Kinks We Don't Understand: DD/lg (First in a series)

[Suz_anne]

*whispers* I think Fara mixed up the half naked dudes.

 

[default24]

Well, that and a Viagra may get you a ride on the subway, but I doubt it.

Have you read the whole thread?
Or are you sent here by someone to say how bored you are?

P and I don’t always see eye to eye, but you’re way off base on the incest thing.

I wasn't sent here by anyone, no. I was trying to lighten things up. I'm definitely bailing on this thread though, lol.
I'm with you two on the incest thing. Pmann never referenced or inferred incest at all

 

[MaBelle3120]

RA, I think it’s your B... the love they did NOT receive from their fathers, which most are curious about, and also gains the slur of “Daddy issues”... which does exist, but is not the be all and end all, as I’m friends with many littles who have strong relationships with their Dads.
For DD’s too. They may wish to be the Dad they never had. That protective, omnipotent, nurturing man. That man they never saw take care of their own mom.

I’m speculating.
Please tell me if I’m off base.

Most Littles I know have strong relationships with their Dads, just as you said. If we grew up with love, support, nurturing, and guidance... what's so odd about wanting those same things from a partner?

 

[AlwaysFara]

I wasn't sent here by anyone, no. I was trying to lighten things up. I'm definitely bailing on this thread though, lol.
I'm with you two on the incest thing. Pmann never referenced or inferred incest at all

No. I mixed up half naked dudes.

*gives Jenny 5$. Or was that Suz?*

 

[AlwaysFara]

I wasn't sent here by anyone, no. I was trying to lighten things up. I'm definitely bailing on this thread though, lol.
I'm with you two on the incest thing. Pmann never referenced or inferred incest at all

Sorry D.
My fault.

(See what I did? Please don’t go.)

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

RA I think it’s your B... the love they did NOT receive from their fathers, which most are curious about, and also gains the slur of “Daddy issues”... which does exist, but is not the be all and end all, as I’m friends with many littles who have strong relationships with their Dads.
For DD’s too. They may wish to be the Dad they never had. That protective, omnipotent, nurturing man. That man they never saw take care of their own mom.

I’m speculating.
Please tell me if I’m off base.

well, it's both A and B..
I'm A.
You've heard my story before. I had the absolute best relationship a girl could have with her father. Present. Caring. Supportive. Loving. Kinda-sorta fell short on the boundary setting with me, but after mom died, it was him and Nana.

I honestly could not have asked for a better father.

I prefer "Daddy" types.

My preferred term of endearment is "baby girl."

Am I playful? With the right man.
Do I need cuddles? With the right man.
Do I age regress? Fuck no.

To me being his "baby girl" has not a hairless twat to do with having a hairless twat. It's just a nickname, much like "Sweetie", "Honey", "Darling".. etc..

 

[catherinewheel77]

I wasn't sent here by anyone, no. I was trying to lighten things up. I'm definitely bailing on this thread though, lol.
I'm with you two on the incest thing. Pmann never referenced or inferred incest at all

At least yours was acknowledged. Mine got buried.

 

[AlwaysFara]

well, it's both A and B..
I'm A.
You've heard my story before. I had the absolute best relationship a girl could have with her father. Present. Caring. Supportive. Loving. Kinda-sorta fell short on the boundary setting with me, but after mom died, it was him and Nana.

I honestly could not have asked for a better father.

I prefer "Daddy" types.

My preferred term of endearment is "baby girl."

Am I playful? With the right man.
Do I need cuddles? With the right man.
Do I age regress? Fuck no.

To me being his "baby girl" has not a hairless twat to do with having a hairless twat. It's just a nickname, much like "Sweetie", "Honey", "Darling".. etc..

Somehow, with you, that’s Darlin’.

 

[AlwaysFara]

At least yours was acknowledged. Mine got buried.

I thought he was the other naked dude.
Maybe you should get naked...

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ok....I started to read #6....I gave it some effort but I was quick to lose interest.

Being involved in a DD's/lg relationship has nothing to do with incest....Nothing at all. So...question #6 is irrelevant and actually....boring and ill informed.

Being a Dom to sub is about being a Dom to a sub. The terms we use have nothing to do with incest..So..question #6 is based on a false impression of the lifestyle.

There is no answer to a false impression.

There is no question to an irrelevant answer.

It is very obvious you lost interest. Or didn’t read the question at all. Because you reference incest, which I didn’t reference. At all. In any way.

It sounds like you disagree with us on what exactly we (Littles) are doing, so I don't think you're going to get anyone to "admit" anything...

This is the most common misconception about anything I’ve said. I’ve never disagreed with your right to do it. I am all for your right to fuck while sucking a pacifier or while wearing your My Little Pony tee. Is it weird (to me)? Absolutely. But lots of sex stuff is weird.

But why are people not just admitting what goes on? We all know it. It makes the discussion much harder because we have to pretend that it’s something that it’s not.

P,

Have you ever heard of how a little girl's first love is her father? And no, I'm not talking about the creepy incest type of love, rather the type of love that stems from knowing that he's there to protect, guide, cherish, support, and take care of her?

That's the only way I know how to describe it.

I'm sure you've heard the phrase. "She married someone like her father. "

It's the same concept. A great many "littles" are seeking the same type of unconditional love that they either A) recieved from their fathers or B) did not receive from their fathers.


The difference is they are NOT their fathers and they have/had no interest in fucking their fathers, they just crave that same loving environment that they had when they were under the care of their fathers.

Does that help?

I don’t think the little thing has to do with incest. I get that it could. But I never made that statement. Señor Practical said that. Maybe a Freudian slip?

 

[default24]

Sorry D.
My fault.

(See what I did? Please don’t go.)

All right, but only because I fucking love wordplay

<I noticed. They're distracting>

But his has a whole face attached to it!

At least yours was acknowledged. Mine got buried.

I was jealous of your anonymity, but only until a few moments ago

 

[default24]

I thought he was the other naked dude.
Maybe you should get naked...

Alright Fara, you just went from 0 to hero in my book. What a redemption story

 

[Lord Pmann]

don’t come for me.)

Said no one on Lit ever.

 

[MrPractical]

Okay.


Then where does the age play come in?


My relationship is about the exchange of affection and strength. How is DD/lg different?
Asking as a sub, and a woman, not a little.

It does not. Age isn't part of the equation as long as both partners are of legal age...An honest DD's/lg relationship has nothing to do with age. It has everything to do with the exchange of trust and affection.

If both partners aren't of a legal age then they are into a different kink. DD's/lg is not what they are doing

 

[AlwaysFara]

All right, but only because I fucking love wordplay



But his has a whole face attached to it!



I was jealous of your anonymity, but only until a few moments ago

 

[Lord Pmann]

They won't admit it because they think people will look down on them. AFAIK, it doesn't work the other way. I never heard of a person pretending to be elderly.

For the win!!!!

But don’t judge me... I’m into GGMILFs.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

There is no question to an irrelevant answer.

It is very obvious you lost interest. Or didn’t read the question at all. Because you reference incest, which I didn’t reference. At all. In any way.



This is the most common misconception about anything I’ve said. I’ve never disagreed with your right to do it. I am all for your right to fuck while sucking a pacifier or while wearing your My Little Pony tee. Is it weird (to me)? Absolutely. But lots of sex stuff is weird.

But why are people not just admitting what goes on? We all know it. It makes the discussion much harder because we have to pretend that it’s something that it’s not.




I don’t think the little thing has to do with incest. I get that it could. But I never made that statement. Señor Practical said that. Maybe a Freudian slip?

well to use another well known, and extremely controversial relic for analogy...

Take the Confederate Flag.
To some is Symbolizes everything that was wrong in the Antebellum Southern States of America. It will never mean anything positive. It CAN NEVER have any other meaning than that of racism, slavery, etc..

To others, it's recognized as a controversial symbol. But also represents a way of life, a piece of history, with not quite the same negative connotation.


The use of the words "Daddy" or "little" in any sexual context or potentially sexual relationship dynamic will , by some, always be indicative of incestuous or pedophilic kinks.

But to others, it simply isn't either of those things.

Tomato
Tomahto

 

[MrPractical]

Not actual age, age play. Which many have mentioned can be a part of it. Do you have experience with that?

No..age play isn't part of the equation. It has nothing to do with DD's/lg.

We do have a great thread right here in the Playground that answers all of these issues.

 

[AlwaysFara]

No..age play isn't part of the equation. It has nothing to do with DD's/lg.

We do have a great thread right here in the Playground that answers all of these issues.

But it does... I’ve read posts in that thread where littles identity as little or middle...
That’s age play.

 

[MrPractical]

But it does... I’ve read posts in that thread where littles identity as little or middle...
That’s age play.

Nope...You are incorrect...You should spend more time reading.

 

[Lord Pmann]

well to use another well known, and extremely controversial relic for analogy...

Take the Confederate Flag.
To some is Symbolizes everything that was wrong in the Antebellum Southern States of America. It will never mean anything positive. It CAN NEVER have any other meaning than that of racism, slavery, etc..

To others, it's recognized as a controversial symbol. But also represents a way of life, a piece of history, with not quite the same negative connotation.


The use of the words "Daddy" or "little" in any sexual context or potentially sexual relationship dynamic will , by some, always be indicative of incestuous or pedophilic kinks.

But to others, it simply isn't either of those things.

Tomato
Tomahto

I don’t really love the analogy.

Are you familiar with the reasonable man theory? Would a reasonable person think that the stuff they are doing is really just pretending to be younger than they are? I feel like they make it seem so much shadier by this weird parsing of words.

We can call it headspace. We can call it free spirited. Or whatever. But these semantics are just muddying the waters. When someone who is an adult does some shit that is really just stuff kids do, that’s age regression. Let’s just call it what it is.

I don’t think these people are all paedos. They’re absolutely not. But I feel like we are trying to make euphemisms up to protect their kink. It’s cool. Just do your thing. If you wanna do kid shit, do kid shit. Just call it kid shit.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Nope...You are incorrect...You should spend more time reading.

Says the man who displayed such prowess in reading comprehension.

 

[Jada59]

E, I think it’s your B... the love they did NOT receive from their fathers, which most are curious about, and also gains the slur of “Daddy issues”... which does exist, but is not the be all and end all, as I’m friends with many littles who have strong relationships with their Dads.
For DD’s too. They may wish to be the Dad they never had. That protective, omnipotent, nurturing man. That man they never saw take care of their own mom.

I’m speculating.
Please tell me if I’m off base.

I'm with you on this one. I remember my dad always tucking us in at night, singing us a song, kissing us and telling us that he loved us. We were expected to say that we loved him back. My mom was cold as ice and only tolerated him doing this for a few years. Then she told him to stop doing it.

I also remember being two years old and asking him what love meant. I'm the type who questions everything. My dad told me to sit down on the floor. He came back with the dictionary, sat down beside me and looked up the meaning of the word.

I remember thinking that we were both in trouble because that was the book that adults used when they didn't know something. So to me, saying, "I love you" was really rather meaningless. We were saying it only because we thought we were supposed to.

My dad had the appearance of rather charmed life up until his dad died. His dad was wealthy so he was lavished with gifts and taken on nice vacations. His mom though was a witch with a B. For some reason, she liked me but the feeling was not mutual. She was horrible to people. Always picking fights and trying to control people. Played lots of games. Things were so bad between the two of them, that if he had to go back to her city on business, he did not let her know he was coming because he didn't want to see her.

When I was growing up, I was given very mixed signals from my dad. On the one hand, I was spoiled. He bought me anything I wanted. Took me wherever I wanted. Stopped the car at the drop of the hat if I saw some wildflowers I wanted to pick. He was also very charming and talented in terms of art and music. He helped us put on a carnival for charity. We often put on plays or sang and played instruments on the weekends when I had sleepovers.

Now the bad part! Much of the time we were like oil and water. He had a volatile temper and I was his target. Yelling, screaming, hitting, choking, extreme (IMO) punishments for slight infractions.

Thankfully after I moved out, he finally noticed the problem. He got some sort of satisfaction in taking things out on me, the first born. With me gone, he had no outlet. He was in therapy for years, starting with anger management. It really worked wonders for him. He was diagnosed with additional issues that made him impulsive and not good at reading people. He was not perfect but he did try really hard to communicate better and he no longer got enraged like he used to.

I don't think most of my BFs were like him but the man I married was. I think we do seek familiarity. In my ex's case, he did yell and call names a lot. He did cause me injuries by jumping in my path suddenly, bashing into me and knocking me sideways or tripping me, all of which was considered to be accidents by the counselors we saw as well as LE. Mostly he just broke stuff or hid it or threw it away. He did a lot of gas lighting. My poor gardener found tons of stuff that he had hidden from me. He stashed in the loft of the back house where I never went. He didn't allow me back there. When we moved here, we agreed that I could have the master bedroom and he would take that building.

Thing is with my ex, before we married, it was all a facade. He did spoil me. Bought me lavish things but not the sort of things that I wanted. Like caviar. He did get me a cat. I did want the cat.

Once married, he turned into a nightmare. He had all of my dad's bad qualities but none of the good ones. My mom couldn't stand for them to be together because she said my dad would behave badly for at least a day afterwards. Weird thing is, my ex's friend's wife made the same claim. Said he was normally a sweet person but after he had been with my ex, he behaved badly. Both were in the military and both were banned from working at the same duty station at the same time because of their antics.

So in no way was my ex loving or nurturing at all after we got married. In fact when I was pregnant, the loving and nurturing one was a guy online! We did actually meet once in person. That was cool.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that we might be attracted to what we perceive as familiar, but it doesn't always work out that way.

 

[SassySheDevil]

This is why those of us who do not understand, get lost. Too many different stories. It does deal with age play/no it doesn't.

I'm with Pmann in no matter how much it is explained, I don't think I'll understand the difference with D/s vs the Littles. If it doesn't deal with age play, I don't see a difference, and I'm reading, and trying really hard to understand.

My only experience with a D/s relationship (in person) he was very sweet and loving to her, as well as stern (I loved getting her in trouble) Of course, I didn't see them in the bedroom.

 

[MrPractical]

I don’t really love the analogy.

Are you familiar with the reasonable man theory? Would a reasonable person think that the stuff they are doing is really just pretending to be younger than they are? I feel like they make it seem so much shadier by this weird parsing of words.

We can call it headspace. We can call it free spirited. Or whatever. But these semantics are just muddying the waters. When someone who is an adult does some shit that is really just stuff kids do, that’s age regression. Let’s just call it what it is.

I don’t think these people are all paedos. They’re absolutely not. But I feel like we are trying to make euphemisms up to protect their kink. It’s cool. Just do your thing. If you wanna do kid shit, do kid shit. Just call it kid shit.

Yeah....You are frankly ignorant. I read what you just said and my only response...You are ignorant.

I suggest you read the definition of that word before you respond