its one of those days *rant rant rant*

[shynsexy]

Have you ever had one of those days where you wished you had never got out of bed?

Welcome to my day.

I wake up, late for the kids daycare so I decide to keep them home. It is "battle of the flowers" anyway. So i get a call from my B/F's ex chick.....wonderfull. She's like "honey is Jr. there? His daughter really misses him and wants to talk to him"

"no " i said "he's not here, but i can go downstairs and see if he's home"

So i bring him the phone and about 30 seconds later she's screaming at him.

Thats ok, too.. i didnt have to deal with it.

Later on in the day my mom takes me to the grocery store and i buy $20 worth of food and a roll of quarters for laundry. She say "i thought you were going to lose weight after your husband went to jail. I guess i was wrong." I told her i was losing weight and she says "it sure doesnt look like it"

self esteem is now getting lower and lower and i just wanted to put it all back... I meant $20 is not alot of food for 3 kids and myself, but she made me feel like a slob.

Now i am back home waiting for dinner to finnish so the kids can eat and go to bed. I hope he comes over tonight after work....so i can have some fun.

Ever have one of these days???

 

[Wave_Rider]

Just a beach boy's opinion but..................

When those who are "supposed' to be close to you---in this case your mom, don't let their comments sting you. Self esteem comes from within. Yes its hard to ignore comments such as MOM's but you have to.

Weight (none of my business) is not an indicator the true worth of an individual. Rather their heart, traits such as honesty, trust, love, compassion and Passion rate much higher, at least with someone who understands people.

Though its probably difficult to do..........ignore mom in this instance but I'd also consider letting her know that her comments stung you.........but don't do it from anger.........that will take away the value of your comments..........

Hopes for a better weekend......

 

[shynsexy]

Thanks Wave_Rider. Although I dont think telling her will matter, at least you brightened my day a bit!

 

[Wiggles]

Your Mom needs an attitude adjustment. What's it to her how much you weigh?

Just remind her, some day she'll be sitting in a nursing home and who's going to be the one to bring her fresh Starbucks everyday? Hmm. That should make her think a bit.

Sorry you had a bad day.

 

[Guest]

I'm sorry, shynsexy. I hope things improve, for you. Nuture yourself, this weekend.

 

[shynsexy]

Thanks Wiggles and raindancer, I am glad to know I can always come to Lit and blow off steam Yall have a great weekend too!

 

[koalabear]

Tip

Place the roll of quarters in your palm, close your fingers around them making a fist, punch out the offending parties.

 

[InnocentAngel81]

wow i hope tomorrow is better for you

 

[Shaq]

Shynsexy....I'm reminded of a song....

*sings*

"Oh what a day it has been/I thought it wouldn't end/but now that it has, I'm glad" Perilaxx

 

[Pdxmwm]

The power in words

Have you ever had one of those days where you wished you had never got out of bed?

Welcome to my day......

Later on in the day my mom takes me to the grocery store and i buy $20 worth of food and a roll of quarters for laundry. She say "i thought you were going to lose weight after your husband went to jail. I guess i was wrong." .....

You have my wishes for a brighter and better tomorrow!

I don’t know what it is between mothers and daughters, but I’ve seen this type of hurtful talk all too often. Mothers don’t seem to realize the power in their words. I can’t tell you how many times my wife has been reduced to tears by her mother’s sharp tongue. Age, experience, or success in life, don’t seem to be factors; my wife is nearly 50, a mother in her own right, and extremely successful in business. Yet, a single comment of the type you experienced will reduce her to tears. We’ve talked about it, and she’s now trying to react in a calm, but forceful manner when Mom gets out of line. Last week, after a particularly sharp comment, she turned to her mom, and quietly said “That was a hurtful thing to say.” There was no excess emotion, and she didn’t make a big deal out of it. Her mother’s jaw dropped, and she stood there in silence for a moment, and then continued with what she was doing. Later in private, she apologized, saying she really didn’t mean for it to be hurtful.

I hope tomorrow treats you more kindly.