How Are You Bad In Bed?

[hanban24]

Many of us are quick to point out how others are bad in bed or how we excel, but how many of us are honest with the ways we aren’t good in bed?

What are the things that your partner(s) would complain about you, as it relates to sex?

 

[hanban24]

Many of us are quick to point out how others are bad in bed or how we excel, but how many of us are honest with the ways we aren’t good in bed?

What are the things that your partner(s) would complain about you, as it relates to sex?

I’ll start. I’m a no-go on butt stuff- giving or receiving. I’m not into the idea of group play or sharing partners. While I have a high sex drive, I’m not big on long sessions of intercourse. Give me a solid 20-30 minutes and that is more than enough. No reason to be doing it for hours.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Interesting question. Hopefully everyone gives me 5* reviews but who knows?

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Give me a solid 20-30 minutes and that is more than enough.

a man who can manage 30 minutes is a bit of a rarity. Unless you like stop and watch TV or make coffee part way through! I'd rather have intense sex than an endurance exercise though.

 

[hanban24]

a man who can manage 30 minutes is a bit of a rarity. Unless you like stop and watch TV or make coffee part way through! I'd rather have intense sex than an endurance exercise though.

I saw it happen more when I was younger. A guy would want to have it just keep going and going and going. If they are good at what they do, I’m honestly exhausted after about 15-20 minutes. Unless it is just a ton of foreplay, no reason it should go much longer than that.

 

[hanban24]

I'm extremely ticklish and have kicked my girlfriend in the crotch a few times because of it. I apologize, she swears it's fine, but I imagine it would be a negative to any other partner.

Better to kick a girlfriend in the crotch than a boyfriend . I’ve had some ticklish partners before and you always have to be extra careful touching certain areas. Fortunately, I’ve never taken a knee to the lady bits because of it lol

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I’ll start. I’m a no-go on butt stuff- giving or receiving. I’m not into the idea of group play or sharing partners. While I have a high sex drive, I’m not big on long sessions of intercourse. Give me a solid 20-30 minutes and that is more than enough. No reason to be doing it for hours.

None of that makes you bad in bed.

You just need a partner who wants that.

There are plenty of them.

 

[hanban24]

None of that makes you bad in bed.

You just need a partner who wants that.

There are plenty of them.

True, but I’d argue most of the things people complain about their partners on here are things that aren’t bad. Just bad to them.

I’ve never really had many complaints from lovers, but I’m also very self aware at the things that make me both good and bad in bed.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I think I am too quiet.

I don't moan. I don't talk dirty. I can... I know how to... I am comfortable doing so.... but I get into the moment and am focused on the sex and I just naturally get quiet. I have been told after that she thought I wasn't into it. But I REALLY was.

 

[sixfoot4]

Farting

 

[hanban24]

I think I am too quiet.

I don't moan. I don't talk dirty. I can... I know how to... I am comfortable doing so.... but I get into the moment and am focused on the sex and I just naturally get quiet. I have been told after that she thought I wasn't into it. But I REALLY was.

I’ve had some lovers like that. It is definitely hard to adjust to at first. I’m a talker and big on verbal communication. That being said, a lot of communication is non verbal (are they doing things with their hands, making faces, look in their eyes, how is their body responding). I’d rather have a guy do what comes naturally to him, than trying to sound like something he has heard in porn.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I also sometimes focus too much on my partner's pleasure. Like I have to make sure she gets off.

But sometimes a partner just wants to get me off and be the giver for a quickie and I have a hard time accepting that.

This isn't a brag. It has been an issue. Guys, if she says she just wants to satisfy you on any given night and doesn't want you to get her off... listen to her and trust her. And accept the gift she wants to give you.

 

[hanban24]

Farting

Smelly or just loud? That makes a big difference lol

 

[hanban24]

I also sometimes focus too much on my partner's pleasure. Like I have to make sure she gets off.

But sometimes a partner just wants to get me off and be the giver for a quickie and I have a hard time accepting that.

This isn't a brag. It has been an issue. Guys, if she says she just wants to satisfy you on any given night and doesn't want you to get her off... listen to her and trust her. And accept the gift she wants to give you.

Love a generous lover, but you are right, sometimes focusing too much on the other person keeps us from truly enjoying the experience ourselves. Important balance to strike!

 

[hanban24]

Interesting question. Hopefully everyone gives me 5* reviews but who knows?

I’m sure I’ve had some 3 or 4 stars, but hopefully all would at least recommend me to a friend

 

[sixfoot4]

Smelly or just loud? That makes a big difference lol

Both have their uses. Smelly can bring events to a premature conclusion if that is desired.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I’m sure I’ve had some 3 or 4 stars, but hopefully all would at least welcome me to a friend

Welcome you to a friend? Or recommend you to a friend?

The dynamic of that post is very different depending....

 

[hanban24]

Both have their uses. Smelly can bring events to a premature conclusion if that is desired.

Yikes! Can definitely say a smelly one would take the wind out of my sexual desires.

 

[hanban24]

Welcome you to a friend? Or recommend you to a friend?

The dynamic of that post is very different depending....

Recommend* damn autocorrect lol

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Recommend* damn autocorrect lol

Darn....I liked it as 'welcomed'

 

[sixfoot4]

Yikes! Can definitely say a smelly one would take the wind out of my sexual desires.

Whereas a good trumpeting fart can signal the male's assessment that the sex is now concluded and he is leaving.

 

[ctarrantella]

For me this is a self confidence issue. I have no stamina and cum rather quick when inside her… border line makes me sick how quick I cum and can’t last. I also think I am small and it contributes to it. However my wife is very petit and tells me I’m almost too much for her. But again I cum super quick. I have been searching for ways to change that with no luck.

 

[hanban24]

For me this is a self confidence issue. I have no stamina and cum rather quick when inside her… border line makes me sick how quick I cum and can’t last. I also think I am small and it contributes to it. However my wife is very petit and tells me I’m almost too much for her. But again I cum super quick. I have been searching for ways to change that with no luck.

There are desensitizing gels you can get to try and help with that, although that kind of takes the fun out of it. I’ve been with some quick triggers. Condoms normally help slow the process down a bit, but again, kind of takes away the fun.

We always made sure to do lots of foreplay, so I was closer to orgasm or had orgasmed before he ever was inside me. We also had to find what positions were quicker for me to cum in and slower for him.

 

[hanban24]

For me this is a self confidence issue. I have no stamina and cum rather quick when inside her… border line makes me sick how quick I cum and can’t last. I also think I am small and it contributes to it. However my wife is very petit and tells me I’m almost too much for her. But again I cum super quick. I have been searching for ways to change that with no luck.

As for size, I think guys make a much bigger deal out of it then we do. I’ve been with a lot of different sizes and it really doesn’t change how much I enjoy sex with the guy. Unless you are really small, it likely doesn’t make a difference. And as you’ve described, it sounds like your wife is more than fulfilled with it.

 

[hanban24]

I find that with a new lover that the first time out I either look like I have stamina for days and look like a stud or I'm so excited for the experience that I turn into a 2 minute man.

I’m always so nervous the first time with a guy. I’m never sure how much to show out or do, because it kind of sets the precedent moving forward. Definitely a lot of pressure.