I'm ignoring you

[Abraxas Winterlight]

I went & looked and I have 6 people on my list, and if I remember right it was because of the sheer volume of hate and spam that they were spewing that made me ignore them.

that being said I fully endorse using the ignore button. I mean, this is a faceless asshat from across the interwebz! if they annoy you to a fairly high degree, *POOF* they cease to exist!

(wish I could do that to a few drivers out here! Would make the commute much more pleasant!!)

 

[neci]

Lots of excellent people on the GB that can't really be found anywhere else.

A decent ignore list on the GB is like a decent air tank for deep sea diving. Makes the whole thing survivable and much more sightseeing than a fight for your life.

this.

i go through GB moods, and when i'm in one, i really love posting over there. there is such an interesting assortment of people. it just takes a little bit of sifting. plus, the threads move at such a fast rate, that there is always something going on. it makes for some fascinating people watching after figuring out the players.

 

[Recidiva]

this.

i go through GB moods, and when i'm in one, i really love posting over there. there is such an interesting assortment of people. it just takes a little bit of sifting. plus, the threads move at such a fast rate, that there is always something going on. it makes for some fascinating people watching after figuring out the players.

It's that, it's also that the random things that I'm interested in really don't fit the other boards.

So there's really only one place I can go to ask about "how'd you like this movie?" or "what's a good book recommendation for my Kindle..." (Like I have going right now.)

I very, very rarely start threads anywhere else other than the GB unless it's absolutely specific to that board. (one exception is my gaming thread here, which is - tah daaah - entirely off topic.)I can't remember the last time I started a thread here or in the AH other than that one. I'll participate in off-topic things that have already been posted, but I won't start something myself.

And even then...I'll probably start it on the GB because there are so very many people I want to hear from on the subject that live there and only there. But I do know if I want to talk to Keroin I'll have to come here, and if she starts a thread, I'll check it out. My browsing involves hitting the "new posts" link and checking those out. I don't really care what board it's on.

I can sympathize if someone doesn't want to ignore someone else and finds the GB to be toxic, but for me it's just a question of decent filtering.

And there are too many very, very intelligent people that can only be found there, it makes me sad to think that they are being tossed out with the bathwater. But it just makes me grateful that I have a good enough ignore list to thrive there. And I find the trashing the GB to be kinda funny...I don't take much offense any more, I just kinda...lose respect for the person trashing the place, because in my head they're trashing the people I know that go there...that are left over from my filtering process.

There are plenty of times that I've left the BDSM boards or the AH themselves because the "Trash the GB Freely" elitist attitude gets toxic for me. Ironic. They're pretty much trashing me and my friends. So sometimes I kick in my defense of the GB and sometimes I ignore it and sometimes I just leave the thread and the boards for a bit before my "Heyyyy..." feeling goes away.

 

[Keroin]

It's that, it's also that the random things that I'm interested in really don't fit the other boards.

So there's really only one place I can go to ask about "how'd you like this movie?" or "what's a good book recommendation for my Kindle..." (Like I have going right now.)

I very, very rarely start threads anywhere else other than the GB unless it's absolutely specific to that board. (one exception is my gaming thread here, which is - tah daaah - entirely off topic.)I can't remember the last time I started a thread here or in the AH other than that one. I'll participate in off-topic things that have already been posted, but I won't start something myself.

And even then...I'll probably start it on the GB because there are so very many people I want to hear from on the subject that live there and only there. But I do know if I want to talk to Keroin I'll have to come here, and if she starts a thread, I'll check it out. My browsing involves hitting the "new posts" link and checking those out. I don't really care what board it's on.

I can sympathize if someone doesn't want to ignore someone else and finds the GB to be toxic, but for me it's just a question of decent filtering.

And there are too many very, very intelligent people that can only be found there, it makes me sad to think that they are being tossed out with the bathwater. But it just makes me grateful that I have a good enough ignore list to thrive there. And I find the trashing the GB to be kinda funny...I don't take much offense any more, I just kinda...lose respect for the person trashing the place, because in my head they're trashing the people I know that go there...that are left over from my filtering process.

There are plenty of times that I've left the BDSM boards or the AH themselves because the "Trash the GB Freely" elitist attitude gets toxic for me. Ironic. They're pretty much trashing me and my friends. So sometimes I kick in my defense of the GB and sometimes I ignore it and sometimes I just leave the thread and the boards for a bit before my "Heyyyy..." feeling goes away. Sometimes all three.

Interesting response, R, thanks.

I guess I look at it like this - and you already know that we come from different POVs as far as online life is concerned - I won't go to a party full of obnoxious people who irritate me, even if there are six people there I find incredibly clever and interesting. I will go to a party full of clever and interesting people if there are six people there that are obnoxious and irritate me, because I can find ways to avoid them or tune them out. For the most part, I treat Lit, (my only online hangout), as I do real life. IMO, I spend too much time here as it is and I can't justify, (to myself), spending even more time weeding through the GB or the AH. And I won't use the ignore button, I just won't. That's me and no comment on anyone else. All reasons people have offered for using it sound 100% legitimate and sane.

And it's kind of ironic because a general board is probably where I'm most suited to be. I don't think I've ever started a thread on here that has anything to do with BDSM, lol. And I've started a shit load of threads. I'm surprised no one here has ever questioned my BDSMness, actually.

Yes, I know there are quality folks on those other boards. You are one. I know Rosco hangs out there, I have seen Stella on the AH, and there are some others. But I like it here and I'm glad y'all pop in now and then to talk to me, even though I trash your other hang outs.

I will send you some maple syrup by way of apology.

 

[Recidiva]

Interesting response, R, thanks.

I guess I look at it like this - and you already know that we come from different POVs as far as online life is concerned - I won't go to a party full of obnoxious people who irritate me, even if there are six people there I find incredibly clever and interesting. I will go to a party full of clever and interesting people if there are six people there that are obnoxious and irritate me, because I can find ways to avoid them or tune them out. For the most part, I treat Lit, (my only online hangout), as I do real life. IMO, I spend too much time here as it is and I can't justify, (to myself), spending even more time weeding through the GB or the AH. And I won't use the ignore button, I just won't. That's me and no comment on anyone else. All reasons people have offered for using it sound 100% legitimate and sane.

And it's kind of ironic because a general board is probably where I'm most suited to be. I don't think I've ever started a thread on here that has anything to do with BDSM, lol. And I've started a shit load of threads. I'm surprised no one here has ever questioned my BDSMness, actually.

Yes, I know there are quality folks on those other boards. You are one. I know Rosco hangs out there, I have seen Stella on the AH, and there are some others. But I like it here and I'm glad y'all pop in now and then to talk to me, even though I trash your other hang outs.

I will send you some maple syrup by way of apology.

I get it, I know I have very different points of view from lots of others - but that's why talking about it makes it fun and possibly learny. Old adage goes "If we both think the same way, one of us is redundant."

The rules online are very different from real social rules. It's impossible to ignore real obnoxious people at real parties. So I would be right there with you with not going to certain parties. Online is a totally different deal with different tools and applying "real" standards to it is just something I've chosen not to do, and I choose to use the tools available to my benefit. That doesn't make my way better, it means that if someone uses my way, it makes it possible to narrow the focus, and that works for me.

There are several people who refuse to use ignore, and I get why. Unfortunately then there becomes this issue about manners and rights and...in reality there's a host that ejects a rowdy patron. Here there are hosts that eject spam and along certain guidelines and I agree with those. Otherwise it's up to me to eject objectionable patrons, making my experience entirely different from someone else's, which makes it...unique to me. I used to be one of the folks who didn't use ignore and got into the same arguments over and over or became offended over and over. Usually leading to me feeling anger or despair and sometimes taking long breaks from visiting. I changed my mind somewhere along the line and it means I get to customize my experience.

I think you're awesomeness incarnate and I'm grateful you give me the opportunity to disagree with you and still get maple syrup. I'll make waffles by way of gratitude.

 

[graceanne]

I think you're awesomeness incarnate and I'm grateful you give me the opportunity to disagree with you and still get maple syrup. I'll make waffles by way of gratitude.

If I disagree with you can I have waffles, too?

I can be contrary with the best of them.

 

[Recidiva]

If I disagree with you can I have waffles, too?

I can be contrary with the best of them.

Absolutely. I can even put chocolate chips in 'em.

I can't believe someone doesn't appreciate cookie jokes. Cretin! Wait...is that an insult to people from Crete? And they have the whole economic burden thingy going on and I'm just making it worse.

I'm so insensitive.

 

[Netzach]

I have neither great disdain and aversion nor great attention span and participation when it comes to the GB. It is what it is. I don't understand why people freak out over it - although the immediate piling on and attack mode that most people operate in is kind of weird/exhausting.

I mean I like to think of myself as terse, direct, and hostile only when I see ganging up, stupidity, or bigotry in action. I'm up for a good argument, but I like to think that they're good arguments and not personal usually. A lot of people don't ascribe to that theory of argument. A lot of people think that failure to inject rainbows and puppies is way too mean.

What I see on the GB is like "let's start with ad hominem" but I guess there's so much history that exists from prior posts that I must be missing stuff I can't go back and figure out.

I also absolutely can't keep track of who is whose alt and who is outing whose alt. It taxes my considerable attention span.

However for music/movies/pop culture stuff - way better. Sorry SM 'ers.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Wtf? Have I become famous for my ass suddenly?!

Yes. Yes you have.

 

[graceanne]

Absolutely. I can even put chocolate chips in 'em.

I can't believe someone doesn't appreciate cookie jokes.

Well, if everyone had the same sense of humor it would be such a boring world.

I don't actually care if someone doesn't think I'm funny; my objection is when it annoys them to the point of being an ass about it. As far as I'm concerned if I'm annoying someone that much, they need to be grown up about it and iggy me.

I have neither great disdain and aversion nor great attention span and participation when it comes to the GB. It is what it is. I don't understand why people freak out over it - although the immediate piling on and attack mode that most people operate in is kind of weird/exhausting.

I know there are some awesome people in the GB, I just don't have the patience to weed through the garbage. Plus, honestly, it moves too fast for me; I really struggle to keep up.

 

[graceanne]

Wtf? Have I become famous for my ass suddenly?!

You haven't seen the news papers? Your ass is all over it; you're becoming quite a sensation.

 

[Recidiva]

Well, if everyone had the same sense of humor it would be such a boring world.

I don't actually care if someone doesn't think I'm funny; my objection is when it annoys them to the point of being an ass about it. As far as I'm concerned if I'm annoying someone that much, they need to be grown up about it and iggy me.

I know there are some awesome people in the GB, I just don't have the patience to weed through the garbage. Plus, honestly, it moves too fast for me; I really struggle to keep up.

Yup, I don't mind if I'm ignored. I'm assuming that I'm on ignore by quite a few people and that means that I can say what I want to say and it's up to someone else to decide when they've had enough of me. And I'm not offended by that, it just means I don't have to be everyone's cup of tea and that's cool.

The GB being so fast and so convoluted with history and debate and personalities is...largely the fun for me. Also, my husband posts there and doesn't have my extensive ignore list, so he can point out some of the funny that means I don't have to wade through all of the crap to get to it. And lots of it is only funny in historical context and in small doses.

If I want sympathy 'cause I've got a particularly bad migraine, if I want celebration 'cause I found a medication regimen that handles migraines, if I have an anecdote to share, if I have anything to express...it's a free-range forum that brings out lots of friends who are aware of my past history of anecdotes, migraines and regimens. Also there's nobody there (as in the other forums) to tell me I'm off topic.

The GB is a great repository of experience. Even a total asshole I usually have on ignore might have a good recommendation for a book or a gadget. Something I wouldn't go anywhere else to ask...from everything to movies to books to which is the best knife sharpener...the GB hooks me up fast and accurately when I have a decent filter.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You haven't seen the news papers? Your ass is all over it; you're becoming quite a sensation.

Headlined the LA Times AND the LA Weekly both-- and that's just one city. *nods*

 

[graceanne]

Headlined the LA Times AND the LA Weekly both-- and that's just one city. *nods*

On the Oregonian AND the Sandy Post. I think I saw it on US and People.

 

[graceanne]

Yup, I don't mind if I'm ignored.

Me, too. My ego is secure enough that I don't have to be liked by everyone; honestly I'd prefer not to be liked by everyone.

 

[Recidiva]

Me, too. My ego is secure enough that I don't have to be liked by everyone; honestly I'd prefer not to be liked by everyone.

And being disliked by certain people means I'm doing something right...by my way of keeping score anyway.

 

[graceanne]

And being disliked by certain people means I'm doing something right...by my way of keeping score anyway.

Pretty much.

 

[maria40]

Been thinking about the "ignore" button lately. I've never used it and I never will. This is just me...(NOT making judgments about anyone else)...I like to set tests for myself. Kind of like how I'll never, ever pass off my fishing rod, no matter how big and strong the fish, no matter how long the fight. I'd rather lose the fish than let someone help me and that's just my thing. Same, same. I'll quit the board before I use the ignore button. Weird, I know.

Anyway, I'm curious, how many people do you have on "ignore" and what are the sorts of reasons you put someone on ignore?

How do you feel these boards would be different without that feature?

Good question.

I'm glad this board has that feature. I myself have used it. I have about 4 on my list. For my own reasons. It helps, because if you don't want to be bothered anymore it comes in handy.

 

[Keroin]

I think you're awesomeness incarnate and I'm grateful you give me the opportunity to disagree with you and still get maple syrup. I'll make waffles by way of gratitude.

I have been called many things in my life but never "awesomeness incarnate"...

Oh and I love waffles. It's been too long since I've had them. *Stomach growls*

I have neither great disdain and aversion nor great attention span and participation when it comes to the GB. It is what it is. I don't understand why people freak out over it - although the immediate piling on and attack mode that most people operate in is kind of weird/exhausting.

The word in bold. Yep. That's what I feel when I go to the GB. Even before I open a single thread.

Different strokes and all that.

I do have one other online community that I have been involved in over the years but it's all about Baja and since I have been out of the country/hemisphere for a few years I haven't bothered going on. Anyway, I went on that board not too long ago to ask some questions for some friends of mine who were headed south and, wow, did it ever seem tame, and polite and slow compared to what I've grown used to here. It was really cool that a few of the regulars remembered me, though, and we had some fun chat about fish tacos and caught up on gossip and such.

I don't think they have an ignore button on that board but they do have some fairly strict rules as well.

 

[Netzach]

I have been called many things in my life but never "awesomeness incarnate"...

Oh and I love waffles. It's been too long since I've had them. *Stomach growls*



The word in bold. Yep. That's what I feel when I go to the GB. Even before I open a single thread.

Different strokes and all that.

I do have one other online community that I have been involved in over the years but it's all about Baja and since I have been out of the country/hemisphere for a few years I haven't bothered going on. Anyway, I went on that board not too long ago to ask some questions for some friends of mine who were headed south and, wow, did it ever seem tame, and polite and slow compared to what I've grown used to here. It was really cool that a few of the regulars remembered me, though, and we had some fun chat about fish tacos and caught up on gossip and such.

I don't think they have an ignore button on that board but they do have some fairly strict rules as well.

Yeah, I'm on some normal vanilla be nice or be gone boards. I find sometimes the meanness just goes undercover though. I actually prefer a free speech with ignore button environment given the two.

 

[Recidiva]

Yeah, I'm on some normal vanilla be nice or be gone boards. I find sometimes the meanness just goes undercover though. I actually prefer a free speech with ignore button environment given the two.

That's part of my thing. Badly moderated "everyone be nice" boards very often means that everyone has to be nice unless they're a mod/best friends with a mod/ideologically identical to the mod/sleeping with a mod, etc.

If I'm going to adhere to a code of conduct, i.e., check my tongue at the door, I'm going to clear out when the privileged few are appallingly arrogant without consequences while some people can't speak without being modified out of existence.

I've been to heavily moderated places where the boorish rule by consensus. It works well if it's a tight group of close friends. But then it languishes and becomes...insular.

I'd prefer to have to ignore/argue than to be smothered to death by an overly sensitive standard that only applies to folks not in the inner circle. I don't even like being in the inner circle that can get away with murder while other folks are held accountable or are group snubbed or have the "Miserable User" hack applied to them. I prefer an open playing field with sniper rifles and sniper-free ignore buttons.

I've moderated as well and I appreciate how difficult it is to be an individual with opinions applying logical standards to groups that tend to drift into cliques. I think Etoile is the ideal of that sort of thing. Manages to be opinionated and articulate and also draw fine lines between offensive and board policy and make the calls required. That to me is exhausting. I'd still be stressing over every call to make sure it was judicious and just and...it's harder for me to be responsible for rules and make a bad call. I'd rather be irresponsible with everyone else making their own calls.

I prefer the impersonal standard for that reason. I don't have to be responsible for the ethics of a group.

It might be cutthroat, but it's at least an even playing field.

 

[satindesire]

Yes. Yes you have.

You haven't seen the news papers? Your ass is all over it; you're becoming quite a sensation.

I'm the forum Kim Kardashian. Only less stupid.

Hopefully...

Headlined the LA Times AND the LA Weekly both-- and that's just one city. *nods*

On the Oregonian AND the Sandy Post. I think I saw it on US and People.

*kicks a can* Geeze.

 

[midwestyankee]

I'm the forum Kim Kardashian. Only less stupid.

Hopefully...


*kicks a can* Geeze.

Don't mind me. I'm just enjoying the view.

 

[Netzach]

It really is freakishly adorable as butts go. Normally I'd be like oh shut up already people, buit I just want to leave a lipsticked teethmark on it. It's like cuteoverload of butt.

 

[where]

I have literally hundreds of people on ignore. That's what hanging on the GB for ten years will do.

what he said, until a couple of weeks ago when i had a moment of madness and deleted both my firefox and my lit ignore lists.