Is your past an open book?

[DarkPleasures]

If I am asked about my past by a few special people (Miss Lamb included) I will share. Perhaps not in explicit detail but enough for them to get a clear picture and sense of the way
I was in my past. I think this is an interesting question so thanks to the OP for posting this.

Do you share your past actions with the woman you said your vows with? What about your current cheating?

 

[Beck31]

Yes. Like I said if asked I will share with her.

 

[lance1969]

Mine is to strangers as here only.

 

[klippert]

I've encouraged mrsK to tell all....I don't think she has completely.....she really doesn't have much an interest in my sexual past.. she'd certainly receive a Bi-mind full

 

[Tomahawk26]

Yeah, I don't even understand the whole idea of being married to someone to whom I couldn't tell all my secrets. . . there are some things my husband never intended to tell me about his past sexual experiences, but that was re: abuse when he was a child. I was upset when I found out about that, not because of the facts themselves (I mean obviously it was upsetting in some ways and always would've been no matter when he told me). It felt like he didn't trust me to know him fully and love him, and that bothered me.

 

[BeachMomma]

I'm pretty open, so yes, my past is an open book. Even more importantly, my present is an open book. I tell hubby most things that happen right away. Whether it's completelly innocent or a little (or even a lot lol) on the risque side, he hears it from me first. I'm famous for the opening line, "I'd rather you hear this from me first."

There are times that I'm more secretive. If I feel like he's not in a receptive mood, or if he's being grouchy, I tend to clam up. When I first started coming to Literotica, for example, he didn't understand what it was all about so he threw a minor fit. I kept it to myself. Now he understands what Lit really is, and he enjoys it here as much as I do. Most of the time, if I'm reading a PM, he's reading over my shoulder or I read it aloud to him. I do the same thing with IMs.

If he wants to know what's going on in my head, he only has to be open-minded and non-judgmental. I'll be glad to tell him. I don't do anything that I wouldn't want him to know about, but I'm not interested in having conversations that could end in jealousy or anger, either.

Two funny stories illustrate our marriage very well: Once we were at a county fair waiting for our daughter to come out of the bathroom. As we stood outside and waited for her, a very good looking young cop walked by. I have a cop fetish, and I'll admit to watching him walk by - and enjoying every second. That night, hubby got to reap the benefits.

Another time, we were out with our friends on their boat. A woman was in a nearby boat wearing a thong bikini. I pointed her out to hubby. About the same time, we heard a loud smack from the back of our boat. Our friend's wife caught her husband looking and smacked him.

We're married; we aren't dead, and we don't live in a bubble. We're both ok with looking at other people or even flirting with them. If either one of us goes further than that, yeah, we're going to have problems. We're really pretty open-minded and easy-going though.

 

[Kitschshaman]

An open book? She knows I have a sexual past as I know she does. If she wants to know details, I'll tell her, but sharing when it's not asked for isn't 'being an open book', it's bragging. For all my faults (and they are many), I do try to be a gentleman and gentlemen don't go on about their experiences at the expense of their partner's feelings. I remember years ago coming across a list a girlfriend of mine had kept of all the men she had slept with. The feeling of knowing that to her I was just one of many was not pleasant, to say the least. I personally do not believe in cutting notches in the bedpost. So I have to say I'm not a great fan of 'open book' in that sense.

 

[klippert]

Yeah, I don't even understand the whole idea of being married to someone to whom I couldn't tell all my secrets. . . there are some things my husband never intended to tell me about his past sexual experiences, but that was re: abuse when he was a child. I was upset when I found out about that, not because of the facts themselves (I mean obviously it was upsetting in some ways and always would've been no matter when he told me). It felt like he didn't trust me to know him fully and love him, and that bothered me.

If my wife wanted to know...I'd tell her.. I like knowing for my personal fetish. she really isn't interested...

 

[soflabbwlvr]

My wife and I have been married a long time, and my past is in the distant past. From the beginning the details of my sordid youth have been shared, although a select few points were omitted. Why the omissions? A few were rather embarrassing, some just never came up in conversation, and one for no other reason than it annoys her not to know.

 

[BongoGal]

On Literotica, I have been an open book, but in 'real life' many things are on a need to know basis, and that is a high bar to reach. I try to be as discrete about past relationships with others as I would hope they are about me.

 

[Kitschshaman]

On Literotica, I have been an open book, but in 'real life' many things are on a need to know basis, and that is a high bar to reach. I try to be as discrete about past relationships with others as I would hope they are about me.

Hear, hear, well said.