I hate my real Dad

[Tx girl]

Sorry i need to vent, I just got through talking to my sister and my dad had has brain washed my sister. So now my Sister hates me because of my dads lies. Im on wits ends. Im crying nonstop because of what she said to me. All because of the lies that our dad told her. Im not sure what to do. And god help me i wish the trouble maker would just roll over dead. After tonight im sure my sister will never talk to me again, seeing how i stood up for myself and the worthless mother fucker lied to her.

Please help anyone. Im the bad guy now because if his lies, and im not sure what to do other then cry.. and wish he'd fall over ( yes i know bad) But what else am i to do, he's ruined our relationship, the sack of fucking shit..


Tell me why are there heartless fathers? He's so self centered.. and cares nothing more then for himself..

 

[Guest]

sadly...she's going to have to make up her own mind about him..and it will happen.. lying sacks of shit don't stay concealed that long..

She will come around... with time. All you can do is be there for her when he screws up...

 

[Bluesboy2]

*Hugs*

I SO know this pain! All I can tell you is that eventually she will see him for what he is. Liars never stop lying. He will also most likely turn on her some day too. On that day instead of saying "I told you so" give her a big hug.
And good for you for standing up to her. I know it hurts but it's the right thing to do!

 

[LukkyKnight]

The only thing I know to suggest is patience. You cannot talk somebody into or out of beliefs, they have to come by their own. Be who you are, and in time your sister may gain perspective.

Meanwhile, I'm sure you feel the loss intensely, so venting here and crying seem like good steps, too.

 

[Tx girl]

but the words she said to me, even after i tried to explaine what was going on.. from my childhood till now.. I feel as if im torn into a million pieces, i've been there for her always. Yet her words cut so deep.

My dad even beat my mom when i was younger,yet i still tried to forgive. Last year he said harsh words to my sister that tore her up, yet i was the one defending her.. now im the bad one????

I dont think anything can hurt worse then this.

 

[Tx girl]

Thanks Lukky, but right now i feel like nothing.. and its killing me.

 

[Tx girl]

Again sorry to vent but this S O B has giving me nothing and yet now he's taking my sister away..

 

[LukkyKnight]

Thanks Lukky, but right now i feel like nothing.. and its killing me.

Those we care most about we grant the power to demolish our hearts. It's inevitable. Be you, and the hurt can heal if you don't let it control you. The sister will or will not see the light, when the time is right.

 

[Frimost]

Well darling, there is nothing you can do, except one thing, move on and be your own person. The truth always comes out eventually, lying is like juggling and the more lies he tells about you the more balls he's juggling and eventually he will screw-up and drop one. When that time comes she will see him for what he is and she will come to you and apologize. Until then, let it all out for now, cry, it serves a purpose-to bleed away the excess emotion (and don't feel guilty about doing it). Then tomorrow when you wake up in the morning try and forget what happened and move on with your own like and relationships and try and stay away from your family for awhile because they seem to be toxic to your mental and emotional well-being.

 

[Tx girl]

Thats just it , he's never been apart of my life and i've never excepted it, now he's turning the one i love the most against.. Talk about hard shit..

 

[Frimost]

Well don't call her again to try and convice her otherwise about what he said of you. She will just dig in her heels more and it will just reinforce the lies he told about you in her mind.
I know you love her but she's not perfect either to go along and believe the BS he said about you. But if you love her and she loves you she will come around before you know it.

 

[Gil_Favor]

and just what did he lie about?

 

[Tx girl]

Im so trying guys, but what she said was like sticking a knife in my hear. I can't believ how badly her words cut into me. I was there when he was a no call.. even tough he made to the finalys... Seriously. WHAt about me? The one he nevef cared aboubt the one that just wanted to be around

 

[Weevil]

Better than never knowing your father.

 

[Master Brian]

Sometimes you just have to say 'fuck it' and move on. It isn't easy but it's better than dwelling on a messed up situation. The facts are your sister will come around or not. You have no control of that. So the best advice I have for you not knowing the specifics of the situation is to say 'fuck it' and watch a movie or read a book. But get your mind off the problem as best you can.

 

[Liontamr]

Better than never knowing your father.

As a matter of fact.. I don't.

My mom had me out of wedlock, and my original dad left just after I turned one. My current father didn't meet my mom and I until I was six. For the record.. I consider my current dad the real one and have no interest or care to meet my "original" dad.

Ad for the subject of the post.. I agree with others here. Just gut it out and try to be there for your sister once she realizes he's a piece of shit.. and she will because eventually the smell will get to strong to ignore or be hidden.

 

[looking4fun]

Better than never knowing your father.

I would disagree. Atleast not knowing you can still have positive thoughts about him & how it would be to know him.

Then once you get to know him & find out what a prick he is, you have nothing.

Atleast thats how I feel...

Txgrl they say time heals all. It just sucks waiting for it to happen. Just keep in mind that you are not the only one going through it.

Good Luck

 

[bknight2602]

My advice, even though you may not want to hear it, confront your Dad with the troubling issues. Make your stand, but be willing to sacrifice any feelings that he may have toward you.

Then go to your sister and relate the conversation, let her check with Dad, if he tells her lies, then she may know the real truth, should she want to believe.

Next back off and wait, time heals a lot of personal issues that are flaming at a moment. The passion will diminish to a point that you may be able to get into your sister's feelings in a more positive manner.

 

[kidthor]

I can't say anything that anybody else hasn't said...I will give you a *BIG HUG* though...

 

[Guest]

 

[Lost Cause]

Live for yourself.......

What you know about what's the truth is more important than twisted things others say about you to rationalize their failures. You can say your peace to both, and let time wear down the falsehoods they've built around themselves and others. You have your life to live, and wasting your precious life energy on this blackhole, does nothing to improve your future. The important thing is you know the truth, noone's lies can change that, be the keeper of that knowledge, time wounds all heels.