Just how much does money mean to you?

[Mia62]

Sure you can say that you would love anyone...it doesn't matter if they have money...but could you actually start a life with them?

Yes, money buys necessities but how many of your wants do you disguise as a necessity?

How would you feel if you had to lower your 'standard' of living?

 

[J.B.]

Having been broke. No poor my entire childhood money is very important to me. Do I look for a partner with money? No. Why would I? It’s his money not mine. I can work for my own.
Have I lowered my standard of living? As low as it’s been there’s nowhere to go but up.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I've spent the last ten years lowering my standards.

I am quite adjusted now.

I like money. It pays my bills. I could use more of. But I am quite content without it.

 

[cybergirly]

Why would I have to lower my standards? I'm perfectly capable of contributing more than my good looks to a relationship.

If on the other hand I were unable to work for some reason, I'm also very adaptable. Anyone who's ever been suddenly out of work, or suffered an unexpected monetary loss knows how quickly you can get used to dealing without.

 

[capricious_chic]

Money means a lot to me. I have a certain standard of living that would be very hard for me to compromise. In a relationship standpoint, I would expect that my mate of choice would bring to the relationship as much, or more than I do. That doesn't necessarily mean monitarily though. I firmly believe that I should and can provide for all of my needs and wants, and I don't look towards others to provide these things for me. Basically, looking towards a mate to provide for you is just a a way to not take responsibility for yourself, which I couldn't do. So the idea that any mate of my choice would determine the lifestyle in which I would chose to live becomes moot.

 

[Mia62]

When I told someone today that a man I met about a month ago is planning some things to do with me...the comment back to me was something along the lines of

Good he has money. He is perfect for you.

I actually just like the man cause he is very sweet and cares about my feelings. Sure, I guess that the money part makes a difference in what we may choose to do for entertainment...but I would also like the man even if we just ordered pizza and hung out to watch a DVD.

 

[Gil_Favor]

How would you feel if you had to lower your 'standard' of living? [/B]

After my divorce, I learned real quick that it took a lot of money to run 2 households, Consequently,My standard of living IE: nice house in the burbs with all the toys came to an abrupt halt. I have learned to live with less, and have found that life goes on, money and "things" do not mean as much as they once did .............

 

[Liontamr]

What's funny is I thought about this and asked myself this a few days ago.. I was filling out a profile and of course there was the question "how much do you make per year" and there were the standard options to pick from.

I make under 25,000 per year. Actually in all honesty all I make is 18,000 per year. That's not alot by any stretch, but ya know it's enough to give me a comfortable living. I can pay my bills, live a regular life and have enough money left over for nice things like games and extra cool looking clothes. But yet when a person sees "Less than 25,000" they tend to think "wow that guy is poor!" Which I am.. but not poor to the point where I can't afford anything.

I am quite happy with making enough to pay the bills and get a few extra things.. For now anyway.

Money has never been a big deal for me.

 

[Spider_Guy]

I have so little money I'm gonna go live in the woods. Live off nature and walk around naked all day.

.......Hope nobody thinks I'm sasquatch and tries to tranqualize me....lol.

 

[Mia62]

I am just trying to figure out how to get the live feed cams hooked up in the woods.

 

[cutie pie]

Nine months ago, I left a very comfortable, middle-class existence. . .nice house in the burbs, money in the bank, enough left over for an occasional splurge. Now, I live paycheck to paycheck and must budget for anything over the bare necessities. What little I have in the bank is my emergency fund.

Am I happier now? You bet.

Not everybody could say that. I have friends that have stayed married because they don't want to give up their standard of living. We all have our priorities.

 

[Liontamr]

Not everybody could say that. I have friends that have stayed married because they don't want to give up their standard of living. We all have our priorities.

Sounds like yours are in perfect order.

Money isn't everything.. It's nice, and a certain of amount is needed, but it's hardly something I'll base life choices - or life mates - on.

 

[Mia62]

Nine months ago, I left a very comfortable, middle-class existence. . .nice house in the burbs, money in the bank, enough left over for an occasional splurge. Now, I live paycheck to paycheck and must budget for anything over the bare necessities. What little I have in the bank is my emergency fund.

Am I happier now? You bet.

Not everybody could say that. I have friends that have stayed married because they don't want to give up their standard of living. We all have our priorities.

What are you doing in my life???

Mind you...I went to view a townhouse today that I am most probably going to buy. It will be my security...I will have to scrimp and save to hang on to it. It will make me poor to do it...but the security is important for the kids as well as me.

 

[Spider_Guy]

I am just trying to figure out how to get the live feed cams hooked up in the woods.

Hmmm, you cheeky devil you

 

[MishkarinaSkye]

I've spent the last ten years lowering my standards.*It's only been 7 years for me, but close enough IMO

I am quite adjusted now.

I like money. It pays my bills. I could use more of. But I am quite content without it.

I could not have said it better myself.

 

[cutie pie]

What are you doing in my life???

Mind you...I went to view a townhouse today that I am most probably going to buy. It will be my security...I will have to scrimp and save to hang on to it. It will make me poor to do it...but the security is important for the kids as well as me.

I totally understand. Every decision I've made in the past few months has been my decision. I find great pleasure in making them on my own, without any input from anybody else. The next house I own will be what I want, not because it's in the "right" neighborhood.

Liontamr ~ yes, my priorities are in the right order. Unfortunately, it took me way too long to get here.

As for looking for a partner who has money. . . Doesn't even make the list.

 

[Liontamr]

Liontamr ~ yes, my priorities are in the right order. Unfortunately, it took me way too long to get here.

As for looking for a partner who has money. . . Doesn't even make the list.

You got there though.. that's what matters.

 

[The Heretic]

Money means more to me now that I don't have any of it coming in and there is a definite date when I will run out of what I have saved up (awww, the inevitable march of time...) - but if I were in a relationship I would expect my partner to subsist on her own income.

I am beyond the point where I want to support a family with the basics, or even just another person. I would expect a lover to be independent and to be able to pay her own bills. It wouldn't bother me to share a residence, but I am not going to share her bills - I've got enough of my own, and someday soon I want to retire.

Beyond that all things are negotiable.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

At this point in my life I honestly cannot say that I could make a serious commitment to a woman who wasn't similarly yoked professionally.

 

[Sheaf_Beast]

Money...... hey! You have to have it to do all the things that you want to do. You just try to be as smart and efficent as you can with that stuff.

 

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[ksmybuttons]

I think the less you have the more important it becomes.

 

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[cheesysusie]

I left my last job almost 3 months ago. It was a bad situation all around. Family conflicts, etc. At the time, it seemed that I had financial problems, but in reality, the bills were pretty well paid. As down as I get now, trying to pay the bills on the occasional temp assignment, etc., I am just about the happiest I've been in my life. For the first time, no one's helping me. So I may have to sacrifice my cable or my cell phone. Big deal. Those things will mean so much more to me when I've earned them.

As for my relationship. I also happen to be in a relationship where my boyfriend makes significantly more money than I do. Even when I was working, I made less than a tenth of what he makes. I do not accept any money from him, and he has pretty well learned not to buy me extravagant presents, as I will not accept them. I have no intention of ever taking money from him. It would be so much easier for me right now to let him pay some of my bills, but I won't do it. Our different finances do cause tensions. But not because he feels like I'm with him because of his money. He sometimes wishes I were more interested in his money. But I know that some day, I'm going to make plenty of it on my own. And until then, I'll scrape up change to go buy a six-pack when it's been one of those hellish days. I ain't proud.

 

[Guru]

I make enough money on my own. I wouldn't need to be supported.