How do you decide when an 'online relationship' is real?

[Guest]

How much can you feel online? And even if you really have feelings for someone.......is it a 'real' relationship if its only online?

Or do you think it only becomes a relationship when the two people meet?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

How much can you feel online? And even if you really have feelings for someone.......is it a 'real' relationship if its only online?

Or do you think it only becomes a relationship when the two people meet?

Online relationships can be real, but for them to be much more than an acquaintance you really need to meet the person face to face.

 

[Siren]

If it hurts....it is real

 

[EmeraldEyes]

When you love them.

 

[celiaKitten]

Must agree with the general assembly here - no matter how crazy you are about someone online - you have to meet them before anything really solidifies (think of jell-o ... )

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

IF it's never going to go fearther then online, I'd call it a freindshop and not a relationship

But if there is a chance it can evolve into more.... the slimist of chances and you both feel for each other then I'd say yes it's a relationship...

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

wow where the hell did all those posts come from there were none there a second ago

 

[Xander]

The online relationship becomes a really real only after you've met the person, spend time with him/her.
Only then you truely know if there is something there.

Just my 2 cents + experience in the matter.

 

[MissTaken]

I have a couple of on line friends who met through icq and got married. They both say that they were in love before meeting, but that the meeting had to take place to "solidify" the relationship...as has been said here.

The difference beign that when on line, you are focussed on one another and all of those little interruptions from real life are minimal. And it is those little things that can prevent a relationship from blossoming.

 

[Guest]

So, how are you and the hubby lately?

 

[Angel]

The online relationship becomes a really real only after you've met the person, spend time with him/her.
Only then you truely know if there is something there.

Just my 2 cents + experience in the matter.

It would depend.

I definitely knew I loved BK before I went down there in June. I fell -in- Love head over heels when I met him in person though. When I got off the plane it was like we'd been together forever. There was no awkward phase or anything. It just deepened totally after I met him.

 

[Xander]

It would depend.

I definitely knew I loved BK before I went down there in June. I fell -in- Love head over heels when I met him in person though. When I got off the plane it was like we'd been together forever. There was no awkward phase or anything. It just deepened totally after I met him.

All true, the love may be there before hand.
What I am saying though, is that it will be confirmed when you meet. Then you REALLY know. Like with you and BK, it was like you has been together forever.

 

[cymbidia]

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."


So it is with online love versus love that unfolds the old fashioned way. When we give our hearts, we give them, and it doesn't matter to our heart whether it's to the one whose fingers are entwined in ours or if it's a face on a screen or words on page.

Love is love.

But for love to persist and grow, ah!, that requires the sharing of flesh. It requires that two people find a common path through the small and large problems a shared daily life throws at all of us. It requires big compromises and tears and touches in the night. Lasting love requires the press of his skin against yours to take root and grow tall and strong.

But love?
No, love just requires two hearts reaching for each other with promise and hope and desire.

Love is easy.

Staying in love, keeping it fresh and vital, that's hard. It requires, as all here have said, that the two of you inhabit the same space at the same time. It requires an ongoing real-life relationship.

 

[Angel]

Ah, once again Cymbidia has spoken. Nobody else needs to post now, cause she hit the nail right on the head.

 

[Purple Haze]

"Do you believe in a love at first byte?"

"Yes, I'm certain that it happens all the time,"

"What do you see when you turn out the light?"

"I can't tell you, but I know it's mine"

 

[Guest]

I met my boyfriend online nearly two years ago. We got involved online as a couple almost a year ago. We've been living together for 9 months now. The entirety of our relationship has been real. From the first character typed we were real people interacting. As was just posted before this, it took first our phone conversations,and then meeting and making a commitment for our relationship to grow. Every day I watch it grow and change as with myself and the rest of life... Take the risk and believe it can happen for you. It has for me