How Do You Get What You Want....

[juicylips]

or need out of a relationship?

Tell them?

Hint alot?

Do to them what you want done to you?

What happens when you come to the realization that this person isn't going to make you happy?

Or....should we know that real happiness begins with ourselves?

jl

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Well

I am Married so I DON'T!!!!!

As for the foresight, most of us don't have it to the point of avoiding a situation that we eventually end up badly.

Sometimes the only thing you have to hold on to is HOPE.

Holden

 

[juicylips]

Re: Well

I am Married so I DON'T!!!!!

Holden

*Laughing*

Where you been hiding? I haven't seen you in ages. Considering your response here, I assume things are less than perfect in your world.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

JL

Well I am greedy and selfish, so yes Perfect would make me Happy. I don't know for how long but at least a week or two!

Holden

I have been working - shhhh if it gets out my image will be ruined!

 

[MissTaken]

I say so.

There are times, I will wait for the right moment, but eventually will say, "I need... What do you need?"



Good morning, sweet and sexy jl!

 

[juicylips]

I say so.

There are times, I will wait for the right moment, but eventually will say, "I need... What do you need?"



Good morning, sweet and sexy jl!

Hiya, gorgeous

 

[Guest]

Communication!

As long as we're talking, needs and wants can be met.

Another person will never make you happy. But a healthy, loving relationship can definitely cultivate happiness.

 

[estevie]

I whine, cry and stomp my feet.



Rarely works though.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

What about you JL?

What do you do>?

Does it work?

and do you think that this question is skewed by gender?

In other words is it easier for woman to get what they want then men?

Holden

 

[juicylips]

Another person will never make you happy. But a healthy, loving relationship can definitely cultivate happiness.

Beautifully said.

 

[juicylips]

I whine, cry and stomp my feet.
Rarely works though.

I've never understand how children can do that and get what they want, but somehow we adults don't get the same response.

 

[Lost Cause]

You get what you give..

Most of the time.

Q: How Do You Get What You Want....
or need out of a relationship?

Tell them?

That's usually in the courting question and answer, where you determine that you want to commit.

Hint alot?

Same methodology.

Do to them what you want done to you?

Usually, if there's a rich relationship, it kind of flows that way.

What happens when you come to the realization that this person isn't going to make you happy?

You back off emotionally, and let them know you're thoughts and take it from there.

Or....should we know that real happiness begins with ourselves?

Yeppers, you can't expect someone to make you complete, if you're not complete as a person to begin with. You eventually hurt the other, who has to try harder at the relationship to compensate for your personal voids.

 

[Saint Valentine]

or need out of a relationship?

Tell them?

Hint alot?

Do to them what you want done to you?

What happens when you come to the realization that this person isn't going to make you happy?

Or....should we know that real happiness begins with ourselves?

jl

Many times I don't get what I want from a relationship and when I do, I have no idea how I did. I do ALWAYS try and treat her like I'd like to be treated. I do beleive hapiness starts with ourselves, but having someone there goes a long way towards making you feel better about yourself as well.

 

[juicylips]

Re: You get what you give..

Yeppers, you can't expect someone to make you complete, if you're not complete as a person to begin with. You eventually hurt the other, who has to try harder at the relationship to compensate for your personal voids.

I agree.

I sometimes wonder why we pursue relationships when we ourselves are so fucked up. But, your response touched on that. We do it to fill voids.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: How Do You Get What You Want....

Many times I don't get what I want from a relationship and when I do, I have no idea how I did. I do ALWAYS try and treat her like I'd like to be treated. I do beleive hapiness starts with ourselves, but having someone there goes a long way towards making you feel better about yourself as well.

Morning, sweetie.


Have a good weekend?

 

[capricious_chic]

As with anything, it depends.

If what you want is feasible or not. Is it realistic and can be attained. Keeping with open communication and dialogue between couples, it is fairly easy to balance wants, needs, desires, etc. If one person wants something that just isn't possible, no amount of communication will be able to gratify them. If/when you realize that another person isn't going to be able to fill your needs and make/keep you happy in a relationship, it is only fair that you tell them. Often times, people wait and hope that it will get better. Years go by, kids are involved, and a situation that was not so great becomes almost intolerable. Mostly, in answer to your question, the key to it all is being able to be honest with yourself. Many of us aren't able to do that, and hope that we can fix the problem or change it in someway.. instead of realizing that it either is or isn't what we need. It isn't up to our partner to make us happy, it is up to us. Sometimes you get lucky, and have a partner that adds to your overall happiness.. sometimes you don't, but try to make it so.

 

[Saint Valentine]

Re: Re: Re: How Do You Get What You Want....

Morning, sweetie.


Have a good weekend?

Not really. I was sick again but I'm starting to feel a little better.

 

[estevie]

I've never understand how children can do that and get what they want, but somehow we adults don't get the same response.

I know!!!

People actually ignore me! Can you believe that???

 

[juicylips]

Mostly, in answer to your question, the key to it all is being able to be honest with yourself. Many of us aren't able to do that, and hope that we can fix the problem or change it in someway.. instead of realizing that it either is or isn't what we need. It isn't up to our partner to make us happy, it is up to us.

True.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Re: Re: How Do You Get What You Want....

Not really. I was sick again but I'm starting to feel a little better.

Awwwww...baby...so sorry! Hope today goes better for you.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I usually just make my needs and wants known. It seems to make everything go more smoothly.

 

[markb325]

How do I get what I want?


I spoil the hell out of her.

 

[k¡tty]

Usually I treat them how I want to be treated.. occasionally I hint. I tend to be very giving and in some relationships I was too busy trying to keep them happy to worry about my own happiness.

I'm prolly the worlds worse at expressing what I want and need in any situation.. it's just hard for me.


If I realize that they can't give me what I need.. even if I care about them a great deal.. I have to end it.

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

What happens when you come to the realization that this person isn't going to make you happy?
I'm living this right now, although he doesn't make me happy I still care for him and will go on and make the best of it until I can't take it anymore.

As for getting what I want, I hint and then give in to something he wants to get what I want.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hey, Kitty-loo...


I also think that sometimes you have t end a relationship with you know you can't give the other person what they need. Either way, better to end things before people become bitter at each other.


I just want to add that I can get what I want with my cooking...crab rangoon, anyone?