How do I find a munch?

[Marquis]

And what are they like?

 

[Netzach]

there's some huge ass state by state leather event listing thing out there, I could find the links if it weren't so late....

I'll dig it up if no one else steps up to the plate.

Think sports bar. Think pretty vanilla. Think lots of people into sci fi and fantasy. Think bad jokes.

There's bound to be a person or two you might click with. If not on the first one, be a bit persistant, especially with new guys people want to see your face a few times before they open up.

I kept going back even after wondering why I bothered and eventually made some good friends, and eventually found a sub and fiance!

 

[bound2Bnaughty]

http://directory.google.com/Top/Adu...ca/United_States/Washington,_DC/Society/BDSM/

That one is for Washington DC

http://www.wartenbergwheel.com/clubs.html

For all of the US....

If you belong to Yahoo, you might try checking to see if they have a geocities group in your area....

Hope this helps!! i love going to my munches!!

 

[Marquis]

Think sports bar. Think pretty vanilla. Think lots of people into sci fi and fantasy. Think bad jokes.

LOL, that's a great description! I figured there was some crossover between the sci-fi/fantasy crowd and the bdsm crowd. Which leads me to my next question. Can I expect to find attractive ladies at munches? I mean attractive in the normal, I would want to show her off to my friends sense; not in the inner-beauty, "American Beauty" sense.

As much as my private, demented side desires a freak on a leash; my public and well-balanced side has superficial demands that must be met.

 

[Marquis]

Thanks bound2bnaughty, I was just looking at that those links, and I'm thinking I might check one out tomorrow!

Oh man, this is a big step for me.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Let me tell you right now, Marquis...also think "middle-aged, dumpy, schlubby, dowdy and unattractive".

By all means, go for it....but don't be expecting much.

 

[Marquis]

Hmmm...

My worst fears confirmed.

Oh well, I've had nominal successes in turning out vanilla girls recently, maybe I should just refocus my energy on that.

 

[WriterDom]

I went to a meeting/demo type thing in Asheville. Out of 15 women or so, there were 5 good looking ones. But the nicest 3 were all taken. A boyish body lesbian that had a Domme who must have been 30 years or more older. Cute little sub too, I bet Rosco would like to fuck her up the ass with no lube. And a married switch, and a married sub. The married sub was exceptional.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I went to a meeting/demo type thing in Asheville. Out of 15 women or so, there were 5 good looking ones. But the nicest 3 were all taken. A boyish body lesbian that had a Domme who must have been 30 years or more older. Cute little sub too, I bet Rosco would like to fuck her up the ass with no lube. And a married switch, and a married sub. The married sub was exceptional.

I'm not saying you won't meet nice-looking people, ever....just that, the scene being so restricted and all, it's not going to be like saturday night at the college bars.

And yeah, the nice ones are always taken.

Asheville, huh...nice town. Good to hear there are pervy people there.

 

[Netzach]

Ahem...

dowdy unattractive schlubby and middle aged.....

I'll refer you to my exhibitionistic pic moment, decide for yourself on M and I.

I have superficial requirements, I sure do.

Like the outside world, there's below at and above average and above average is harder to come by.

It helps to be a bit alternatively minded about your beauty, too. I'm bored to shit by conventionally cute blondes, so I do just fine when looking at girls in SM land. And I don't mind meat, I fear no cellulite, as long as I can find my way out from between a gal's breasts we are all fine.

 

[the Royal wench]

I have to giggle out loud at these comments.

Not enough pretty subs out there?

Maybe they're just waiting for the right one to make them blossom.

You know that inner glow that washes over someone and suddenly they twinkle and shine? Maybe even polish and gloss just to please the right one? Of course it would be nice if they had that twinkle to begin with but it seems like the very nature of subs that they might tend to need someone to do that for.

Munches sound interesting. Is there sex there? How did that name come about?

 

[Netzach]

No sex no no no, it's all about having a meet and greet in which we all appear normal to those who don't know better.

Of course a lot of people can't leave a cloak, flogger, wrist restraints, or club colors at home if their life depended on it, so it tends to look more like a loosely related network of nerdy freaks than a bunch of people who just HAPPEN to share a sexuality interest.

Score one for feeling less repressed, down one for discretion.

The thing I stress with the munch as a way of getting connected meeting some friends and people on your own planet, as well as maybe someone to play with and eventually keep in a cage....is persistance.

There may be no one you wanna talk to week one. Week 2. Week 3 you may wind up hitting it off with another Dom, who then gives you an invite to a party, and you meet a weirdly interesting owned switchy gal who has a lesbian boi who sets you up with this girl.....who might be a nightmare, but her friend turns out to be awesome.

Give it time, be organic, be yourself. Don't pretend to be into shit you're not into. I held out for someone whose eyes lit up when I said I loved the Pixies. I still have never gone to an SCA event happily. So there.

 

[the Royal wench]

Thank, Netzach

Sounds like a place to be yourself without expectations.

 

[bound2Bnaughty]

Thanks bound2bnaughty, I was just looking at that those links, and I'm thinking I might check one out tomorrow!

Oh man, this is a big step for me.

my first munch was a huge step for me. i had no idea what to expect. But, i got up the nerve, walked into the restaurant, and what greeted me was a group of absolutely wonderful, kinky people who embraced me right away.

i've been going back every other week since, and this weekend will be our 1st annual BDSM picnic!!

Good luck to you Marquis... if you go in with an open mind, you'll come out with having met many new friends!!!

 

[Quint]

How did that name come about?

Because it's usually held at a restaurant, hence "munching"--my city holds theirs at one of the most country-folksy, vanilla establishments I've ever seen. I'm vastly looking forward to turning 21 and being legally able to attend mine. I rather expect to see several people from work there, and they are NOT of the dumpy sort.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It helps to be a bit alternatively minded about your beauty, too. I'm bored to shit by conventionally cute blondes, so I do just fine when looking at girls in SM land. And I don't mind meat, I fear no cellulite, as long as I can find my way out from between a gal's breasts we are all fine.

It wasn't the physical appearnance thing that got me as much as the dowdy, sweatpants wearing housewife thing.

 

[Marquis]

Well, I'll probably be going tonight, so I'll let you all know how it goes.

Do you think it would be rude to take pictures?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ahem...

dowdy unattractive schlubby and middle aged.....

I'll refer you to my exhibitionistic pic moment, decide for yourself on M and I.

I have superficial requirements, I sure do.

Like the outside world, there's below at and above average and above average is harder to come by.

It helps to be a bit alternatively minded about your beauty, too. I'm bored to shit by conventionally cute blondes, so I do just fine when looking at girls in SM land. And I don't mind meat, I fear no cellulite, as long as I can find my way out from between a gal's breasts we are all fine.

I'm with you here N....I think my body is much more interesting than in my perfect, shapely years not so long back. At least guys and girls who don't fit the stereotype, have difference and variety to offer in the physical sense, and more often than not that goes for the mind and personality as well more so than with those preoccupied with how they look to others. Interesting question here though is, do these ones who seek physical perfection or close to it possess that quality themselves? LOL, maybe they should be posting a pic for us to offer judgement on so they know how well received they might be themselves.

Catalina http://www.flip-logtenberg.net/sex/opa003.gif

 

[rosco rathbone]

Shit woman. Why do you think I got into this whole domination gig??

answer: so as to be able to bone hot young girls when I myself am old and nasty. but dominate and supreem.

 

[Marquis]

Shit woman. Why do you think I got into this whole domination gig??

answer: so as to be able to bone hot young girls when I myself am old and nasty. but dominate and supreem.

Well you must have been REAL dissapointed when you went to a munch.

 

[Marquis]

I'm with you here N....I think my body is much more interesting than in my perfect, shapely years not so long back. At least guys and girls who don't fit the stereotype, have difference and variety to offer in the physical sense, and more often than not that goes for the mind and personality as well more so than with those preoccupied with how they look to others. Interesting question here though is, do these ones who seek physical perfection or close to it possess that quality themselves? LOL, maybe they should be posting a pic for us to offer judgement on so they know how well received they might be themselves.

Catalina

Whatever you say.

A bitch's personality doesn't matter much when you're stuffing your cock in her mouth, forgive me if I discriminate on aesthetics.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Whatever you say.

A bitch's personality doesn't matter much when you're stuffing your cock in her mouth, forgive me if I discriminate on aesthetics.

LOL, unfortunately, a egotistical prick's personality is usually considered by that said bitch during, or while contemplating, such an act. May explain why there are a number of Doms out there, running around scratching their heads bemoaning an absence of their own little subbie to use, while subbies abound but continue to pass them by. So how did your night's adventure go? Come home with a long list of possibilities?

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Cock's face matters when I have to sit across the table from it and eat, to be fair.

 

[Marquis]

LoL, I think I'm confident, not egotistical, but I'll take your warning in good faith.


The people at the munch (which I was told was not technically a munch) were actually VERY nice. They opened up immediately and I had a great time throwing a few drinks back with them. As far as physical attraction goes though, I don't think I could get my dick up for any of them. I guess even my prick is a conceited prick.

 

[Marquis]

By the way Netzach, the description you gave earlier was so precise it was scary.

D&D was mentioned within minutes of touchdown. Eventually, Everquest, Magic, Star Trek and Wicca all came up too.

Makes me wonder about my previous love for Star Trek.