Kinks We Don't Understand: DD/lg (First in a series)

[Suz_anne]

First off, I don’t see a debate. I see healthy discussions about what a kink actually is between people who live it as a lifestyle and those who seek to understand it.

Thanks for this - I was happy to see you feel this way. On the Daddy's Little Girl thread I saw that DS referred to this discussion as open warfare. I was disheartened by that because I feel like this has been a healthy, vigorous discussion.

People with differing viewpoints should talk about those differences. It may not change anyone's mind, but it is a better path to empathy. Something sorely lacking everywhere these days.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

First off, I don’t see a debate. I see healthy discussions about what a kink actually is between people who live it as a lifestyle and those who seek to understand it. If this was an argument or debate, I wouldn’t be here. I’m no good with those....

Thanks for this - I was happy to see you feel this way. On the Daddy's Little Girl thread I saw that DS referred to this discussion as open warfare. I was disheartened by that because I feel like this has been a healthy, vigorous discussion.

People with differing viewpoints should talk about those differences. It may not change anyone's mind, but it is a better path to empathy. Something sorely lacking everywhere these days.

Agreed - I think we're doing what we set out to accomplish.

Thanks, everyone!

 

[lurkingguy1978]

Thanks for this - I was happy to see you feel this way. On the Daddy's Little Girl thread I saw that DS referred to this discussion as open warfare. I was disheartened by that because I feel like this has been a healthy, vigorous discussion.

People with differing viewpoints should talk about those differences. It may not change anyone's mind, but it is a better path to empathy. Something sorely lacking everywhere these days.

This thread has been the LEAST of the open warfare. If you've missed the rest, consider yourself better for it.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I've been watching this debate evolve, and have a few thoughts:

I collect comic books. I collect action figures. I like super hero movies. I've dressed up in costumes as my favorite characters. Does that make me a Little? Does that mean I've engaged in age play?

No; it just means I'm a dork....let the mocking begin...(more thoughts later)

Now I promised Honey I wouldn’t make fun of any of the little topics. I did not promise not to make fun of Dark Simian. Such a request would’ve been far too much for me to handle. However, this thread is quite nice, so I will not make fun of him, despite the fact all of my insides are screaming for it. This is some massive restraint here.

However, there has been no warfare here. Just discussion. I do realize that this hurts the White Knight narrative. But moochie has been great. She answers and doesn’t get defensive. She provides coherent ideas and thoughts.

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[Suz_anne]

This thread has been the LEAST of the open warfare. If you've missed the rest, consider yourself better for it.

If you're referencing the kink shaming thread, I saw it all. But I disagree that it was open warfare. It was a heated discussion at times, but that's okay.

I guess I don't have a problem with people talking about things when strong feelings are involved. DD/lg clearly strikes a chord (good and bad) with some folks here.

I'd rather see dialogue even if it does get heated. To me that just shows that people have an opinion. And if they can back up their opinion with some solid reasoning - hallelujah.

It doesn't always have to be about ABC games and what color socks are you wearing here in the PG. We're adults talking about adult stuff. Sometimes anyways.

Now I'm off to post pics of titties or baby goats on my thread.

 

[Lord Pmann]

DD/lg clearly strikes a chord (good and bad) with some folks here.

It does strike a chord. It strikes a minor chord.

 

[default24]

It does strike a chord. It strikes a minor chord.

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[MrPractical]

I am confused....Don't we already have a thread on this issue?

 

[Lord Pmann]

But I'm sure many (like me) don't want to ask questions if someone gets pissy with the question asker.

This is my big concern too.

Okay... some follow up questions and comments.

1. Is it typical for a daddy and his lg (*shiver*) to be exclusive? It seems odd that you’d have multiple partners in this scenario.

2. I have a theory as to why the daddies don’t show their faces or comment. This is not directed at Moochie. I’m sure her daddy is just lovely. But the other lgs’ daddies. I suspect they’ve got lots of LGs on their lines and if they post, it’s gonna get confusing, like a Maury Povich paternity test show.

3. Not one little has mentioned that part of the kink is taboo. Come on. Part of the appeal of every kink is the taboo nature. Why has not one person admitted this?

4. I think I won’t get the distinction of age play versus little. It’s been explained several times and it’s like the same thing to my eyes when I read it.

5. Why are so few littles able to talk about this without getting defensive?

6. Last one... everyone keeps saying the DD/lg thing is not sexual at all- likely in an effort to avoid the appearance of pretending to fuck inappropriately. And they get mad when we ask why and they assure us that it’s not sexual and they’re not pretending to be underage when they have sex. That would all be easier to swallow (as the actress said to the bishop), IF THIS WAS NOT A SEX SITE. I feel like if they’d just admit, “yeah, we play like we are younger when we fuck” (for purposes of legalities, I mean 18). Why won’t people just admit they’re doing that? We all know that’s what you’re doing. Just someone say it, for fuck’s sake.

 

[Lord Pmann]

https://media.giphy.com/media/4k184nfxSphcs/giphy.gif

Not gonna lie, I was really proud of that joke.

I am confused....Don't we already have a thread on this issue?

Which thread is that?

 

[AlwaysFara]

This is my big concern too.

Okay... some follow up questions and comments.

1. Is it typical for a daddy and his lg (*shiver*) to be exclusive? It seems odd that you’d have multiple partners in this scenario.

2. I have a theory as to why the daddies don’t show their faces or comment. This is not directed at Moochie. I’m sure her daddy is just lovely. But the other lgs’ daddies. I suspect they’ve got lots of LGs on their lines and if they post, it’s gonna get confusing, like a Maury Povich paternity test show.

3. Not one little has mentioned that part of the kink is taboo. Come on. Part of the appeal of every kink is the taboo nature. Why has not one person admitted this?

4. I think I won’t get the distinction of age play versus little. It’s been explained several times and it’s like the same thing to my eyes when I read it.

5. Why are so few littles able to talk about this without getting defensive?

6. Last one... everyone keeps saying the DD/lg thing is not sexual at all- likely in an effort to avoid the appearance of pretending to fuck inappropriately. And they get mad when we ask why and they assure us that it’s not sexual and they’re not pretending to be underage when they have sex. That would all be easier to swallow (as the actress said to the bishop), IF THIS WAS NOT A SEX SITE. I feel like if they’d just admit, “yeah, we play like we are younger when we fuck” (for purposes of legalities, I mean 18). Why won’t people just admit they’re doing that? We all know that’s what you’re doing. Just someone say it, for fuck’s sake.

Your #2.

What’s your theory?
It’s just the multiple little thing?

I agree, but is it only that?

 

[MrPractical]

This is my big concern too.

Okay... some follow up questions and comments.

1. Is it typical for a daddy and his lg (*shiver*) to be exclusive? It seems odd that you’d have multiple partners in this scenario.

2. I have a theory as to why the daddies don’t show their faces or comment. This is not directed at Moochie. I’m sure her daddy is just lovely. But the other lgs’ daddies. I suspect they’ve got lots of LGs on their lines and if they post, it’s gonna get confusing, like a Maury Povich paternity test show.

3. Not one little has mentioned that part of the kink is taboo. Come on. Part of the appeal of every kink is the taboo nature. Why has not one person admitted this?

4. I think I won’t get the distinction of age play versus little. It’s been explained several times and it’s like the same thing to my eyes when I read it.

5. Why are so few littles able to talk about this without getting defensive?

6. Last one... everyone keeps saying the DD/lg thing is not sexual at all- likely in an effort to avoid the appearance of pretending to fuck inappropriately. And they get mad when we ask why and they assure us that it’s not sexual and they’re not pretending to be underage when they have sex. That would all be easier to swallow (as the actress said to the bishop), IF THIS WAS NOT A SEX SITE. I feel like if they’d just admit, “yeah, we play like we are younger when we fuck” (for purposes of legalities, I mean 18). Why won’t people just admit they’re doing that? We all know that’s what you’re doing. Just someone say it, for fuck’s sake.

I will be short in my answer....It's my nature.

I read through everything you "said"

You don't get it..

 

[Lord Pmann]

Your #2.

What’s your theory?

I stated it in #2. The theory is that there’s like two daddies out there to all the littles out there. If they speak up, there will be a tiny army of people stomping around and throwing their passies.

Or maybe certain lgs have lots of daddies. Like maybe she’s in some kind of simultaneous foster family system.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I will be short in my answer....It's my nature.

I read through everything you "said"

You don't get it..

Could you at least address #6? That’s the one on most of us Regulars’ minds.

 

[MrPractical]

Could you at least address #6? That’s the one on most of us Regulars’ minds.

Ok....I started to read #6....I gave it some effort but I was quick to lose interest.


Being involved in a DD's/lg relationship has nothing to do with incest....Nothing at all. So...question #6 is irrelevant and actually....boring and ill informed.

Being a Dom to sub is about being a Dom to a sub. The terms we use have nothing to do with incest..So..question #6 is based on a false impression of the lifestyle.

There is no answer to a false impression.

 

[MaBelle3120]

This is my big concern too.

Okay... some follow up questions and comments.

1. Is it typical for a daddy and his lg (*shiver*) to be exclusive? It seems odd that you’d have multiple partners in this scenario.

2. I have a theory as to why the daddies don’t show their faces or comment. This is not directed at Moochie. I’m sure her daddy is just lovely. But the other lgs’ daddies. I suspect they’ve got lots of LGs on their lines and if they post, it’s gonna get confusing, like a Maury Povich paternity test show.

3. Not one little has mentioned that part of the kink is taboo. Come on. Part of the appeal of every kink is the taboo nature. Why has not one person admitted this?

4. I think I won’t get the distinction of age play versus little. It’s been explained several times and it’s like the same thing to my eyes when I read it.

5. Why are so few littles able to talk about this without getting defensive?

6. Last one... everyone keeps saying the DD/lg thing is not sexual at all- likely in an effort to avoid the appearance of pretending to fuck inappropriately. And they get mad when we ask why and they assure us that it’s not sexual and they’re not pretending to be underage when they have sex. That would all be easier to swallow (as the actress said to the bishop), IF THIS WAS NOT A SEX SITE. I feel like if they’d just admit, “yeah, we play like we are younger when we fuck” (for purposes of legalities, I mean 18). Why won’t people just admit they’re doing that? We all know that’s what you’re doing. Just someone say it, for fuck’s sake.

I'll try to answer a couple of these, but the rest i'm not touching....

For 1. Almost all of the DD/lg relationships I know, online and in real life, are exclusive. Focusing on the wellbeing of one relationship and one Little is enough for most.

6. I don't think any of us have said DD/lg is not sexual. There are several comments where we explain that DD/lg is a form of D/s at its core, so yeah, it can be sexual. However, Age play and regressing to another age is not sexual. Just saying, age play and DD/lg = two separate things. But in DD/lg, we are not "playing younger", we are simply enjoying carefree lighthearted activities with a Dominant partner that is interested in the more caring and nurturing parts of D/s. We are not adopting a younger age in DD/lg, at no point in DD/lg does a Little or their partner lose sight of the fact that everyone involved in an adult. It sounds like you disagree with us on what exactly we (Littles) are doing, so I don't think you're going to get anyone to "admit" anything...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

P,

Have you ever heard of how a little girl's first love is her father? And no, I'm not talking about the creepy incest type of love, rather the type of love that stems from knowing that he's there to protect, guide, cherish, support, and take care of her?

That's the only way I know how to describe it.

I'm sure you've heard the phrase. "She married someone like her father. "

It's the same concept. A great many "littles" are seeking the same type of unconditional love that they either A) recieved from their fathers or B) did not receive from their fathers.


The difference is they are NOT their fathers and they have/had no interest in fucking their fathers, they just crave that same loving environment that they had when they were under the care of their fathers.

Does that help?

 

[AlwaysFara]

Ok....I started to read #6....I gave it some effort but I was quick to lose interest.


Being involved in a DD's/lg relationship has nothing to do with incest....Nothing at all. So...question #6 is irrelevant and actually....boring and ill informed.

Being a Dom to sub is about being a Dom to a sub. The terms we use have nothing to do with incest..So..question #6 is based on a false impression of the lifestyle.

There is no answer to a false impression.

Hi there. We have never spoken. Nice to meet you, I’m Fara.
Read #6 again. It does not touch on incest, but on sexuality and age play.

 

[default24]

I don't think his #6 referenced incest... that's a whole nother kink, right?

Hi there. We have never spoken. Nice to meet you, I’m Fara.
Read #6 again. It does not touch on incest, but on sexuality and age play.

Well done, you two. Nothing gets me hotter than reading comprehension competence

 

[AlwaysFara]

P,

Have you ever heard of how a little girl's first love is her father? And no, I'm not talking about the creepy incest type of love, rather the type of love that stems from knowing that he's there to protect, guide, cherish, support, and take care of her?

That's the only way I know how to describe it.

I'm sure you've heard the phrase. "She married someone like her father. "

It's the same concept. A great many "littles" are seeking the same type of unconditional love that they either A) recieved from their fathers or B) did not receive from their fathers.


The difference is they are NOT their fathers and they have/had no interest in fucking their fathers, they just crave that same loving environment that they had when they were under the care of their fathers.

Does that help?

RA, I think it’s your B... the love they did NOT receive from their fathers, which most are curious about, and also gains the slur of “Daddy issues”... which does exist, but is not the be all and end all, as I’m friends with many littles who have strong relationships with their Dads.
For DD’s too. They may wish to be the Dad they never had. That protective, omnipotent, nurturing man. That man they never saw take care of their own mom.

I’m speculating.
Please tell me if I’m off base.

 

[catherinewheel77]

This isn’t the Manhattan Project, ffs.

(Just injecting some levity...don’t come for me.)

 

[Jada59]

This is my big concern too.

Okay... some follow up questions and comments.

1. Is it typical for a daddy and his lg (*shiver*) to be exclusive? It seems odd that you’d have multiple partners in this scenario.

2. I have a theory as to why the daddies don’t show their faces or comment. This is not directed at Moochie. I’m sure her daddy is just lovely. But the other lgs’ daddies. I suspect they’ve got lots of LGs on their lines and if they post, it’s gonna get confusing, like a Maury Povich paternity test show.

3. Not one little has mentioned that part of the kink is taboo. Come on. Part of the appeal of every kink is the taboo nature. Why has not one person admitted this?

4. I think I won’t get the distinction of age play versus little. It’s been explained several times and it’s like the same thing to my eyes when I read it.

5. Why are so few littles able to talk about this without getting defensive?

6. Last one... everyone keeps saying the DD/lg thing is not sexual at all- likely in an effort to avoid the appearance of pretending to fuck inappropriately. And they get mad when we ask why and they assure us that it’s not sexual and they’re not pretending to be underage when they have sex. That would all be easier to swallow (as the actress said to the bishop), IF THIS WAS NOT A SEX SITE. I feel like if they’d just admit, “yeah, we play like we are younger when we fuck” (for purposes of legalities, I mean 18). Why won’t people just admit they’re doing that? We all know that’s what you’re doing. Just someone say it, for fuck’s sake.

They won't admit it because they think people will look down on them. AFAIK, it doesn't work the other way. I never heard of a person pretending to be elderly.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Well done, you two. Nothing gets me hotter than reading comprehension competence

Well, that and a Viagra may get you a ride on the subway, but I doubt it.

Have you read the whole thread?
Or are you sent here by someone to say how bored you are?

P and I don’t always see eye to eye, but you’re way off base on the incest thing.

 

[MrPractical]

I don't think his #6 referenced incest... that's a whole nother kink, right?

Ok...Since it was YOU that asked....I read #6...I was wrong. It wasn't about incest....Incest is a completely different kink. Question #6 apparently is about sex with underage girls...Otherwise know as pedophilia.

Just to be clear....Having a DD's/lg relationship has nothing to do with incest or pedophilia.

A DD's/lg relationship is about the exchange affection and strength. It is a give and take. It has nothing to do with incest or age domination.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Ok...Since it was YOU that asked....I read #6...I was wrong. It wasn't about incest....Incest is a completely different kink. Question #6 apparently is about sex with underage girls...Otherwise know as pedophilia.

Just to be clear....Having a DD's/lg relationship has nothing to do with incest or pedophilia.

A DD's/lg relationship is about the exchange affection and strength. It is a give and take. It has nothing to do with incest or age domination.

Okay.


Then where does the age play come in?


My relationship is about the exchange of affection and strength. How is DD/lg different?
Asking as a sub, and a woman, not a little.