i walked into a full scale interventnion this morning!!

[Softouch911]

You're getting some good advice here and seem to be handling it very well.

If something like this happened to me, I'd be ballistic -- I know you're upset, but you're dealing, and I admire you for that.

This is just another small dose of sympathy and well wishes.

Respectfully,
ST

 

[myinnerslut]

thanks all. ive been an emotional wreck since saturday morning, and all plans for what to do next got put on hold untill wed, when my father gets back from his buisness trip. my parents told me they want us to take the next step together as a show of support. i love them

 

[HottieMama]

thanks all. ive been an emotional wreck since saturday morning, and all plans for what to do next got put on hold untill wed, when my father gets back from his buisness trip. my parents told me they want us to take the next step together as a show of support. i love them

i think i love them too. That's wonderful, mis.

 

[sexycaz22]

thanks all. ive been an emotional wreck since saturday morning, and all plans for what to do next got put on hold untill wed, when my father gets back from his buisness trip. my parents told me they want us to take the next step together as a show of support. i love them

That's great news! Having your parents' support will help you to sort this out, but of course, it will take time. Good luck! *hugs*

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

thanks all. ive been an emotional wreck since saturday morning, and all plans for what to do next got put on hold untill wed, when my father gets back from his buisness trip. my parents told me they want us to take the next step together as a show of support. i love them

MIS I have been concerned since I noted your post on the random blurt thread about the extra Saturday meeting your Dr was able to organise with such expediency and have been watching your progress here with both concern and also some genuine optimism .

I know in the longer term that you are going to be fine MIS. The ongoing support of your parents is heartening. Keep the bond strong , take each day as it comes. Things will change , re access and retain personal confidence. In the longer run the skills acquired from the challenges you are facing today will take you far.

Watching and wishing you peace

 

[myinnerslut]

you guys are the best.

 

[seekingjoy]

I agree with the advise to talk to an attorney. First, they do take privacy very seriously. It's their bread and butter. And don't be afraid to emphasize that before you start talking. And secondly, don't underestimate your power here. You are thinking about how you must keep what you have told her private. Don't forget that you, if you approach an attorney, will be even more frightening to her. How many new clients will she get if they learn about this behaviour?

I'm seeing "out of court" written all over this one.

On thing. There could be a problem because you stayed in the office. I completely understand why you did but I can see where that could be an argument. If you were really that upset, why didn't you walk and take your parents with you? Like I said, I understand completely. But I'd bet that would be a question you'd be asked.

Good luck.

 

[Marquis]

Given the details we have here, I would definitely agree that this is some real bullshit and I wouldn't hesitate to contact an attorney.

However, there's something I can't help but wonder. BDSM and abusive relationships are not mutually exclusive, are they?

I mean we do still believe that there are truly abusive relationships where interventions and such are necessary, do we not?

Does a simple explanation of "oh, we're D/s" negate any question of whether a relationship is abusive?

I don't know any details about myinnerslut's relationship, so I won't even begin to guess at the possibility of this, but I will say that I'm curious about this topic on the whole.

 

[BiBunny]

Given the details we have here, I would definitely agree that this is some real bullshit and I wouldn't hesitate to contact an attorney.

However, there's something I can't help but wonder. BDSM and abusive relationships are not mutually exclusive, are they?

I mean we do still believe that there are truly abusive relationships where interventions and such are necessary, do we not?

Does a simple explanation of "oh, we're D/s" negate any question of whether a relationship is abusive?

I don't know any details about myinnerslut's relationship, so I won't even begin to guess at the possibility of this, but I will say that I'm curious about this topic on the whole.

Never mind. I'm a dumbass with a bad memory. Sorry, carry on.

 

[JMohegan]

Given the details we have here, I would definitely agree that this is some real bullshit and I wouldn't hesitate to contact an attorney.

Nor would I.

However, there's something I can't help but wonder. BDSM and abusive relationships are not mutually exclusive, are they?

No, they're not.

I mean we do still believe that there are truly abusive relationships where interventions and such are necessary, do we not?

Yes, I do.

Does a simple explanation of "oh, we're D/s" negate any question of whether a relationship is abusive?

Absolutely not.

I don't know any details about myinnerslut's relationship, so I won't even begin to guess at the possibility of this, but I will say that I'm curious about this topic on the whole.

Good post.

 

[JMohegan]

also, the relationship between A and my parents has been shattered. since they now know everything about our relationship, and my father openly said he dislikes A, A does not not even want to come in the house anymore f my parents are around or will be around.

MIS, I am sincerely sorry for the pain you are feeling right now.

If you are interested, and whenever you're ready, I would be pleased to contribute to a thread on the subject of Dealing With the Parents of Submissive Partners. I have a lot of experience with this - most of it very successful.

Take heart. The animosity can be overcome, with time and patience.

 

[BiBunny]

MIS, I am sincerely sorry for the pain you are feeling right now.

If you are interested, and whenever you're ready, I would be pleased to contribute to a thread on the subject of Dealing With the Parents of Submissive Partners. I have a lot of experience with this - most of it very successful.

Take heart. The animosity can be overcome, with time and patience.

I think that'd be a good idea, once mis is ready. In fact, I was actually going to suggest that she and A. go talk to her parents before she goes back to school, if possible. If nothing else, they'll think more of him for confronting the issue at hand rather than refusing to do so. Or, at least, that's my opinion. I think grudging respects beats the heck out of complete dislike.

 

[Etoile]

This turned out even suckier than I expected. I'm sorry, mis.

Your name doesn't have to be attached to legal action; the Jane Doe/initials options were made for situations like this. One of the most famous court cases in the U.S., Roe v. Wade about abortion, included a pseudonym - Roe.

Definitely use the KAP list, definitely don't go back to her, and definitely bring or threaten action against her. If you like, contact NCSF for free legal advice.

 

[myinnerslut]

On thing. There could be a problem because you stayed in the office. I completely understand why you did but I can see where that could be an argument. If you were really that upset, why didn't you walk and take your parents with you? Like I said, I understand completely. But I'd bet that would be a question you'd be asked.

Good luck.

i dont drive (long story) and my parents wouldnt leave becuase they didnt realize the level of what was going on untill they were already in the room. i did want to walk out and leave.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

:: Fixes Etoile's link, just to make life easier ::

NCSF

 

[DVS]

:: Fixes Etoile's link, just to make life easier ::

NCSF

Hey, give Etoile a break. The e is right next to the r on the keyboard. She just moved a little too far to the left is all. Most anybody could make that mistake. But, it's nice you fixed it for her. Funny...one little letter is all it takes to mess things up.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Hey, give Etoile a break. The e is right next to the r on the keyboard. She just moved a little too far to the left is all. Most anybody could make that mistake. But, it's nice you fixed it for her. Funny...one little letter is all it takes to mess things up.

I wasn't tweaking her - just fixin' it for anyone who might not be sure how to get there without it bein' fixed. I adore Etoile. I think she is one of the ten coolest people here. for E. for DVS.

 

[DVS]

I wasn't tweaking her - just fixin' it for anyone who might not be sure how to get there without it bein' fixed. I adore Etoile. I think she is one of the ten coolest people here. for E. for DVS.

I was just funnin' with you. But watch that tongue, buddy. I don't swing that way.

 

[Puman]

Given the details we have here, I would definitely agree that this is some real bullshit and I wouldn't hesitate to contact an attorney.

However, there's something I can't help but wonder. BDSM and abusive relationships are not mutually exclusive, are they?

I mean we do still believe that there are truly abusive relationships where interventions and such are necessary, do we not?

Does a simple explanation of "oh, we're D/s" negate any question of whether a relationship is abusive?

I don't know any details about myinnerslut's relationship, so I won't even begin to guess at the possibility of this, but I will say that I'm curious about this topic on the whole.

*nods*
I spend a few gruelling months helping a close friend, who was a masochistic sub, get away from her abusive Dom. The lines were very fine and the road very complicated given the nature of their relationship. Even dealing with the police and lawyers was hell as they tended to adopt an attitude of
"Well, if you like being hit, then what's the problem...". (And the Dom in question milked THIS one to the "T" when dealing with authorities)

The whole situation was turned on her, with everyone trying to fix HER masochistic & submissive tendancies, rather than looking at the whole abusive relationship. The poor girl eventually broke and went totally vanilla and as far as I know has never even dabbled in BDSM again. (Which, if you know her, is denying a massive part of who is she is)

This was, of course, several years ago and things may be handled a little differently now (though I am not so sure after reading this thread), but basically, getting people (and legal systems) to understand the difference between BDSM and abuse is a very interesting process...

 

[jadefirefly]

MIS, I am so sorry this happened to you. Please do continue to keep us updated on how things go. I'd like very much to hear about the grovelling this woman will have to do in front of her superiors to keep her job.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

The-rapist

Of course you feel this way. You were violated by perhaps the one individual you had thought you could trust with anything. The relationship between therapist and client should be based in TRUST which IS the premise of developing a therapeutic relationship. This woman, rapist as I and others here have called her has stepped way over her professional boundaries but is she did ever impart anything helpful to you hopefully she encouraged you to seek closure when needed which is what is needed here. You need to find a way to close the door between you two be it in litigation or merely by writing a letter to her explaining how you feel and what harm you believe she has caused you. Feel free to let her know what others think...oh and cc her boss. Everyone has a boss...she must answer to someone. The witch must....

That's all.

as much as i keep telling myself im getting over this, i still cant sleep through the night, this is one my mind too much. im close to tears all the time. im so angry at everything. and i feel like i shoulkd be getting over this but i cant

 

[myinnerslut]

Everyone has a boss...she must answer to someone. The witch must....

That's all.

no actually... she is in her own practice, no boss

 

[Etoile]

I wasn't tweaking her - just fixin' it for anyone who might not be sure how to get there without it bein' fixed. I adore Etoile. I think she is one of the ten coolest people here. for E. for DVS.

Fixed the original too. And...AWWWWWWW. http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/cloud9.gif

 

[Etoile]

I wasn't tweaking her - just fixin' it for anyone who might not be sure how to get there without it bein' fixed. I adore Etoile. I think she is one of the ten coolest people here. for E. for DVS.

Fixed the original too. And...AWWWWWWW. http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/cloud9.gif

But seriously, NCSF provides free legal advice, I highly recommend getting in touch with them.

 

[DVS]

no actually... she is in her own practice, no boss

No boss? Then, she won't want this to go public any more than you do. She has her reputation to protect.

But she does have a boss in the industry she represents. There is a board of ethics that she and all therapists must answer to. She has breached the professional code of ethics and that will not be taken lightly by her peers. The healthcare field frowns on this kind of publicity and she can be censured.