unnecessary to comment with a "wow, that's hot" 8 years later. This seems to happen a LOT in the How To forum, when the OP is not even around anymore.

N00bs.

. . . . and just when I was about to bump the 'God Doesn't Hate Anybody' thread

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy hump day

As summer time rolls along headed straight into the dog days. The pace slows a bit, vacations are more prominent. It got me to think about posting in lit. Posting for us all ebbs and flows, typically around RL stuff but does online also I pact your tendency to post. In an online relationship, do you post more or less? You see something funny/cute are apt to reply? If someone posses you off in a board, do you get the flame thrower out or just walk away ?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Happy hump day

As summer time rolls along headed straight into the dog days. The pace slows a bit, vacations are more prominent. It got me to think about posting in lit. Posting for us all ebbs and flows, typically around RL stuff but does online also I pact your tendency to post. In an online relationship, do you post more or less? You see something funny/cute are apt to reply? If someone posses you off in a board, do you get the flame thrower out or just walk away ?

I'm not sure that I understand the question - but

In an online relationship/friendship, I post in ways similar to how I communicate with friends outside of this little world. I'm not sure if that is more or less than what anyone else does. All of my friends know that there are times where I may be cradled in an oversized chair with a textbook and nobody will hear from me until I get a little time to breathe. It's not always a textbook. It can be a cooking adventure, a garden gone wild, or a tight baseball series. I have experienced where this bothered people and so the relationship could never blossom - but I expect people in my lives to have interests that don't include me.. and I appreciate the journey each of us walks as we discover what enriches us and keeps us thriving. I've also noticed that, when you allow yourself space to grow, people around you have the time to focus on what they need as well.. and I like the balance.

Seriously.. how interesting is a conversation when you ask, "what's new?"
and the answer is.. "nothing. what's new with you?"
all that's left is gossip..

 

[rubydlite]

Happy hump day

As summer time rolls along headed straight into the dog days. The pace slows a bit, vacations are more prominent. It got me to think about posting in lit. Posting for us all ebbs and flows, typically around RL stuff but does online also I pact your tendency to post. In an online relationship, do you post more or less? You see something funny/cute are apt to reply? If someone posses you off in a board, do you get the flame thrower out or just walk away ?

Are you asking if being in an online relationship changes your posting behaviour?
I guess it would depend on why you post. Does your ol relationship fill all the gaps that posting did? Do people post to catch someone's attention and once they have it they're good or is posting a fun pastime you'd do regardless? Is it a public ol relationship where you banter back and forth to flirt and tease and everyone knows you're a 'couple' or is it on the downlow?
It's summer, kids are home, vacations are being enjoyed...

So I guess my answer is ..I have none...

 

[jameslewis]

Happy hump day

As summer time rolls along headed straight into the dog days. The pace slows a bit, vacations are more prominent. It got me to think about posting in lit. Posting for us all ebbs and flows, typically around RL stuff but does online also I pact your tendency to post. In an online relationship, do you post more or less? You see something funny/cute are apt to reply? If someone posses you off in a board, do you get the flame thrower out or just walk away ?

I think if the relationship is going well, it fills many of the posting needs, and then posting is just for fun and banter. I find I get bored more quickly with the boards if they are slow, and spend more time talking or playing with a partner, or just sign off. I notice that a lot of casual friendships, or developing friendships, lie fallow and don't get as much attention either. So, it also impacts messaging behavior, not just postings.

 

[Ellafun]

. . . . and just when I was about to bump the 'God Doesn't Hate Anybody' thread

HA! I will smack ya'!

I completely agree.

Happy hump day

As summer time rolls along (we're) heading straight into the dog days. The pace slows a bit, vacations are more prominent. It got me to think about posting in lit. Posting for us all ebbs and flows, typically around RL stuff but does online also impact your tendency to post? In an online relationship, do you post more or less? You see something funny/cute are (you) apt to reply? If someone pisses you off in a board, do you get the flame thrower out or just walk away ?

And now I'm completely worried that either 1) your fingers/thumbs have gone numb; 2) you are under the influence and drunk posting; and/or 3) someone else has gained control of your user ID.

My posts are sporadic (and spastic) year round, but I don't think I become any more or less responsive and/or agitated this time of year than I usually do.

But seriously, are you okay? Or is your phone auto-correcting in some weird eubonics?

 

[ChainedUp]

It's apparent that my typos have become rampant as of late. Nothing kills a good thread more than an OP with a bad case of typos. I'll try and be more diligent with my typing (or is it thumbing if using a smart phone).

Which leads me to my topic: how much are you willing to put up with someone online. More than RL? Are you willing to accept a guy who appears basically intelligent but with a bad case of typos? What about a less than intelligent person with perfect key entry skills? What about brains over brawn? Nice but flighty? An asshole but funny?

 

[Mindfondler]

Which leads me to my topic: how much are you willing to put up with someone online. More than RL? Are you willing to accept a guy who appears basically intelligent but with a bad case of typos? What about a less than intelligent person with perfect key entry skills? What about brains over brawn? Nice but flighty? An asshole but funny?

I'm fairly tolerant (and also a believer in Muphry's Law). The simple rule for me is that I'll put up with a great deal in the way of typos, flawed grammar, odd modes of expression and so on, as long as I believe that the writer is making a sincere effort to communicate.

When I post, I keep in mind that something that I write once may be read by a lot of people (although maybe not!) and that it therefore saves a lot of effort all round if I can express myself clearly. This is the main reason why I dislike text speak in communications media that don't constrain message length -- it's intended as a mechanism for the convenience of writers in one-to-one correspondence, but it adds opacity for multiple readers on an Internet forum.
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[MausAss]

Lack of effort is what bothers me.

writing without any punctuation or use of capital letters is just annoying you don't know when one sentence end or the next start without reading it carefully it doesn't matter if every word is spelled correctly it's still annoying

See, it’s really annoying. Now let’s do the same sentence with bad spelling, but punctuation and capital letters:

Writin witout any punctation or use of captal leters is just anoying. You dont know then one sentance end or the next strat withot reding it carefuly. It don't mater if evry word is speled correclty it's stil anoying

Here, it at least looks like I tried a bit. It's all about effort, I can put up with bad spelling, if everything else is there like the use of paragraphs. It's still annoying, but I'm much more likely to read it.

 

[juicygirlie]

Lit is completely different from real life. I am here as an outlet, so the people I banter with tend to fulfill something I am missing in RL. Entertainment, humor, similar quirks and sexual connection fuel the friendships here. I'm forgiving of simple grammatical errors because I make them fairly regularly , but I am a spelling geek and I get annoyed when someone consistently misspells words. I don't mean typos, I mean they really cannot spell.

 

[BreezySnow]

It's apparent that my typos have become rampant as of late. Nothing kills a good thread more than an OP with a bad case of typos. I'll try and be more diligent with my typing (or is it thumbing if using a smart phone).

Which leads me to my topic: how much are you willing to put up with someone online. More than RL? Are you willing to accept a guy who appears basically intelligent but with a bad case of typos? What about a less than intelligent person with perfect key entry skills? What about brains over brawn? Nice but flighty? An asshole but funny?

I am a spelling geek also, will usually not send until I have checked it over. I hate when I am on my tablet because usually I am in a hurry and don't always see the mistakes, so when I go back to read it I have to edit it if there are any misspelled works. I am not that much of a stickler for punctuation or capitalization, because again on the tablet it is a pain to do all of that!

A funny asshole? That would depend on what type of person you consider an asshole. To me an asshole is rude and inconsiderate and those types of people I don't tolerate so I would not really deal with them in RL or on Lit. Brains over brawn, I don't care how great your body is, you still need to be able to hold a decent conversation! Nice but flighty, hmm, a nice person, but very irresponsible? That one is a bit harder because someone on here may seem irresponsible, but it is really just RL interferring. I can't answer this one because it would have to be depending on each situation.

 

[Aquagal]

When someone has continuous typos it means to me they don't bother to read what they're posting, so why should I?

I'd give a poor speller more patience than someone who just doesn't care to proofread.

 

[MausAss]

Let me clarify, I'm not saying you have to use punctuation perfectly or double check it. As long as you at least put in some effort into what you write.

I'm not a grammar nazi. Just a regular nazi. (Just a joke, I'm not really a nazi, I'm not even German. Another joke, I like Germans. It's those je... no can't make that joke. I'm already in enough trouble. Shalom, to all jews. I like you too.)

 

[ChainedUp]

I have a question for you, Chained. What's the story about the poll at the top of this thread... seems out of place?

The poll: I put it up thinking that every couple of weeks I could change it out but I set it up wrong and now it's there forever. Complete operator error.

 

[Bitesback]

I think typos are just a hazard of wanting to communicate something quickly. It's usually fairly easy to read the intent although I have seen some howlers. I usually type words such as of and not with the wrong vowels, pretty much every time.

As most people I've come across play word games here, they've been a bunch of nerdy wordsmiths, generally, so not much to overlook in terms of punctuation, spelling or grammar. But I am surprised how many seemingly intelligent men cannot spell masturbate. I think you shouldn't be allowed to do it if you can't spell it!

 

[Ellafun]

It's apparent that my typos have become rampant as of late. Nothing kills a good thread more than an OP with a bad case of typos. I'll try and be more diligent with my typing (or is it thumbing if using a smart phone).

Which leads me to my topic: how much are you willing to put up with someone online. More than RL? Are you willing to accept a guy who appears basically intelligent but with a bad case of typos? What about a less than intelligent person with perfect key entry skills? What about brains over brawn? Nice but flighty? An asshole but funny?

Glad you're not suffering from some kind of palsy!! And I guess "thumbing" is more appropriate than "fingering." *snerk

As to your topic, ~sigh~ "And then there's me."

One of the things about Literotica that makes me batshit crazy is reading a story that has been submitted and running into a typo or grammatical error. At that moment, I'm finished. I lose my concentration and inevitably become more focused on proofreading rather than enjoying the tale.

For the most part, the gentlemen and ladies with whom I post on the boards *seem* educated enough that I don't get bothered by the occasional flub. But my whole judgmental radar goes off when I start to see continuous mistakes. Then I become more focused on proofreading rather than enjoying the tale. (see what I did there?)

Am I a judgmental, grammar nazi snob? Maybe. But trust me when I tell you I do the same thing in RL. Just ask anyone in my office who still speaks to me. But I'll still probably talk to you on an anonymous internet board. And then I'll PM my bestie behind your back and bad-mouth ya.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I use a phone for posting, so my posts can have autocorrects that suck. I try to make them legible and coherent.

I do, however, think capitalization is most important. See below:

Let's help Jack off the horse.

let's help jack off the horse.

See. BIG difference.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Let me clarify, I'm not saying you have to use punctuation perfectly or double check it. As long as you at least put in some effort into what you write.

I'm not a grammar nazi. Just a regular nazi. (Just a joke, I'm not really a nazi, I'm not even German. Another joke, I like Germans. It's those je... no can't make that joke. I'm already in enough trouble. Shalom, to all jews. I like you too.)

*claps*

 

[Lord Pmann]

But I am surprised how many seemingly intelligent men cannot spell masturbate. I think you shouldn't be allowed to do it if you can't spell it!

The punishment should fit the crime. Chop off a pinky or something!!!! But don't withhold their masterb8shun!!!!!

 

[ChainedUp]

The punishment should fit the crime. Chop off a pinky or something!!!! But don't withhold their masterb8shun!!!!!

Gotta say even your version is harsh. I think first offense ought to get an "opposite" hand punishment. I hate losing digits

 

[SweetSam42]

Gotta say even your version is harsh. I think first offense ought to get an "opposite" hand punishment. I hate losing digits

No, never opposite hand!!