I Have A Problem

[carverII]

Lately I've been almost obsessed with finding some guy to guy action. I'm married and I don't want to ruin that in anyway. I'd try to find someone that could be descrete and just in it for the physical aspect of it, but I'm having absolutely no luck what-so-ever. It seems that almost everyone I bump into wants more or can't be trusted or whatever.

What's a person to do with something like this?

Damn....sometimes it so fucking frustrating diggins chicks and guys at the same time.

 

[carverII]

Are you all telling me that no one else has this problem?

 

[Riley_James]

For What It's Worth...

Are you all telling me that no one else has this problem?

Carver,

I think lots of people have this problem, male and female. Anyone who is bi-sexual is seen as having a choice, when in truth, our feelings, our drive pulls us to people of both sexes.

Depending on the relationship you have with your spouse, my advice (from personal experience) is that coming clean is always the best bet. I know it seems hugely scary, given what the repercussions could be, but keeping a secret that big from someone you share your life with can be life altering as well.

As a woman, my instincts say that possible your spouse already suspects and not because of any type of gaydar or signals you might be giving off, but because women sometimes can be more perceptive.

Have you talked about fantasies...sometimes this is an open forum for new ideas and the best place to voice your desires in a non-confrontational way. When my spouse and I were first married, we agreed that neither of us could laugh at each other's fantasies, no matter how silly they might seem in the moment. After you've been active in some heated foreplay, ask her if you can tell her something that really turns you on? You might be surprised at her reaction. Bi-sexuality is not the taboo it once was.

Good Luck and come by to chat anytime. As an OUT bi woman, I've had a lot of practice with some of these issues.

Riley

 

[carverII]

Carver,

Depending on the relationship you have with your spouse, my advice (from personal experience) is that coming clean is always the best bet.


Have you talked about fantasies...sometimes this is an open forum for new ideas and the best place to voice your desires in a non-confrontational way.

After you've been active in some heated foreplay, ask her if you can tell her something that really turns you on? You might be surprised at her reaction. Bi-sexuality is not the taboo it once was.

Good Luck and come by to chat anytime. As an OUT bi woman, I've had a lot of practice with some of these issues.

Riley

She knows all about it and it is part of our role-playing. The only downside to our relationship is that while she will "entertain" me with various toys, nothing really beats the real thing.

There are times that I feel entirely too selfish with my thoughts, desires, and fantasies and so I will squash them down mostly. But there is something about this time of year perhaps that make the desires even stronger.

I recently went on a 10 day road-trip and thought to myself that it would be a great time to act out a bit (safely mind you, for all those safe-sex promoters here) but I just didn't think it was right.

Now that I'm home, I find myself looking at different websites as well as people in my everyday activities and desiring some contact.

 

[Riley_James]

She knows all about it and it is part of our role-playing. The only downside to our relationship is that while she will "entertain" me with various toys, nothing really beats the real thing.

There are times that I feel entirely too selfish with my thoughts, desires, and fantasies and so I will squash them down mostly. But there is something about this time of year perhaps that make the desires even stronger.

I recently went on a 10 day road-trip and thought to myself that it would be a great time to act out a bit (safely mind you, for all those safe-sex promoters here) but I just didn't think it was right.

Now that I'm home, I find myself looking at different websites as well as people in my everyday activities and desiring some contact.

Well, we all have desires and when we aren't getting what we desire, it makes the need seem all that much more urgent.

Have you thought about asking her if she'd mind if you actively searched for the right guy to make your dreams a reality? I bet she'd actually enjoy watching or at the very least hearing about it. ( I know I would!!!)

Good luck sweetie,
Riley

 

[Chicklet]

Cheating is still cheating, whether it's with someone of the opposite sex or someone of the same sex.

If you do have an encounter behind your wife's back, you will be putting your relationship at risk no matter *how* discrete you are.

Please keep that in mind.

Second, do the safe thing and meet people before jumping into bed with them. The casual encounters section of craigslist always has a ton of men for men. Don't be afraid to reject people if your gut tells you they're not safe or sane.

Try not to be obsessed. It's fine to be enthusiastic about your hunt, but if you start obsessing over it it'll drive you crazy. It shouldn't be too hard to set yourself up with a handful of meetings, and if you're patient you'll have your experience safely and enjoyably, and you'll probably come back here and brag about it.

Good luck

 

[vixen4770]

shouldn't be too hard to set yourself up with a handful of meetings, and if you're patient you'll have your experience safely and enjoyably, and you'll probably come back here and brag about it.

Good luck

We hope! Tell me more, tell me more.....

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[carverII]

Believe it or not we are actually discussing the fantasy of the male to male now. I don't know where it will end up at, but I will let you all know!

Wish me cock.......I mean luck.

 

[skittles_lm]

I'll wish you both, hunny!

Perhaps your wife can find someone for you where you are having no luck?

I've seen it work before, and then there is no cheating or hiding.

best of both worlds, imho.

that's how VQ and I play when we play with others. It works out for us quite nicely.



On a completely different note...

come say hi sometime! I miss you!