Litiquette VI

[parker77]

I kinda did

nice. i think you’re way cool.

 

[Suz_anne]

It’s obvious why no one will talk to AGG off of here. Maybe one of the nice people like Suzanne will take her under her wing. Give her a friend. Somebody. Please.

You clearly don't know me very well - I'm not nice.

But I do love me some aussiegeekygal.

 

[Suz_anne]

Hey me too! Let's start a clique.

Is this a fooooooooking clique? If so, I'm in.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

The cool kids...

This got mentioned yesterday. I always find this to be a fascinating topic. Our perception of the cool kids varies so much from person to person. I’m going to break this topic up into two parts- Lit and non-Lit.

Let’s talk about Lit, first. What do you think makes one of the cool kids at Lit? Do you feel like you are one of the cool kids? If not, do you resent it? Do you long to be part of that group and their witty banter and all their cool virtual parties?

Non-Lit- How do you fall into the caste system of high school or college? Were you popular? Well-liked? Or were you getting your hair styled by toilet water every morning?


Echosmith- Cool Kids
https://youtu.be/SSCzDykng4g

I've had zero patience for cliques or "the cool kids" on Lit or in high school.

I'm a nerdy introvert, so that hasn't been a circle I've ever had to worry about being "cool".

I'm me. I have friends, but I don't need to be "popular" or "included". Fuck that crap.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Hey me too! Let's start a clique.

Oh god, please don't.

 

[Suz_anne]

And in threads like this, most of my posts go unnoticed.

I may be derailing the conversation, but I want to ask more about this comment. I often don't have anything to say in response to a lot of what gets posted in the PG (in general, I'm not specifically talking about indie's posts). I am not a virtual *hugs* kind of person and if I ever use that rose emoji, it is done with sarcasm and/or irony.

It isn't that I'm consciously snubbing anyone - it is simply that I don't have anything to say or add. Why is that a bad thing?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I don't know, maybe cool kid doesn't equal popular after all. And, if you call yourself one, don't you lose your cool kid card? (Sorry Aussie!)

I cashed it in for my woman card

 

[Suz_anne]

It's not pointed at anyone in particular. It just seems the way it is in the threads that ask thought-provoking questions like this one. Maybe I notice it more because I do try to provide thoughtful answers and know that if I post my bits instead, like I did this morning, I get lots of feedback. When I share something deep, there's less response. It's interesting, and makes me wonder why, but it doesn't deter me from posting and sharing (obvs )

I hear the comment about people feeling their posts are ignored and I was just hoping to pick your brain. So if someone doesn't have a response, what kind of feedback would you want?

I'm honestly curious about this because I don't want anyone to feel ignored or invisible. But I'm also not inclined to say anything unless I have a specific response because I dislike insincerity.

Indie - I hope you know I'm speaking in generalities and not about you. Your comment just spurred my questions.

 

[parker77]

I may be derailing the conversation, but I want to ask more about this comment. I often don't have anything to say in response to a lot of what gets posted in the PG (in general, I'm not specifically talking about indie's posts). I am not a virtual *hugs* kind of person and if I ever use that rose emoji, it is done with sarcasm and/or irony.

It isn't that I'm consciously snubbing anyone - it is simply that I don't have anything to say or add. Why is that a bad thing?

it’s not a bad thing. i would hazard to guess that if we had statistics, an overwhelmingly high number of PG posts (like 80%) go unquoted or are not responded to directly. and that doesn’t mean the post was “unnoticed.” it just means the post didn’t elicit a response. but, i do understand how someone could feel shunned if none of their posts ever get quoted or get a response, especially if they are trying to engage in an active conversation. i think that’s why the most popular threads in AmPics tend to be the ones where the host quotes and responds to every post. posters get feedback and don’t feel “unnoticed.”

 

[aussiegeekygal]

It's not pointed at anyone in particular. It just seems the way it is in the threads that ask thought-provoking questions like this one. Maybe I notice it more because I do try to provide thoughtful answers and know that if I post my bits instead, like I did this morning, I get lots of feedback. When I share something deep, there's less response. It's interesting, and makes me wonder why, but it doesn't deter me from posting and sharing (obvs )

I hear the comment about people feeling their posts are ignored and I was just hoping to pick your brain. So if someone doesn't have a response, what kind of feedback would you want?

I'm honestly curious about this because I don't want anyone to feel ignored or invisible. But I'm also not inclined to say anything unless I have a specific response because I dislike insincerity.

Indie - I hope you know I'm speaking in generalities and not about you. Your comment just spurred my questions.

I acknowledge I am the absolute worst at this. People contribute and I'm not taking the effort to slow down and show appreciation, even when I really do. I'm terrible at multi-threading and when there's six conversations going on at once in a thread (which happens a lot in the PG) I barely keep up with one.

I also read threads backwards to figure out where I was, and THAT gets confusing.

I forget that because it doesn't bother me doesn't mean it doesn't bother other people (not projecting that on to you, indie, I just appreciate the opportunity to expand on what you've said).

 

[aussiegeekygal]

it’s not a bad thing. i would hazard to guess that if we had statistics, an overwhelmingly high number of PG posts (like 80%) go unquoted or are not responded to directly. and that doesn’t mean the post was “unnoticed.” it just means the post didn’t elicit a response. but, i do understand how someone could feel shunned if none of their posts ever get quoted or get a response, especially if they are trying to engage in an active conversation. i think that’s why the most popular threads in AmPics tend to be the ones where the host quotes and responds to every post. posters get feedback and don’t feel “unnoticed.”

And that's why I will never do an AmPics thread. Or be instafamous.

It's almost a backwards entitlement and I know I'm not able to keep up.

 

[parker77]

And that's why I will never do an AmPics thread. Or be instafamous.

It's almost a backwards entitlement and I know I'm not able to keep up.

thats why you should just do a private AmPics thread that consists of sending pics to me. i’ll send you a lovely comment to each one and expect no acknowledgement from you whatsoever.

 

[Dribble]

It's not pointed at anyone in particular. It just seems the way it is in the threads that ask thought-provoking questions like this one. Maybe I notice it more because I do try to provide thoughtful answers and know that if I post my bits instead, like I did this morning, I get lots of feedback. When I share something deep, there's less response. It's interesting, and makes me wonder why, but it doesn't deter me from posting and sharing (obvs )

Two bits four bits six bits a dollar
All for Indie stand up and holler

 

[Lord Pmann]

You clearly don't know me very well - I'm not nice.

But I do love me some aussiegeekygal.

On the forums you appear nice.

 

[base10]

Two bits four bits six bits a dollar
All for Indie stand up and holler

Ew..the chant not Indie

 

[StacyLeigh]

I notice it more because I do try to provide thoughtful answers and know that if I post my bits instead, like I did this morning, I get lots of feedback. When I share something deep, there's less response.

I'm not in the cool clique - though it seems from this thread that no one is... so maybe it doesn't exist? (It does, we all know it does)

When I joined, I never thought of Lit as a place where cliques would form (we are adults after all) but it's inevitable...whether it's based on common interest or similar humor or ways of thinking. The popular ones are just those that are more vocal, more visible, more in your face - because that's their personality or they just want the attention. That's not me. I read, I reach out occasionally, and post modestly. None of which garners the curiosity of the masses.

As for Indie's comment above - it's spot on. Several years ago, I had a pic thread and my "popularity" was much more than it is today. I guess it just matters what you want to be popular FOR (bits, jokes, honesty, flirting, etc.) Bits grab attention but I'm sure people appreciate your thoughtful posts just as much, Indie.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

On the forums you appear nice.

Oh, you're so cute when you try to flirt

 

[aussiegeekygal]

thats why you should just do a private AmPics thread that consists of sending pics to me. i’ll send you a lovely comment to each one and expect no acknowledgement from you whatsoever.

That sounds like a marriage proposal

 

[Dribble]

In any other thread on Lit, I'm really not the girl that cares if I get feedback. I think one's like this are different though...I open up, I make myself vulnerable, I feel self conscious and insecure afterwards sometimes, etc.

God. Like I do write now. Shit.

One thing I believe w all my heart, you make this place better. And not because of bits cause I never see those....I am not in the cool kid category

 

[Dribble]

Ew..the chant not Indie

It is an inside joke.

 

[base10]

It is an inside joke.

but that chant comes from a special place in hell

 

[parker77]

That sounds like a marriage proposal

i need to work on the efficacy of my communication skills.

but to be clear, was that a ‘no’ to the private pic suggestion?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I guess I equate popularity with friends, and I don't think I have a lot of friends here. Like you mentioned...less than 12. But if it's about likeability? Eh.... I still don't know. I always get the feeling that a lot of people roll their eyes at me. And in threads like this, most of my posts go unnoticed. Except by you, you friendly fucker. But I'm friendly too, so people don't treat me poorly either. I feel like I fall somewhere in the middle.

I don't know, maybe cool kid doesn't equal popular after all. And, if you call yourself one, don't you lose your cool kid card? (Sorry Aussie!)

I notice your posts often. It gives me a chance to call you Eeyore at every turn.

That is a good distinction. Popular and liked have little to do with each other. Regina George was popular. But what a Fugly Bitch. Not fetch at all.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Bits get grab attention but I'm sure people appreciate your thoughtful posts just as much, Indie.

https://media.tenor.com/images/417715538a572432f53deeb681d5a425/tenor.gif

Oh, you're so cute when you try to flirt

1. I am always cute.

2. I am just a gentleman. I am nice and polite, you cockwallet.

 

[Suz_anne]

As far as the cool kid thing goes, I think we might need a little perspective here.

We're hanging out on an aged sex chat bulletin board.

In 2020.

We're all dorks.


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