Litiquette VI

[hotwords229_A]

As a possible dude, I am on the fence.

If you’re a dude then maybe I am bi!

 

[Lonelywife1205]

As a fan of confirmation bias I called my mom and asked her if I’m likeable.
“You’re kind of . . . meh” she said.

I prefer to be feared more than liked. Actually, as a reclusive, hermit-type, introvert, I kind of go out of my way to avoid people thinking about me at all. Subsequently, everyone seems to like me. I think it’s my standoffish smile that makes people think I’m worthy of further inspection.

As for my brand on Lit, all I can say is that when I would post a naked dude pic I would always put the disclaimer caption “for the ladies”. One day Aussie told me to knock it off and just post the pics, so I did. Shares in the hotwords brand have climbed tremendously since then.

But you guys know I’m straight right . . . RIGHT?

I think “the ladies” would appreciate a “naked dude pic” right about now.

 

[Endless_Night]

If you’re a dude then maybe I am bi!

The things one learns on Lit.

I think “the ladies” would appreciate a “naked dude pic” right about now.

Would this be considered pandering from the crowd?

Hop to it, Muscles.

 

[hotwords229_A]

https://www.bing.com/th/id/OIP.M95DGMhq2iAIOMOr9imnTAHaEk?pid=Api

Here's a pic of "The Dude" naked.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

https://www.bing.com/th/id/OIP.M95DGMhq2iAIOMOr9imnTAHaEk?pid=Api

Here's a pic of "The Dude" naked.

My fault for not specifying “naked hotwords dude pic” *

 

[ImSinister]

https://www.bing.com/th/id/OIP.M95DGMhq2iAIOMOr9imnTAHaEk?pid=Api

Here's a pic of "The Dude" naked.

Hey, nice marmot.

 

[StacyLeigh]

Sounds like a smart dude.

He has his insightful moments...

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’m not really a social butterfly or cheerleader for group hugs and kisses on Lit.
Of course it’s nice to be liked, but it doesn’t bother me here if I’m not lusted over and my name mentioned in every fourth thread. Nah.

My circle of friends is small. And like Emmy, not against making new friends just sometimes I don’t want to put the time or effort into it. Even more so if I’m not really digging the nonsense being spouted. Yuppers, being honest here.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I don't know how I feel about today's question. I accidentally fell in with a cool group of people here, but that wasn't my intention, nor is it how I operate in RL. I am a charismatic oddball. My parents taught me to talk to anyone and everyone and because of that, I've become a bit of a social chameleon. I can find something relatable in almost everyone I meet.
Some people hate my optimism, and that's ok. That's their prerogative. I learnt very early on that other people's opinions of me are really none of my business.
That being said, it does sting when someone doesn't like me. That's rare. More often, people don't like my opinions or beliefs, but those can be changed as information becomes available. I suspect a lot of people can't t separate their identities from their core beliefs and therefore can't extend that courtesy to others. There are people with whom I disagree on most things but still like them as people. And there are people I agree with philosophically and think they're complete assholes. I'm sure people feel the same about me. That's life.

 

[parker77]

As a fan of confirmation bias I called my mom and asked her if I’m likeable.
“You’re kind of . . . meh” she said.

I prefer to be feared more than liked. Actually, as a reclusive, hermit-type, introvert, I kind of go out of my way to avoid people thinking about me at all. Subsequently, everyone seems to like me. I think it’s my standoffish smile that makes people think I’m worthy of further inspection.

As for my brand on Lit, all I can say is that when I would post a naked dude pic I would always put the disclaimer caption “for the ladies”. One day Aussie told me to knock it off and just post the pics, so I did. Shares in the hotwords brand have climbed tremendously since then.

But you guys know I’m straight right . . . RIGHT?

if you say so, dude.

 

[Lord Pmann]

As a fan of confirmation bias I called my mom and asked her if I’m likeable.
“You’re kind of . . . meh” she said.

I asked your mom the same thing about you this morning in the shower.

Hi five

 

[SMNaughtywife]

..... I suspect a lot of people can't t separate their identities from their core beliefs and therefore can't extend that courtesy to others. There are people with whom I disagree on most things but still like them as people.

Nailed it and agree very much so.

 

[parker77]

ok, i’ll bite. fuck yes, i like to be liked, particularly by those i really like and admire. that’s true both here on Lit and in RL. do i do things specifically to get someone to like me. hell yes, i’ve been that shallow from time to time. so, shoot me. is it my typical behavior to run around desperately doing things just to get people to like me. no damn way.

as far as my Lit brand goes, i haven’t taken very good care of that lately. the French75 episode took its toll and i’m not certain the very little bit of popularity i may have enjoyed will ever return. but, i still have my place. i mean, without us workaday also-rans, who would all the cool kids of Lit have to feel more superior than and lord over?

btw, whateverthefuck i’m doing has seemed to work ok so far. i’m happy. it’s like that joke about the guy who’s about to have sex and whips out a tiny penis. the woman he’s with asks him who he thinks he’s going to please with that, to which he responds,”me!”

 

[Endless_Night]

< I suspect a lot of people can't t separate their identities from their core beliefs and therefore can't extend that courtesy to others. >

This, so, so much.

< There are people with whom I disagree on most things but still like them as people. And there are people I agree with philosophically and think they're complete assholes. I'm sure people feel the same about me. That's life.

And this.

What so often amazes me is people that pride themselves on not changing their opinion or view. Like that is somehow steadfast, or admirable.

And I am not just talking old people. Sadly.

There is a poster that pops in from time to time on the GB. They have a unique perspective, at least from where I sit, and often espouse their views. It's much less about name calling than an information dump. They go on. (And on, and on, and on. )

I'm not saying I agree with everything said, but they're changed my opinion on a few issues. Not just from what's been said on the board, but from the rabbit holes the conversations have led me down. At the very least, I've found myself looking at issues from a completely different angle. Something likely to result in change down the way.

I'm a fan of the broad view.

Give me new information. Alter my opinion. Listen. Let's evolve together.

It'll be fun.



Unless I have to shower with Pmann.

 

[Suz_anne]

as far as my Lit brand goes, i haven’t taken very good care of that lately. the French75 episode took its toll and i’m not certain the very little bit of popularity i may have enjoyed will ever return.

Fwiw, it didn't change my opinion of you. I was curious why you tried out a new skin, but I still dig ya and have missed seeing you around.

 

[Endless_Night]

Fwiw, it didn't change my opinion of you. I was curious why you tried out a new skin, but I still dig ya and have missed seeing you around.

Seconded. French75 was funny and engaging. Why not just post under one moniker?

(That would be a rhetorical question. )

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't mind if most people like me. Like, the general population doesn't have to like me. I have very little desire for that, as can be evidenced by my behaviour here at Lit. In fact, the overly friendly people with a million friends are typically not my kind of people. A wise friend of mine says the old Aussie proverb, "A friend to everyone is a friend to no one." She would alswyas say the wisest things. Then she jiggles her boobs and it sounds even more wise.

As far as brand goes... I mean, I do have a bit of fun playing the adorably arrogant, charming, fun, gifted, intelligent, talented, interesting, fashionable villain here sometimes. No doubt. It's not to get anyone to like me as much as it's just sort of creating a character and having fun. With that, admittedly, it does weed out a LOT of people who may normally talk to me. I need thick skinned friends.

I am pretty choosy about the information I share out of the gate. I don't need any crazy people tracking me down trying to make a lampshape, sofa, recliner and love seat out if my penis skin. Because of that, I can be seen as aloof.

Now, I do care if my few friends like me. That's important to me. Take dear Trekka for example... She and I have been friends for years. But our personality's couldn't be more different. As a result, I have ended up apologizing numerous times to her for things I've said. It's not because I intentionally try to do it. It's just because I do care if she's offended or whatever. And maybe I'll have to apologize to her for using her friendship as an example.

I'd say on a scale of 1-69 on how much I care if people like me... I'd place myself at a 12.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Fwiw, it didn't change my opinion of you. I was curious why you tried out a new skin, but I still dig ya and have missed seeing you around.

Was there drama I missed??!?

 

[parker77]

Was there drama I missed??!?

no. i was fucking around posting under an alt for laughs and got busted for it. really no big deal, but i was publicly outed, which i totally deserved, and i got a little red cheeked as a result. so now i wear it like a hair shirt.

it’s funny in an odd way.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

no. i was fucking around posting under an alt for laughs and got busted for it. really no big deal, but i was publicly outed, which i totally deserved, and i got a little red cheeked as a result. so now i wear it like a hair shirt.

it’s funny in an odd way.

Pretty certain your ass got slapped too.
And I know you enjoyed it.

 

[parker77]

Pretty certain your ass got slapped too.
And I know you enjoyed it.

that was one of the more unexpected elements of the ordeal. it ain’t the first time you’ve slapped my ass and likely won’t be the last. but who’s keeping score?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

So I am always out of the loop... What happened with Parker?!

 

[Suz_anne]

I wish I was one of those people who didn’t care what people thought of her, but I’m not. I don’t like it when someone doesn’t like me.

I think the people who say they don't care what anyone thinks of them are full of malarkey. And for the 0.00001% of the population that actually doesn't care - well, they are psychopaths.

We may not care what everyone thinks of us, but we all certainly care about what some think of us. I'm sorry you ever felt excluded here - especially in a place that should be welcoming and non-judgey.

So I am always out of the loop... What happened with Parker?!

Apparently he got spanked.

SMN - if there is video, please forward to my inbox.

 

[Jd192235]

I wish I was one of those people who didn’t care what people thought of her, but I’m not. I don’t like it when someone doesn’t like me. But, it’s just one of those things. There are going to be people who, for whatever reason, don’t like you. That means you have a personality. I think that’s better than being bland and beige and just blending in. I just focus on those I do enjoy here. You can’t control what others think of you so it’s best not to dwell on the negative.

Sb you are almost impossible to not like , there’s something wrong w anyone that doesn’t !!!

 

[blade_rocknut]

I care that people like me. I find it uplifting and validating.

I care very little about those who don't. Not changing me for they.

I care about people who've never met or interacted with me who have a negative opinion...then I just wonder from whence came that opinion.