just some thoughts from this 19 y/o virgin

[Guest]

All my life I have felt like sex should be treated with alot of respect and that it is meant for a steady relationship and not just something as a toy just for either partner to get off on. Also, if I was in a relationship and the woman left me because I wasn't good in bed or she cheated on me, I would feel exteemely bad.

While it is still true that I would much desire to be in a relationship before engaing in any kind of sexual activity and still would feel devestated if a relationship I was in ended because the sex wasn't good, I don't feel quite as uptight about casual sex as I did before. I mean if I was single still and had sex with a woman and nothing came of it, I could probably take it just fine as long as the woman was honest with me about her plans, and she was clean.

I don't know, maybe it's since I turn 20 in 2 months that I am having some sort of "coming of age" or "awakening" or something. I would love to talk to people about this, both on here and privately thru email and chat. Thanks a bunch.

Always,

Jeff
hambone2000@hotmail.com
ICQ 29331620
AOL IM jdh72680

PS- Will send picture to you if you wish.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

My ex girlfriend still is the same way after 10 months with me and I always respected her in the morning... even if it meant I woke up with a useless hardon...


Da chef

 

[Jeff726]

I just want my first time to be the most special and with someone I care about. After that, I am open to some pure fun. I am sorta like that girl in the story "From Afar" (best one I ever read here btw) in the sense that I have been after love for the longest time and have not found it. And I will do all I can to save myself for the right woman to give my virginity and heart to. But if I can't wait that long, I guess that's just how it is.

-Jeff (i decided to register)

 

[*Eve*]

Jeff,
first of all, I'd like to say thank you for the compliment on my story FA.
Secondly (is that even a word?),I think that you are entitled to feel the way you feel. I really respect anyone who wants to wait for something special. I was twenty when I lost my virginity and I thought it was pretty special. I think everyone's first time should be when they're ready and not when they feel they should just because society makes us feel inadequate for not having sex. I will warn you though that once you have sex you may become an addict like myself

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Cheap, torrid, meaningless sex can be fun, but it's always best when the two people involved care about each other, and I hope you find what you're looking for my friend. If you want to talk some more about this feel free to email me. eve@literotica.org

 

[Guest]

Wow... I used to think like Jeff did. Throughout high school I wouldn't go all the way. I wanted it to be special, I wanted to be in love, etc. Towards the middle (or so) of my Senior year my boyfriend (of 2 1/2 years) and I became engaged. I really thought I loved him... At some point in time we had sex. (It wasn't that memorable 'cause he was a virgin too!) Anyway, even after we broke up I had no hard feelings about having sex with him. The next time I had sex w/ someone I was 18 (and had been dating a guy for 6 mos.). Anyway, the point to my rambling is around 19/20 things changed for me. I started fucking people I wasn't dating at all, let alone a long time. I had some one night stands that were "my fault", etc. I guess I gave up on thinking it had to be special....

 

[Jennifer Kaye]

For me there's something special about sex with the one you love. At the same time, I tend to view sex as just sex and nothing more.

In other words, I really like casual sex without any hangups, but then, I think I'm quite a deviant girl. I also think, however, casual sex only really works when both people are okay with the idea of it so that nobody feels like they are owed more than just sex. Without this mutual understanding, things can certainly get messy and the person with more serious intentions can get hurt.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[Skitten]

I agree that casual sex is ok if both parties agree that it is nothing more, but I think sex is much more meaningful to the two people who are commited to each other. Emotionally as well as being attracted to the other party physically. I think you get more out of your sex life if you are commited to that one person.

 

[Xander]

Amen *Eve* Jennifer & Skitten.
You said it all, no need for me to repeat it.