Husbands - How many men is too many?

[nostuff]

I fail to understand why this would ever be a question.

Why would I care how many men my wife had been with before we met? How is that any different than asking how many women I'd been with?

 

[Kolejdayz]

I am not sure exactly why, but I have always enjoyed wives and girlfriends who were free spirits. And I have loved hearing their stories. It's personal porn for me. My first wife claimed to have been with 70 guys. My second wife with 25. Were they both sluts? I do hope so.

 

[MasterDarcy]

I'm not sure I understand the question.

It's predicated on the assertion that it's acceptable for men to have had many partners, but not women. And that wives would be cool with their husbands having a body count on the scale of "Rambo," abd husbands wouldn't.

It's hypocritical.

Not to generalise, but one of the only reasons a person would care would be because of insecurity.

I'm single. But I wouldn't care if my girlfriend/wife had 5k partners. It just means that she's tried the rest, now she has the best.

 

[artgorden]

She has told me about her being the center of 2 gangbangs. I dont think she could put a number on it.

 

[nostuff]

Although it may not be of interest to you, some men like to hear this stuff. Some get off knowing that their spouse was an angel, a slut, or anything in between.

To some men, it’s also a thrill to have knowledge of their wife’s sexual exploits.

It may not matter to you (and that’s fine), but don’t try to judge those men who like to know!

If a couple want to trade stories of past exploits, have at it. But "How Many Men Is Too Many?" strikes me as judgemental.

 

[ReaderFanatic]

Actually, there is research on this topic and the findings aren't pretty. I'm not an expert and just stating what I have learned. For a couple to be successful and remain as a couple, a woman's ability to "bond" with her partner is critical. The data shows that the higher number of male partners a woman has had, her ability to bond becomes impaired and the likelihood of remaining a couple over time significantly drops (ie divorce, separation, break up increases significantly).



Please don't harm the messenger!

 

[Noor]

Actually, there is research on this topic and the findings aren't pretty. I'm not an expert and just stating what I have learned. For a couple to be successful and remain as a couple, a woman's ability to "bond" with her partner is critical. The data shows that the higher number of male partners a woman has had, her ability to bond becomes impaired and the likelihood of remaining a couple over time significantly drops (ie divorce, separation, break up increases significantly).



Please don't harm the messenger!

Please cite your sources

 

[OralAllOver]

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[ReaderFanatic]

Please cite your sources

You can find many articles if you search pair bonding and oxytocin. Try:

The influence of multiple partners on women’s pair bonding​

According to multiple types of research, the after-effects of sex performed within a committed relationship looks completely different than sex performed outside of a committed relationship, something that is most commonly called a “one night stand” or “casual sex” in this day and age. Science says that people are meant to bond when they have sex whether it s within a committed relationship or not.

Research from the Medical Institute for sexual health goes on to illustrate the importance of oxytocin when it comes to pair bonding. Casual sex leads to a decrease in this neurochemical production and interferes with further pair bonding. Repeated sexual encounters with multiple partners, neutralize the brain.

When an individual chooses to engage in casual sex, breaking bond after bond with each new sexual partner, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one-night stands. This pattern becomes the “new normal” for the individual. When and if the individual later desires to find a more permanent partner, the brain mapping will have to be overcome, making a permanent bond more difficult to achieve.

Again, I'm just the messenger and am not offering my personal opinion for ridicule or scrutiny.

Hope this helps!

 

[OneEyedSteve]

I don't have a number and I certainly wouldn't want my wife to be inexperienced. At my age, 53, I've no interest in teaching a woman what she should already know. It would be extremely hypocritical, given the number of women I've had sex with, for me to be judgemental

 

[ReaderFanatic]

Please cite your sources

If you woùd like information regarding the number of sexual partners a woman has and the corresponding divorce rate, please check out:

Counterintuitive Trends in the Link Between Premarital Sex and Marital Stability

American sexual behavior is much different than it used to be. Today, most Americans think premarital sex is okay, and will have three or more sexual partners before marrying. What, if anything, does premarital sex have to do with marital stability?

 

[artgorden]

I love when she tells me how much dick she had. Sometimes I put on some gangbang porn just to get her to talk about when she was gangbanged. If she drags it out , I'll cum twice.

 

[artgorden]

For me there is no such thing as too many. Some of my best masturbating is when she talks about getting gangbanged.

 

[Husband55]

We got together when i was 46 and she was 43. She had a count of lovers over three times mine. I love hearing her pillow talk stories , more than she does telling. Never has been an issue, didnt think it was a red flag. We have been together 16 years.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

Husbands - How many men is too many?​

I think that the question should be directed at the Women of Lit.
Women - How many men is too many? - at the same time, that is.

Here are examples for comparison to determine what your limit is
https://www.sex.com/en/gifs/109960

 

[HappyToBeAlive]

No limit if we both are played with

 

[screwher]

Question for the husbands here. Everybody has a past. And some people’s sexual past can be a bit off putting to their spouses. Most men would prefer that their wives have had limited experiences with other men before him. While some actually like that their wives were promiscuous before they met.

So husbands - how many past lovers is too many? Or is there no such thing as too many? Do you maybe wish your wife threw it around more than she did? Or maybe less?

Now that you’re married, is your wife having too much extras marital sex? Or none at all and you’d like for her to take that plunge?

Husbands - how many men in your wife’s past is too many? Is there such a thing as too many?

 

[Kolejdayz]

There is really no exact number. But any number is too many if the guy spends his time being freaked out about it

 

[wifes_fag]

We have been done by six at one time so I don't know

 

[Never2late4funxxx]

My has had any but I think it might be good for her sexually but don’t think she could handle it emotionally.

 

[wifes_fag]

You build up to it. You adapt. Mine was reluctant to try even one but enjoyed it so much she wanted to do it again. Back when we started it was kind of hard to find anyone in our rural area so it was kind of word of mouth referrals. That put us with some guys we knew and she liked that even better. One guy was in the rotary club so he made connections for us. Nothing like her fucking one of the upstanding citizens of the community.

 

[Biguy77578]

I think about the number of men and women I've had and wouldn't dream of limiting my wifes numbers.

 

[wifes_fag]

Was a girl in high school nice kinda quite didn't flirt etc. I ran on to her at a party in college. She was completely different. Wild. She had a girlfriend. Several. She was living in a house with 5 or 6 girls they all split the rent shared each other.

 

[Tom_Brown]

My wife had 3 lovers before me (she was 20 when we met) and I thought that was just the right amount.

I have since began dating another woman (we met here on Lit) and she told me that (before she got married over 20 years ago) her body count was around 13. She had 1 other since being married and I never realized what a turn on it is to know that 15 other men before me have (not only) seen her naked, but have had sex with her!

That thought alone is enough to make me cum!

 

[TheVegasMark]

We have been done by six at one time so I don't know

Now that's a good time....!!