Litiquette

[sereneone4u]

Unfortunately, I have done this and usually nobody noticed. I don't know, maybe it really is me.

Several of us noticed and reached out to you.

 

[Miasorrow]

They say that when you are young you make more friends than later in your life. It is somehow easier to make friends, you compromise a lot more, you have more time or even you are willing to give more. I think something like that happens on Lit. Yes, many of us meet some people here who steel our attention, respect, we open up and call them friends. And some are. But are we looking for friends here who are different than our real life friends? To whom it's easier to open up a whole deeper away from the conformities and the social barriers? What intrigues most of us here is the anonymity but the moment you tell a person your age, occupation and other personal information you immediately kind of feel you have to live up to your "titles" and you somehow eliminate the biggest opportunity you had to act "free of charges".
To answer the question, yes I met a few people here ( i want to believe they are few mostly cause I am new ) that I respect and feel close to and that goes outside of Lit also.
But are we here to make friends ? I am wondering.

 

[ChainedUp]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences which of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences whic of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

Voice. Because it is the only venue where I am arguably sexy.

 

[periastron23]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences whic of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

yes and because it's wonderful and affirming and fun.

 

[ChainedUp]

They say that when you are young you make more friends than later in your life. It is somehow easier to make friends, you compromise a lot more, you have more time or even you are willing to give more. I think something like that happens on Lit. Yes, many of us meet some people here who steel our attention, respect, we open up and call them friends. And some are. But are we looking for friends here who are different than our real life friends? To whom it's easier to open up a whole deeper away from the conformities and the social barriers? What intrigues most of us here is the anonymity but the moment you tell a person your age, occupation and other personal information you immediately kind of feel you have to live up to your "titles" and you somehow eliminate the biggest opportunity you had to act "free of charges".
To answer the question, yes I met a few people here ( i want to believe they are few mostly cause I am new ) that I respect and feel close to and that goes outside of Lit also.
But are we here to make friends ? I am wondering.

Thanks for the post and welcome aboard we're all here for our own reasons, for me it was to find a naughty supplement to my real life. Making friends just happened along the way for me.

 

[stickygirl]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences which of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

I've had a couple of sexting flings with people I found incredibly sexy, even wrote a story on the back of one *sigh*. I think I'd find voice a bit too intrusive - it would interrupt my imagination and cam is a definite no-no because I've always thought the results would be a bit icky and I've never trusted the internet. Seems like I was right to as well...
http://www.theguardian.com/world/2014/feb/27/gchq-nsa-webcam-images-internet-yahoo

Just thinking the voice thing over - has anyone ended up in fits of laughter with it? I was just visualising saying "Pardon? Sorry I didn't catch that" and the reply to be "Oh fuck it I've come already - just gimme a second while I get some tissues" Sorry - just my juvenile snickering

 

[Thandi]

Just thinking the voice thing over - has anyone ended up in fits of laughter with it? I was just visualising saying "Pardon? Sorry I didn't catch that" and the reply to be "Oh fuck it I've come already - just gimme a second while I get some tissues" Sorry - just my juvenile snickering

I had a guy pretending that we were fucking and he was slapping his hands together and grunting...I swear it was everything I could do not to laugh.
We didn't text again after that.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Thanks for the post and welcome aboard we're all here for our own reasons, for me it was to find a naughty supplement to my real life. Making friends just happened along the way for me.

I've tried all three. .Really..honest. I tried. I can't choose from the three because none of them quite work for me.

There's inevitably a wall that gets hit, so I avoid the wall. I don't like sharing my orgasm with just a voice. ..or some words on a screen, or trying to maneuver my ass in front of a Web cam ..

Which really is not much more than comical...

 

[The_Fool]

But, but, but....i've done none of those things.

 

[sweetsauce]

My preference is voice <skype or phone>. messages and texts can be fun as an aperitif...lol and also a way to discover more about a person which makes phone sex good in my humble opinion

 

[Edensgarden]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences which of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

While sexting can be hot, my preference would be voice. There has to be a connection. A sexy voice whispering in my ear, telling me naughty thoughts can be very arousing. I'm not into cam so much.

 

[rubydlite]

Voice...voice yummy voice...wait ....I'm a good girl...
Texting...sexting...msging..**** too but for other reasons...to tease...to build up...
Skype (hyperventilating a little....) where's the edit button?
I like to watch but I'm camera (moving) shy....but I suppose the comfort level with the other person would lesson or increase that shyness.

 

[sunshinegirl05]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

My closest friends that I have made on Lit have my phone number, address, FB, e-mail....probably the only numbers they don't have are my social security number and bank account! ha.

If I walked away from Lit or if Lit closed, I am certain I would still maintain my friendships that I hold dear to my heart for many years to come.

 

[ChainedUp]

There's just something about voice. Hearing the passion build. The lips part just in advance of that first audible moan. How the other person loses themselves in their orgasm , listening to their breathing slow until we decide to go again. The better the connection, the better the voice

 

[NotHisLady]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences which of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

Text in the form of messaging particularly can be fun and is a basic, not to very personal (at first) medium. To develop a fantasy jointly can be exhilarating.

Once things become personal, on a level where the fantasy is more specific, I like video/cam better but what I want to see is reactions, a person's face. By the point we've gotten to wanting to see each other that's what the other person should want to see of me as well--glimpses of breast, hints of what hands are doing but primarily reactions--to see ME not naughty bits.

I can more or less skip voice altogether since it doesn't really appeal to me. Quite honestly I'm too easily distracted and we wind up talking about something completely different.

 

[stickygirl]

The lips part just in advance of that first audible moan. How the other person loses themselves in their orgasm , listening to their breathing ....

Stop it Chainey!! Oh hell - I'm thinking about sex too much this evening *bites knuckles*
I think I'd better go to bed

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

There's just something about voice. Hearing the passion build. The lips part just in advance of that first audible moan. How the other person loses themselves in their orgasm , listening to their breathing slow until we decide to go again. The better the connection, the better the voice

yeah....yeah...yeah..

You braggart...

 

[Ellafun]

What is the sexting/voice/cam thing of which you speak? I came here for the stories.

 

[LusterMunky]

What is the sexting/voice/cam thing of which you speak? I came here for the stories.

Nimrod.

 

[Thandi]

There's just something about voice. Hearing the passion build. The lips part just in advance of that first audible moan. How the other person loses themselves in their orgasm , listening to their breathing slow until we decide to go again. The better the connection, the better the voice

*Fans herself*
Mmmmmm

 

[Paul_Chance]

Sext, Voice or Cam....

Sext. Though it is close with voice, I have to go with sext. I am sure there are complex psychological reasons at play...but if I ask myself the question why...

Sexting invokes the imagination in it's purest form and the imagination is an incredibly powerful place - it shapes the world.

Voice is good - I have had some great voice over the years - but voice can go awry for a variety of reasons, some mentioned above. Voice requires at least rudimentary improvisational acting skills - and not everyone has them.

Cam, I have simply never done. Any image that goes out on the internet NEVER goes away. Cam streams are like number one with a bullet for hackers, hoping for that chat-roulette moment - nope, no thanks.

 

[photograph]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences which of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

I've done all three, and voice is my favorite. For reasons already mentioned, I really just enjoy hearing the other person's arousal grow as the conversation moves along, the subtle changes in tone and breathing, and especially the deep breath right before going over the edge.

 

[SweetSam42]

Afternoon topic: we all enjoyed naughty online fun, and if you say you haven't I'm going to have a hard time believing you. But in your experiences which of the standard 3, sexting, voice, or cam do you prefer and why?

My standard rule at Lit is that I hate all of these and never do any of them. And I'm completely giving myself away here, but that's a bit of a lie. Really, it's all about the connection with the person for me. I find that sexting and voice can be outstanding, if you have the right partner. And that is a HUGE "if." I have had very, very, VERY (did I say "very"?) few voice partners during my time here, and I find it to be a tricky medium. He needs to know how to make me tick, we have to click sexually and usually on other levels, and I have to feel as if I'm not just a fucktoy he's using and will soon discard (unless that's the game we're playing. ).

Voice is my favorite, by far. I can close my eyes and envelop myself in my imagination, his voice consuming me. Like I said, it can be powerful if done right, and done with the right person.

(Please, don't PM me asking for phone sex - my dance card is full. )

 

[SweetSam42]

Good morning! This morning's question has to do with friendships. Most of us have Lit friends born of many Lit related things. If Lit closed it's doors today, how many of you would honestly say you'd maintain a lit friendship a year from now. Or are our Lit friends, friends of convenience or as Aristotle called them, Friends of Utility, the lowest type of friendships.

Is it too late to jump on this train? Mr. Chainy posted this morning while we in Cali were still sleeping, so it's fair that I respond now, right?

I came to Lit to talk about sex. And while that's what I primarily do, I was surprised to find a few friends here.

If Lit closed today, I would take 3 people with me for sure. Perhaps a fourth. And I find that my friendships here at Lit resemble friendships in real life - some I want to fuck, some I want to make love to, some I want to flirt with, some are friends I can share details about my life with - kids, family, etc. (and sometimes those lines are blurred completely), and some are fleeting but fun in the moment.

And, as in real life, when friendships end, as I find they inevitably do on Lit, I am sad, and have been heartbroken. I had a recent friend who left without saying goodbye, and that stung a bit, as I thought we meant more to each other than he clearly thought. But, that's life. I occasionally find myself sad before a friendship ends, as I think about when that ending will come, as it so often must.