i walked into a full scale interventnion this morning!!

[rosco rathbone]

The therapist works for you.

 

[h_i_s]

.....

 

[myinnerslut]

as rooky had PM's this to me word for word, i reponded there. for the record ill respond here as well.

it took me a moment to realize what you were talking about since you are refering to something that took place half a year ago. belive me when i say that the situation is closed and dealt with. thank you for your concern, but you seem to not know what your talking about. let me assure you as well that my age has nothing to do with my choice to be involved in this lifestyle. and finally let me remind you that you do not know me and therefore have non right or ability to judge.

to that i would like to add: since you very obviously knew id see your words as you PM'd them to me, why did you find it neccessary to post in a thread that is months old and in effect bring up some unsettleing memoris that untill this morning were pretty well dealt with, handled, and placed away. what are you getting get?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

as rooky had PM's this to me word for word, i reponded there. for the record ill respond here as well.



to that i would like to add: since you very obviously knew id see your words as you PM'd them to me, why did you find it neccessary to post in a thread that is months old and in effect bring up some unsettleing memoris that untill this morning were pretty well dealt with, handled, and placed away. what are you getting get?

Mis sorry you're upset and I don't blame you after having read Rooky's condescending & off base comments. I really cringed when I saw this thread had been reactivated and not in the most positive of fashions. It also reflects the territory of threads where interesting discussions & excellent advise was given, hence it's placement in the Library during the ongoing upgrades. I highly suspect that's the source of it coming to Rookys attention . Ideally for most thread topics it's great for the Forum overall if people do find pre-existing topics, read them then continue a discussion from there, some degree of attention to detail wouldn't go astray though as answering an issue that was resolved past a reasonable time frame seems rather redundant, hmmmn sensing a theme considering the advice you were offered.

There is a bright side, you survived that dilemma in fine style

 

[~His Kitten~]

I kinda like the fact that apparently Mr. Rooky is on my ignore list. I have no idea how he got there but it has made me smile.

I suspect that he is one of those pmers.

 

[FurryFury]

The therapist works for you.

*nods*

Ideally the above is true.

The remarks of rocky or whomever were irritating to me and I'm not even the OP.

For MIS, so sorry this person poured salt this way.

*hug*

 

[myinnerslut]

after giving it some some and some thought (when i saw this earlier i was on the way out the door) ive decided i really dont mind that the thread was bumped. the memories are painfull, but they are memories i have to deal with. unfortunatly since this inccedent i have boycotted therepy in general, but i digress. i could have deleted my posts, but i left them up so that they could be referneced in the future.

what i do have a problem with is presumptious conclusions made based on a single post youve read by me, or based on my age, without getting to know me as me.

i have infintily more issues with the way and general attitude in which the thread was bumped then the thread itself.

thank you all who jumped to my defense today. im fine, really.

 

[iluvyou3638]

for those of you who dont know, i had a therapist for many years who i saw again after many months earlier this week. for one reason or another, it was very important i told her about the nature of my relationship, which i had kept hidden from her for over a year and a half becuase i was pretty sure she would have a bad reaction. bad reaction is an understatement.

she scheduled an "emergency meeting" this morning, which i was very nervous about going to because of how she reacted the other day, but i had hoped that given time to digest the idea, we would be able to talk about me relationship. nope!!! i was as wrong as one could get.

i walked in there and was immediatly told that i was highly at risk and in a very abusive relationship, that my situation was not healthy at all, and that she wanted to help cure me. she told me that anybody who wanted to be controlled was sick in the head and anybody who would take that control over another was not only sick in the head but cruel and twisted as well.

i tried explaining that i was in a loving and caring relationship, but she would have none of it. everything i said got twisted and i soon found myself in tears trying to make her understand that the basis of my relationship wasnt "incurably cruel".

the worst thing was she took it upon herself to consult with other doctors about my "abusive situation" before talking to me. she shared personal information of mine, including some facts about my relationship i would prefer to keep out of the eyes of those who i dont know, with several people i dont even kno AND one of my other doctors. now i am going to have to face this other doctor, who i know and liked and respected, and know that they know things about my relationship that i did not willingly share with them. this iwas a violation of trust and i did not in any way tell her she could talk with others about me.

she then then took it one step further and told me i could either bring my parents into the room to discuss this further (they happened to be with me this morning, normally this is not the case), or if i refused she would call them up and arrange to talk to them without my knowledge. now, my parents know i am in abdsm relationship and while not thrilled have always been supportive of me. they do not, however know details and both of us prefered to keep it that way. well, they came in the room with me and my therapist proceeded to share with them all manner of things which my parents and i had decided would remain "personal". everything she told them she twisted and took very out of context to make me look like i was being abused. this was another violation of trust and a sharing of information i did not want to be shared.

i had to sit there and listen while repeatedly i was told i was brainwashed, i was being abused, i was twisted and sick, that only sick people could want this, that my relationship could not possibly be legitamite, , that i could not be trusted with my own safety, and that i should be cured.

then she brought around the subject of the type of person that would take control of another in any way, and i had to sit and listen to her say how A was a horrible person, how he was cruel, and how he could not possibly really love me. i figured it was better to know what was being said then to leave and be in the dark, but i hated sitting there and having to listen to all of this.

i feel furious, betrayed, and vulnerable. i will never step foot in that office again.

i don't even know you. but i have to comment. that is SO FUCKED UP. and illegal to boot. goodness. some BDSM relationships are the healthiest ones i have ever seen and who is she to judge? damn. now i am mad.

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

after giving it some some and some thought (when i saw this earlier i was on the way out the door) ive decided i really dont mind that the thread was bumped. the memories are painfull, but they are memories i have to deal with. unfortunatly since this inccedent i have boycotted therepy in general, but i digress. i could have deleted my posts, but i left them up so that they could be referneced in the future.

what i do have a problem with is presumptious conclusions made based on a single post youve read by me, or based on my age, without getting to know me as me.

i have infintily more issues with the way and general attitude in which the thread was bumped then the thread itself.

thank you all who jumped to my defense today. im fine, really.

Having seen you post on a fair number of threads I have to say that you seem like a good person overall and theres no reason that you should have had to deal with it.

 

[graceanne]

C'mon, people. DON'T FEED THE TROLLS! *sigh*

http://www.mninter.net/~richard/Please do not feed the trolls.jpg

 

[YourCaptor]

Oh my god!!! What a tragedy.

I just read that first post

*pets the little slut*

That is ridiculous, damn, what an abusive bitch. That must have been… I don’t even want to bring it up.

*Sigh*, thank god you’re such a smart cookie and believed none of it, so much for the therapists attempt at brainwashing. My praises on your self-understanding are infinite. “A”, must be the proudest man in all the land… and I got to tell ya, I’m a bit jealous.

On a different note, I can tell you I understand your father, I’m the same way about my sister. A little perspective on what’s going on here.

If you where dating a pansy that would never touch you if you said no, then he would probably be approved of as a boyfriend, although probably not liked as a person

If you where dating someone with their own opinions, who does what they want, then he would most likely not be approved of, although personally between the two, there is no real issue.

(Don’t be offended by the following example, its just to try to illustrate it.) From this point of view, it is really difficult to let your beloved treasure wander around, and then fully accept the man that is drawn to it, that’s almost impossible. How can you trust the man that understands your treasures worth, that just means he will use it. Until it is fully understood that this man will treasure it, not spend it, it will be impossible to approve off him. I hope that helps a little.

It’s a flaw in overprotective men like me, and possibly your dad, you could try having them do some male bonding. Ultimately what you want is for your boyfriend to show a lot of respect to your father, and for you father to understand him better as to allow for more trust. The whole BDSM thing shouldn’t be an issue, unless you dad is hardcore vanilla.

I wish you many brighter days, and try not to fear all therapists, there are good ones. Try having them interview for the nest one

 

[LittleJade]

MIS- I am SO sorry you had to experience this. This person makes accusations about how your loving partner abuses you with a power dynamic- how about the own abuse of the power dynamic between you and she??

I can't know how you feel- my own betrayal by a therapist was much less traumatic than yours- but I hope that you do find someone kink-friendly with whom you can have open, honest discussions, and find some good, firm shoulders to lean on.

 

[Homburg]

Hey y'all, this thread was about something that happened 6 months ago. mis has lived through this, and I doubt she wants to see it keep popping up.

Maybe we can let it die?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Hey y'all, this thread was about something that happened 6 months ago. mis has lived through this, and I doubt she wants to see it keep popping up.

Maybe we can let it die?

ditto

 

[DVS]

ditto

Well, then...can we start another thread to pester the troll with? It's fun!