Internet relationship poll

[Fly_On_Wall]

One of my cousins reasently married a women he met over the net and had a relationship with her for two years before the marrige....

then another of my cousins met a girl on the net two months later flew to alaska, for the soul purpose of getting married to her, this was there fist meeting a day before the wedding.

this got me wondeirnging what people thought of these things.

I'm in a net relationship so obviously don't disagree, but my one cousin I think is stupid for marrying a women he met for one day.

what are your thoughts?

 

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[Cerberus666]

My best friend met his current girlfriend on the net. They talked for a while and eventually met. They would visit each other as often as possible and earlier this year she moved in with him. I think you have to take these things slow. There is so much about people you just don't know until you meet them in person. Take it slow, meet a couple times, see where it goes from there.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

no don't just vote give me your opinions why.

those that voted love is love.....

why do you think it's okay to just marry someoen you knew for a few hours?

won't work .... why do you think that

get to know them why do you belive that is good?

 

[Cheyenne]

Get to know each other first was my choice in your poll in regard to online relationships. But that would be my choice in "real life" as well. How you met someone, whether online or rl first, doesn't matter in the end. You still need to get to know them as a person, being with them, before you know if they are the right person for you to marry. IMHO.

 

[Cheyenne]

Wow, did I kill the thread already?

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Wow, did I kill the thread already?

no my thread just generaly get 1,000 vies and 3 posts.

but people seem to be voteing ever time I refresh it lol.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I know one couple who met on the 'Net that didn't make it. I know three couples who met on the 'Net that have. One has been going on for four years with two children and he moved from Canada to the US. The other has been going on for three years with one child and she moved from Sydney to Canada. The third is sweet, but I've got no info.


It's not much different that meeting IRL as long as you give yourself the time you need to make sure it's right face to face as well as IM to IM. You have to be physically attracted, too.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I know one couple who met on the 'Net that didn't make it. I know three couples who met on the 'Net that have. One has been going on for four years with two children and he moved from Canada to the US. The other has been going on for three years with one child and she moved from Sydney to Canada. The third is sweet, but I've got no info.


It's not much different that meeting IRL as long as you give yourself the time you need to make sure it's right face to face as well as IM to IM. You have to be physically attracted, too.

so you agree wiht me then just cause you know someone for say 3 years online but never met face to face, jumping into marrige wouldn't be justified...

I know the person people know on the net for me is totaly different then the person that exists off the net.... so there should be some real life time get to know each ohter.

I'm just having trouble trying to understand my cousin.....

aparent'y he didn't move.... he flew to alaska, got married. then a week later flew home (without his wife) they are going to have a long distance marrige.

?????????????????????????????????? got I always knew the side of my family that shares my sirname were fucking insane.... whiche would be the reason I deny that name lol.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I knew the StudMuffin for five days before agreeing to tie the knot. And that was with a two day absence when he went to a funeral. Thirteen years later...

This is what I think. I think that grown people should make their own decisions in this life and that the people who love them should support them. If they make the wrong decision then the people who love them support them through the aftermath--even if they feel like a chorus of I told you so.

Love is not something you can put in a box. You can't justify it. You can't do anything but accept it. And that includes accepting the decisions people make even if it may hurt them in the future.

You may think it's stupid--it may very well be--but people have to make their own mistakes. If you love someone, you let them make those mistakes and then you give them some place to find comfort when it comes time to learn from them.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

i've always had that attitude lvoe is love
it finds you weather your looking or not, you can't stop it it just happens. you can't controle it.

and I don't like my cousin anyways lol so don't care what he did.... my dad's side of the family noone gets along brtoher cousin parents.... none.

5 days before you agreed? but how long was it before you actualy got married? was it spur of the moment? of did you guys plan for a big shindig?

 

[april-wine]

Love IS love.....However I don't think I would marry someone the day I meet them....But maybe the next day....

 

[Cara_f_32]

Love is love

I don't think it matters where you meet. I would want a long distance romance for a long time with several meetings though.

 

[Trail48]

I knew the StudMuffin for five days before agreeing to tie the knot. And that was with a two day absence when he went to a funeral. Thirteen years later...

This is what I think. I think that grown people should make their own decisions in this life and that the people who love them should support them. If they make the wrong decision then the people who love them support them through the aftermath--even if they feel like a chorus of I told you so.

Love is not something you can put in a box. You can't justify it. You can't do anything but accept it. And that includes accepting the decisions people make even if it may hurt them in the future.

You may think it's stupid--it may very well be--but people have to make their own mistakes. If you love someone, you let them make those mistakes and then you give them some place to find comfort when it comes time to learn from them.

There would surely be more healthy happy families if this type of thinking were more accepted

 

[Barely__There]

Love is love

Whether you get to know each other online, in real life, or a combination of both, both parties need to be committed to making it work.

You can know someone for years, date, romance etc, and things don't work in the long run. It all depends on the people involved.

 

[Freya]

No matter where you meet, you usually have to take the time to get to know them. People on the net lie like mad - but then again, so do people in real life. Just because you see them face to face when you meet, it doesn't preclude them from lying. However, it is MUCH easier to dish out the bullshit over a computer.

 

[A Desert Rose]

No matter where you meet, you usually have to take the time to get to know them. People on the net lie like mad - but then again, so do people in real life. Just because you see them face to face when you meet, it doesn't preclude them from lying. However, it is MUCH easier to dish out the bullshit over a computer.

You are so right. It is easier to be bold, brazen and untruthful on the net.

I would be interested in knowing the age of those who voted and to which option they voted to. Of course, that is demographics that we are not privy to. But I think it would be enlightening.

I think meeting online and making friends is very viable. Giving your heart away here is another matter. The likelihood of that being successful is not always good. I do wish the best to those who have met and fallen in love. It's a beautiful thing.

 

[Lost Cause]

Like shit...love happens.....

If I met someone on the Net and it clicked, why bother mind-fucking the reason why? If it's lust, not love, then that will rear it's head also. I'd like to believe first love is possible like my Parent's story.
My Father was in port in Seattle during WW2. He met my Mother at a USO club, and they talked and danced for hours. Just before closing, he asked her to marry him, and that after the war, he didn't want to spend one year of his life without her, she said yes. They've been together almost 60 years, and have provided all my brothers and I inspiration, and by example, determination despite the odds against you. They are my heroes, what I strive to be like every day of my life.
I guess I'm an old fashioned romantic.

 

[Hornymama]

My ex-husband and i dated almost 3 years before we got married. 7 years and i baby later he no longer wanted to be married to me.
I dated my husband now for 3 months and had a 1 year old from the previous marriage. 20 years later and we're still together. Not saying we haven't had some rough times but we've always came through them. Normally i think i would wait longer than 3 months in real life or internet. Make sure before I agreed to spend my life with someone. I think these days it's too easy to give up and get a divorce. But what do i know?

 

[A Desert Rose]

Wow Lost Cause

what a lovely story. You are certainly not a cynical man.

 

[Lost Cause]

Aw Shucks.................(blush)

My Mom and Dad taught me that, they still get up and boogie to big band music in the living room for no apparent reason! Crazy kids.....

 

[Lord Emu]

I personaly avodi them at all costs they have always coem back to bite me in the ass.

 

[juicylips]

Morning, fly.

Just bumping and grinding.

 

[Cibo]

I gotta agree with most of the people here...Love is love...If you really love the person, looks don't matter half as much as they would usually in person. If you find someone that you really clicked very well with on the 'net, then by all means go for it...I know I am right now.

 

[sexy-girl]

i think net relationships can be a wonderful thing and can lead onto an amazing relationship i also think the net is a great way to stay in contact and keep a relationship going

but nothing beats being together for real ... the net leaves to many gaps which people fill in


i dont think you can love someone until you meet them for real at least


the book im reading says this

"assumptions are a transparent grid through which we view the universe, sometimes deluding ourselves that the grid is that universe"

hmmm im going to put that in my sig line