How Are You Bad In Bed?

[sixfoot4]

Question for the guys- After you all shoot, do you just stop? I’ve seen a few people say this is their issue. I’ve been with guys who cum quick but can still stay hard long enough for me to get off too.

No, I get the flops right after cumming, but hey, been standing to attention whilst we used it every which way for 3 hours so it's time for tiger to lie down..just for 10 minutes....

 

[hanban24]

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Really.... I guess I'm a rarity then; I like sex to last at least 30 minutes. I need time to go down on her and have her reciprocate before we get to the main course.

The question is what you are defining as the start of sex? I think we were referring strictly to penetration, not any foreplay or oral.

 

[ericahope]

I’ll start. I’m a no-go on butt stuff- giving or receiving. I’m not into the idea of group play or sharing partners. While I have a high sex drive, I’m not big on long sessions of intercourse. Give me a solid 20-30 minutes and that is more than enough. No reason to be doing it for hours.

From my perspective, you are not bad in bed. I don't want anyone touching my butt (I assume you mean the anus, not the larger bum) and I have no desire to touch anyone else's. I also have no interest (at least in real life) in group sex or sharing partners. These are personal preferences, not actually bad things. It's like food preferences...liking one thing and not another is not objectively "bad" or "good."

In my opinion, "bad" in bed would be, for example, selfishness.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Question for the guys- After you all shoot, do you just stop? I’ve seen a few people say this is their issue. I’ve been with guys who cum quick but can still stay hard long enough for me to get off too.

I'm good for a long time after cumming. To the point where it's a problem. (for the partner, not for me)

But staying hard to give her an orgasm isn't usually relevant. She may enjoy the ongoing sex but it's rare a woman will cum from vaginal intercourse I've found. It's happened with the perfect angle (and when it does....hold the fuck on because tmits about to be a wild ride) but it's rare.

I find oral is needed to get a woman off (or hands or toys or whatever she likes) No one ever 'no' to more oral sex though....

 

[hanban24]

From my perspective, you are not bad in bed. I don't want anyone touching my butt (I assume you mean the anus, not the larger bum) and I have no desire to touch anyone else's. I also have no interest (at least in real life) in group sex or sharing partners. These are personal preferences, not actually bad things. It's like food preferences...liking one thing and not another is not objectively "bad" or "good."

In my opinion, "bad" in bed would be, for example, selfishness.

“Bad” I’m using a little tongue in cheek. More if someone was going to complain about you sexually, what would it be.

 

[hanban24]

I'm good for a long time after cumming. To the point where it's a problem. (for the partner, not for me)

But staying hard to give her an orgasm isn't usually relevant. She may enjoy the ongoing sex but it's rare a woman will cum from vaginal intercourse I've found. It's happened with the perfect angle (and when it does....hold the fuck on because tmits about to be a wild ride) but it's rare.

I find oral is needed to get a woman off (or hands or toys or whatever she likes) No one ever 'no' to more oral sex though....

I know plenty of women, including myself, who come from vaginal intercourse. It doesn’t always come naturally but when you both know what you are doing it shouldn’t be a problem.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I know plenty of women, including myself, who come from vaginal intercourse. It doesn’t always come naturally but when you both know what you are doing it shouldn’t be a problem.

It has to be the right set up. Parts have to fit.

I used to be a me to make it happen to an ex but we have to be standing and me entering her from behind. She would lean face forward against the wall and spread her legs. I would standing behind her coming in from the back. The angle made the head of my cock rub her g spot.

But then it has to be specific small 1 inch strokes. We had to be in that standing position which was hard because I was a foot taller so it was awkward for me and I couldn't do it for long. (I liked it...don't get me wrong. It was well worth it. But my legs would give out after a while)

It was such a production we didn't do it much and just hit that spot in other ways.

That same technique never worked on anyone else. And years later she told me her eventual husband tried the same thing and the shape of his dick was different enough that it never got that spot.

It just had to be a perfect combo.

I have heard stories about women who actually orgasm relatively easily from vaginal sex. If you're one of them.... hey awesome for you!

But from my experience and from talking to female friends over the years it's something that has to be just perfect or it won't work.

Or maybe I just suck in bed and no one ever told me (that's probably not it)

 

[hanban24]

It has to be the right set up. Parts have to fit.

I used to be a me to make it happen to an ex but we have to be standing and me entering her from behind. She would lean face forward against the wall and spread her legs. I would standing behind her coming in from the back. The angle made the head of my cock rub her g spot.

But then it has to be specific small 1 inch strokes. We had to be in that standing position which was hard because I was a foot taller so it was awkward for me and I couldn't do it for long. (I liked it...don't get me wrong. It was well worth it. But my legs would give out after a while)

It was such a production we didn't do it much and just hit that spot in other ways.

That same technique never worked on anyone else. And years later she told me her eventual husband tried the same thing and the shape of his dick was different enough that it never got that spot.

It just had to be a perfect combo.

I have heard stories about women who actually orgasm relatively easily from vaginal sex. If you're one of them.... hey awesome for you!

But from my experience and from talking to female friends over the years it's something that has to be just perfect or it won't work.

Or maybe I just suck in bed and no one ever told me (that's probably not it)

Gosh that sounds incredibly high maintenance lol

I have some female friends who can’t cum from sex, don’t get me wrong. But, there are also many who do and do relatively easily. Especially the older you get and the more you do it, many of us find what works to get us off. There are lots of women who don’t take the time to understand their bodies and what does it for them. A lot of women who are for some reason convinced they can’t cum or aren’t supposed to cum.

Women who cum aren’t unicorns, but it definitely isn’t as easy for us.

 

[ericahope]

“Bad” I’m using a little tongue in cheek. More if someone was going to complain about you sexually, what would it be.

I really think the porn industry has warped a lot of minds when it comes to sex and what should be expected and normal. The idea that a lover would think less of me or complain about me because I didn't want something stuck up my ass or that I wasn't willing to share our bed with other people has never crossed my mind. The vast majority of people will never participate in group sex or even suggest it to their partner. One-on-one sex is the norm. Please, please, please...don't internalize the belief that because you have no interest in doing these things, or any other particular thing in bed, you are "bad" or are worthy of complaint!

 

[lil_jenni]

I am a Goddess in bed, and men and women alike worship at my alter and sing my praises unending...

Okay, all fun aside, like some other posters, I don't think conceptualizing it as "good" or "bad" is relevant. It depends on the people and the situation. For example, I'm into some kinks I know are wearisome to my Hubby. I know sometimes he would like me to be more into romantic love making than wanting him to give me a rough fuck and call me vulgar names. That he can be too gentle sometimes for my mood or not as into a roleplay as I am does not make him a bad lover. He is the best lover I have ever had, and one of the best people I have ever known. But there are times we want different things sexually. And he would say the same about me (although, he really wouldn't -- he'd turn red and refuse to answer the question ). I can be way too much for him sometimes, and want to do too much in (and out) of bed.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

My ex complained that once I was on my back being licked, I didn't move or reciprocate. It was all about my pleasure.

Does that mean I was bad in bed? Or was my partner wrong?

I have no comparison.

 

[whenagain]

Small dick. Everything else I can work on, communicate about, but as a poster on lit once said “I can teach a guy to eat my pussy. I can’t give him two more inches.”

 

[Mtnmike]

My ex complained that once I was on my back being licked, I didn't move or reciprocate. It was all about my pleasure.

Does that mean I was bad in bed? Or was my partner wrong?

I have no comparison.

Means he wasn't doing the job like it should've been done !!!!

 

[Susscrofa]

Many of us are quick to point out how others are bad in bed or how we excel, but how many of us are honest with the ways we aren’t good in bed?

What are the things that your partner(s) would complain about you, as it relates to sex?

I'm not all that much into oral, either giving or receiving, a lot of women haven't been happy with that (especially the non-giving part) and have made it known.

The way I look at it, I'd rather spend my sexual energy on penetration and flesh on flesh contact - bodies pressed together, legs intertwined, and so on. To me oral is more like mutual masturbation using your mouth instead of your hands. Full-on intercourse is just so much more satisfying to me.

I also have zero interest in anything anal - it just doesn't appeal to me. Luckily, none of the women I've been with have been into it either.

 

[hulmule]

My ex complained that once I was on my back being licked, I didn't move or reciprocate. It was all about my pleasure.

Does that mean I was bad in bed? Or was my partner wrong?

I have no comparison.

Whats wrong with that? nothing, make you cum with their mouth, then your nice and wet for the cock to slide deep inside...

 

[hanban24]

I really think the porn industry has warped a lot of minds when it comes to sex and what should be expected and normal. The idea that a lover would think less of me or complain about me because I didn't want something stuck up my ass or that I wasn't willing to share our bed with other people has never crossed my mind. The vast majority of people will never participate in group sex or even suggest it to their partner. One-on-one sex is the norm. Please, please, please...don't internalize the belief that because you have no interest in doing these things, or any other particular thing in bed, you are "bad" or are worthy of complaint!

Think you are taking my comments a little too seriously. I’m sure I have “complained” about other lovers for things that really weren’t a big deal. The point of the thread is to focus less on everyone on Lit being some sort of sex gods and get real about some of the things we don’t often talk about.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Women who cum aren’t unicorns, but it definitely isn’t as easy for us.

I thought this was me for 3 years. I knew the parts worked, if I masturbated, I came. But with a boy? They'd last 30 seconds. they'd jump aboard before I was ready. one said I was a shit fuck because he was too drunk to fuck properly (mr floppy) and hit me. I got called frigid.

I slept around a lot because everyone told me how amazing sex was and I felt like I was being cheated. At best it was underwhelming and at worst painful. The only bit I enjoyed was giving blow jobs. I knew I was good at that and I was in control.

When I found the right guy (details in my first story! I plugged my story!) it was like a firework display. The bit that isn't in the story is that after he left I cried, I was so overwhelmed with happiness and relief. I wasn't broken.

So what I'm saying is you aren't bad in bed (unless you're a teenage boy, then you can fuck off for ruining my life!). You're just maybe not in tune with your partner.

 

[Anker2019]

The question is what you are defining as the start of sex? I think we were referring strictly to penetration, not any foreplay or oral.

Does penetration, then a quick rinse (she doesn't like to suck after I've been inside her) followed by more oral, before more penetration to the finish count? From first penetration to orgasm is usually about 15-20 minutes, easy. (The camera often runs out of battery before we're done. )

 

[EStaccato]

With a partner, I can't cum without something in my ass. And that's not always... um... convenient. (I never need that when I'm alone, though. Weird).

 

[hanban24]

Does penetration, then a quick rinse (she doesn't like to suck after I've been inside her) followed by more oral, before more penetration to the finish count? From first penetration to orgasm is usually about 15-20 minutes, easy. (The camera often runs out of battery before we're done. )

Need a better battery

 

[Anker2019]

I know plenty of women, including myself, who come from vaginal intercourse. It doesn’t always come naturally but when you both know what you are doing it shouldn’t be a problem.

I've often wondered how this feels for a woman. My ex primarily got off by using my tongue or a vibe on her clit, but also came super hard when just her pussy was filled with a toy, or various parts of my body. For males, it generally comes down to a lot of stimulation of the head of our cock.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm bad at giving a good handjob... At least I think so.

 

[shinybikiniwife]

I'm bad at giving a good handjob... At least I think so.

Ditto. Fun to do and I enjoy giving them but, I just don't have the talent.