How do you help someone get over being abused

[Gil_T2]

Hi to all.

Sorry I haven't been on lately, haven't been feeling very well for a bit. I keep getting a repeating virus or something. Everytime I think I've gotten rid of it here it comes again. Oh well, I'm sure it'll pass.

Hope everyone is doing well. Leaving (((((hugs))))) and 's for all who want one. Properly sterilized ones so I won't pass this damn bug to anyone else, lol.

KIKI please take care of you as you are a very important person to many of us & congrats on the ticker.

Oh some great news for BANDIT & I as we have now set a date for our wedding 9th Dec 06.

 

[Don K Dyck]

KIKI please take care of you as you are a very important person to many of us & congrats on the ticker.

Oh some great news for BANDIT & I as we have now set a date for our wedding 9th Dec 06.

Congratulations Gil and bandit . . .

. . . 'bout time you made an honest woman of her Gil . . .

 

[tbon455]

hi gil its me tbon45 i had to make a new account. congrats on your wedding. how have you been doing?

 

[Gil_T2]

hi gil its me tbon45 i had to make a new account. congrats on your wedding. how have you been doing?

Not married yet 9th Dec 06 will be our day.

as for things here my health has seemed to have settled & things are looking good there, I'm still waiting to see the doc on the transplant teem to see if I make it on the waiting list....BANDIT is fine & as usual fussing around spoiling me.

 

[Gil_T2]

Congratulations Gil and bandit . . .

. . . 'bout time you made an honest woman of her Gil . . .

UMMMM Didn't I hear something like that on the over 40s thread ????

 

[Monazwx]

WOW, I haven't been over here in ages. A wedding!!!

CONGRADULATIONS you two. This is awesome. I'm thrilled for you.

 

[tbon455]

glad to hear your doing better.

 

[mortalwombat]

Hi to all.

Sorry I haven't been on lately, haven't been feeling very well for a bit. I keep getting a repeating virus or something. Everytime I think I've gotten rid of it here it comes again. Oh well, I'm sure it'll pass.

Hope everyone is doing well. Leaving (((((hugs))))) and 's for all who want one. Properly sterilized ones so I won't pass this damn bug to anyone else, lol.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((kiki)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) getting a hug from a gorgeous person like you is worth risking a few germs! Concrats on the weight loss-your ticker looks great!

 

[Don K Dyck]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((kiki)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) getting a hug from a gorgeous person like you is worth risking a few germs! Congrats on the weight loss-your ticker looks great!

Hey Batty . . . your ticker looks fabulous!!

I am trying to emulate your success . . .

 

[mortalwombat]

Hey Batty . . . your ticker looks fabulous!!

I am trying to emulate your success . . .

doing pretty damn well too-go for it don!

 

[Gil_T2]

WOW, I haven't been over here in ages. A wedding!!!

CONGRADULATIONS you two. This is awesome. I'm thrilled for you.

we are even happier than we have been since being together, we had plans of getting married last year but my health stopped that but now with some changes to my treatment it looks all go this time.


Fingers crossed

 

[Gil_T2]

Hey Batty . . . your ticker looks fabulous!!

I am trying to emulate your success . . .

Your both doing well & I'll have to join you but my effort is greatly hindered by restrictions for all sides guess I'll have to use the MORE SEX system.

 

[Gil_T2]

Hey Batty . . . your ticker looks fabulous!!

I am trying to emulate your success . . .

Your both doing well & I'll have to join you but my effort is greatly hindered by restrictions for all sides guess I'll have to use the MORE SEX system to loose my weight, I do know it's a long drawn out system but I'll just have to make the sacrifice.

 

[Bandit58]

Bumpitty BUMP

 

[Gil_T2]

Bumpitty BUMP

I'll join you in BUMPING the thread.

 

[Noor]

I'll join you both

Bump bump

 

[Gil_T2]

Bump bump

Nice to see you here Noor, hope all is good in your world.

 

[kikmosa]

KIKI please take care of you as you are a very important person to many of us & congrats on the ticker.

Oh some great news for BANDIT & I as we have now set a date for our wedding 9th Dec 06.

QUOTE]
Oh Gil, that's the most fantastic news I've heard in a long time. I'm so happy for you both. I wish you both many happy times together.

 

[Don K Dyck]

KIKI please take care of you as you are a very important person to many of us & congrats on the ticker.

Oh some great news for BANDIT & I as we have now set a date for our wedding 9th Dec 06.

Oh Gil, that's the most fantastic news I've heard in a long time. I'm so happy for you both. I wish you both many happy times together.

Hi Kiki . . . great to see you posting

I can't herlp but notice your wonderful progress in the weight loss ticker . . .

. . . well done!!

Tell us all . . . what's your secret formula for success??

 

[kikmosa]

Hi Kiki . . . great to see you posting

I can't herlp but notice your wonderful progress in the weight loss ticker . . .

. . . well done!!

Tell us all . . . what's your secret formula for success??

Lol, I haven't updated it in awhile. I guess I should go weigh in now. Be right back. No secrets here, lol.

 

[Noor]

Lol, I haven't updated it in awhile. I guess I should go weigh in now. Be right back. No secrets here, lol.

Hi Kiki! Well done!

 

[Gil_T2]

KIKI please take care of you as you are a very important person to many of us & congrats on the ticker.

Oh some great news for BANDIT & I as we have now set a date for our wedding 9th Dec 06.

QUOTE]
Oh Gil, that's the most fantastic news I've heard in a long time. I'm so happy for you both. I wish you both many happy times together.

KIKI thanks & so glad we have brought some joy to you.

Now about that ticker I'm thinking it must be time for a new pic of you in my email when your ready. ( I still have some from before you sent, still love the smiling one best though, it made me happy).

 

[shmeghead]

Kiki,

What I want to communicate to you, I communicate for no other reason than the pain you have felt and have experienced is pain that I can connect with and I want to say something to you that I hope you take the time to really REALLY understand.

You are NOT your past !!!!!

The experiences you have gone through are just that, experiences you have GONE through. Not what you are living now.

The fear you feel is real, VERY real and I totally acknowledge the fear you feel on a daily basis is one that controls every ounce of what you do and how you behave. However, the strength you have gained from surviving is strength that no individual can remove from you. It is also strength that you can nuture and allow too overtake the 'pain' that controls your life.

The fact you have made your friend a promise tells me that you already have the courage, endurance and strength to get out of bed each day and face the world. Sure, some days are better than others. I'm sure there are some days you do nothing but cry. But on the other days, the days where you are around friends (such as the one that you made your promise too), those are the days that trully represent you as a person NOW. Those are the days where you give so much to those around you that THEY can not imagine life without you. THOSE are the days where your smile makes them realise just how lucky they are to know you. And it is those days my dear friend, that you need to realise, are the days that are slowly but surely re-creating your inner strength.

It is true that every single person has pain in this world. On some level, at some point, we have all experienced pain and been scarred from it. Some have had more than their fair share, and this is the truth with you. But the irony of the situation is, those that have had more than their fair share of pain and survived from it are the very same people that provide the most strength to those closest to them. They are the very same people that provide an insight into just how special life really is, how precious life can be, to those that don't quite appreciate it as much as they should each day.

Kiki, my communication to you is this. I am proud of you !!!
I am proud of you because you survived. I am proud of you because you ARE a survivor and you have chosen to keep on surviving. I am proud of you because the pain you have felt is one you can communicate to others about, just as you have done on this thread. I am proud because it is people such as yourself that make this world a little bit easier to cope with. For the simple reason, that all one has to do is know just how strong you are to also realise just how much potential I can have because of the strength you have.

Although the pain of my past isn't exactly like yours, it is very VERY similar on so many levels. Just reading your story gave me a solid slapping in the face. I'm one who has also survived. I am also one who has made a promise to keep on surviving. And I am so very proud of that promise. It took me many years to realise the courage it took to make that promise. The funny thing is, the person I made that promise too realised immediately how much that promise meant. Yet it was me who took so long too realise.

Believe me Kiki, please believe me when I tell you that not only are you someone special. But you are someone the world needs, because you demonstrate a courage and an integrity that most others can only read about. You demonstrate a strength that most others can only look at in awe.
But you demonstrate that courage, strength and integrity not because of the effect it has on others, but because you HAVE to be those things to keep getting out of bed each day and fullfilling your promise.

I am proud of you Kiki.

Namaste...,,,.,..,,,

 

[mortalwombat]

Kiki,

What I want to communicate to you, I communicate for no other reason than the pain you have felt and have experienced is pain that I can connect with and I want to say something to you that I hope you take the time to really REALLY understand.

You are NOT your past !!!!!

The experiences you have gone through are just that, experiences you have GONE through. Not what you are living now.

The fear you feel is real, VERY real and I totally acknowledge the fear you feel on a daily basis is one that controls every ounce of what you do and how you behave. However, the strength you have gained from surviving is strength that no individual can remove from you. It is also strength that you can nuture and allow too overtake the 'pain' that controls your life.

The fact you have made your friend a promise tells me that you already have the courage, endurance and strength to get out of bed each day and face the world. Sure, some days are better than others. I'm sure there are some days you do nothing but cry. But on the other days, the days where you are around friends (such as the one that you made your promise too), those are the days that trully represent you as a person NOW. Those are the days where you give so much to those around you that THEY can not imagine life without you. THOSE are the days where your smile makes them realise just how lucky they are to know you. And it is those days my dear friend, that you need to realise, are the days that are slowly but surely re-creating your inner strength.

It is true that every single person has pain in this world. On some level, at some point, we have all experienced pain and been scarred from it. Some have had more than their fair share, and this is the truth with you. But the irony of the situation is, those that have had more than their fair share of pain and survived from it are the very same people that provide the most strength to those closest to them. They are the very same people that provide an insight into just how special life really is, how precious life can be, to those that don't quite appreciate it as much as they should each day.

Kiki, my communication to you is this. I am proud of you !!!
I am proud of you because you survived. I am proud of you because you ARE a survivor and you have chosen to keep on surviving. I am proud of you because the pain you have felt is one you can communicate to others about, just as you have done on this thread. I am proud because it is people such as yourself that make this world a little bit easier to cope with. For the simple reason, that all one has to do is know just how strong you are to also realise just how much potential I can have because of the strength you have.

Although the pain of my past isn't exactly like yours, it is very VERY similar on so many levels. Just reading your story gave me a solid slapping in the face. I'm one who has also survived. I am also one who has made a promise to keep on surviving. And I am so very proud of that promise. It took me many years to realise the courage it took to make that promise. The funny thing is, the person I made that promise too realised immediately how much that promise meant. Yet it was me who took so long too realise.

Believe me Kiki, please believe me when I tell you that not only are you someone special. But you are someone the world needs, because you demonstrate a courage and an integrity that most others can only read about. You demonstrate a strength that most others can only look at in awe.
But you demonstrate that courage, strength and integrity not because of the effect it has on others, but because you HAVE to be those things to keep getting out of bed each day and fullfilling your promise.

I am proud of you Kiki.

Namaste...,,,.,..,,,

this is beautiful-welcome to literotica and to the thread shmeghead

 

[Gil_T2]

this is beautiful-welcome to literotica and to the thread shmeghead

DITTO.