Is it unfaithful?

[pen15]

This may have been discussed before, but I'm new here. I wonder, do members consider it to be unfaithful to there spouse to indulge in cyber sex? Don't get me wrong I aren't looking for it - yet, I am just curious about others feelings

 

[just pet]

That's a good question. To me, it is a matter of communication between the significant others. If it has been discussed, and agreed upon, in some ways, I see cybersex like reading an interactive porn magazine. The real issue involves covert operations, where activities are clandestine, deliberately hidden from the SO. Secrets tear at the foundation of a relationship. There are threads re the best way to sneak secret phone calls as with phone cards... It is an individual choice, but I prefer being honest with my man, and behind the back activities can only hurt the relationship.

pet

 

[Zamdrist]

Truly said just pet

I think that was beautifully said. Secrets of any kind will break a relationship quicker than most things.

I think a sexually active and open minded couple should have little problem with the concept of cyber sex.

 

[just pet]

Re: Truly said just pet

I think that was beautifully said. Secrets of any kind will break a relationship quicker than most things.

I think a sexually active and open minded couple should have little problem with the concept of cyber sex.

Meet you on Yahoo messenger?

 

[Guest]

Secrets are a form of emotional dishonesty. They undermine trust. Even trust between friends. Choose wisely.

 

[MysticSwing]

I definitely consider it cheating if it's kept a secret! My hubby and I both spend time here at Lit and in some video chat communities. We're open and honest about it.
As long as it's not hidden from me I would much rather my husband spend time surfing XXX sites or talking cyber with some woman online verses going out and picking some chick up in a bar. It's much safer sex.

~~Mystic

 

[Debbie]

That's a good question. To me, it is a matter of communication between the significant others. If it has been discussed, and agreed upon, in some ways, I see cybersex like reading an interactive porn magazine. The real issue involves covert operations, where activities are clandestine, deliberately hidden from the SO. Secrets tear at the foundation of a relationship. There are threads re the best way to sneak secret phone calls as with phone cards... It is an individual choice, but I prefer being honest with my man, and behind the back activities can only hurt the relationship.

pet

I agree. An open relationship is good. Honesty is the best policy.

I am a sexually active person who is open minded but
cyber sex is a no no in our relationship. Something we both agree upon.

I am completely faithful to him and he to me. Online and in real life.
It works for us. We have no secrets.

 

[morninggirl5]

This topic has been discussed several times, so most of the old timers may not rehash their opinions. If you'd like to take a look, here are two of the more recent discussions.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=61683

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72492


Oh, and to answer your question, in my mind cybersex is cheating.