How Are You Bad In Bed?

[hanban24]

Oh yes it is and sometimes that pressure equates to my not being able to get off in a timely fashion. Last new lover we went for 4 hours and I never got close but she had a hell of a time. I had to explain to her that was a very unusual session and normally I'm good for 30 minutes at a go.

I’d have tapped out way before four hours I’m sure she had trouble walking the next day.

 

[Klqka]

I am one of those drill-to-oblivioin kinds of lovers and the fact I can last really long doesn't mean much if I don't bring anything extra than endurance. It is still kind of scary to let go and just enjoy the moment. Looking back, being mechanical, without showing passion believing not allowing feelings to show through might not have been the best course of action. And I still recover from this.

 

[hanban24]

Lol hell most of the time I would have tapped out long before that. I need a little down time because it can just hurt being hard that long. Give me multiple times with a rest period between goes and I'm happy. Let me go weeks without sex and when I do get it I feel like a 2 pump chump I go so fast.

I’m definitely more in the camp of some shorter passionate romps and go multiple rounds. When I was younger I could handle longer, but my body doesn’t want to keep up that long.

 

[cubbyfire04]

Many of us are quick to point out how others are bad in bed or how we excel, but how many of us are honest with the ways we aren’t good in bed?

What are the things that your partner(s) would complain about you, as it relates to sex?

She loves rough sex, but every now and then she needs romantic lovemaking. Even when she asks for it, I start off great but tend to slowly ramp things up to a full-on pummeling. She does enjoy it in the moment, but afterwards she'll make sure to inform me I still owe her romantic sex.

 

[Mtnmike]

Many of us are quick to point out how others are bad in bed or how we excel, but how many of us are honest with the ways we aren’t good in bed?

What are the things that your partner(s) would complain about you, as it relates to sex?

Marathon Sex, we're not young anymore & I've never been able to do short sex sessions, sorry nothing I could do about it so 14 year's ago she called it quits !!!!!

 

[Mtnmike]

I think I am too quiet.

I don't moan. I don't talk dirty. I can... I know how to... I am comfortable doing so.... but I get into the moment and am focused on the sex and I just naturally get quiet. I have been told after that she thought I wasn't into it. But I REALLY was.

Yes I used to get that way sometimes to.

 

[Goldenfinger]

That’s a easy one. If we are just talking straight sex(straight as in no kink). When I was younger I was selfish. Then the pendulum swung the other way and I was too giving. Now Ive found that happy medium.

 

[Mtnmike]

For me this is a self confidence issue. I have no stamina and cum rather quick when inside her… border line makes me sick how quick I cum and can’t last. I also think I am small and it contributes to it. However my wife is very petit and tells me I’m almost too much for her. But again I cum super quick. I have been searching for ways to change that with no luck.

If you don't have a problem with medications, have your Dr give you a prescription for a mild antidepressant, best thing you'll find. They can adjust the dosage till it's what y'all want.

 

[ctarrantella]

We always made sure to do lots of foreplay, so I was closer to orgasm or had orgasmed before he ever was inside me. We also had to find what positions were quicker for me to cum in and slower for him.

My wife never cums with me inside her. I’ve adapted to the extended foreplay. Also, oral is a staple. I usually make her orgasm that way before I even enter inside her so I know she is satisfied and taken care of.

As for size, I think guys make a much bigger deal out of it then we do. I’ve been with a lot of different sizes and it really doesn’t change how much I enjoy sex with the guy. Unless you are really small, it likely doesn’t make a difference. And as you’ve described, it sounds like your wife is more than fulfilled with it.

Oh that’s definitely us. I make a big deal way more. She has been nothing but supportive. Our biggest issue right now is the major rut we have been in over the frequency we make love. I’ve been posting on other threads about that looking for advice. We started to talk the other night. So, here’s hoping to it getting better in that area as well.

 

[ctarrantella]

If you don't have a problem with medications, have your Dr give you a prescription for a mild antidepressant, best thing you'll find. They can adjust the dosage till it's what y'all want.

I’m not depressed though and really want to stay away from them. There was one time they wanted to put me on them. I didn’t want to. I fixed my problems by quitting my job. I have not looked back since.

 

[jedclampet69]

First off I to must admit to farting in bed .. I also tend to belch.. But the main problem I have now is not being able to cum so quick .. Cam take a while sometimes not until the next morning .. So obviously I miss out on a lot of sleep as does my woman .. Yet I haven't had many complaints

 

[stiv837]

I truly believe I am bad in bed. My very small penis and either cumming to quickly or lasting far to long. Either way I was told I'm not a good lay. Now eating pussy that's another story.

 

[hanban24]

First off I to must admit to farting in bed .. I also tend to belch.. But the main problem I have now is not being able to cum so quick .. Cam take a while sometimes not until the next morning .. So obviously I miss out on a lot of sleep as does my woman .. Yet I haven't had many complaints

Take some GasX before sex? Lol

 

[Afterhours22]

I can honestly say that I have had very open communication with my partners as I have matured along with them, so I know exactly what they like and don't like during sex and have not had any complaints, but when I was younger and first starting out, my lack of experience caused me to do a few of my partners wrong by getting on, getting my rocks off then leaving them hanging. I was young, dumb and full of cum, so I was a very bad sex partner. After being rejected by them for another chance at sex, I learned the hard way not to be stupid. It also took the help of an understanding older woman, that helped educate me on it, too.

 

[Trubbycat]

I had a tendency to shoot too quickly. Nowadays with my blood pressure meds I don't even think it works anymore, but since I haven't had sex in years I wouldn't know.

 

[hanban24]

I can honestly say that I have had very open communication with my partners as I have matured along with them, so I know exactly what they like and don't like during sex and have not had any complaints, but when I was younger and first starting out, my lack of experience caused me to do a few of my partners wrong by getting on, getting my rocks off then leaving them hanging. I was young, dumb and full of cum, so I was a very bad sex partner. After being rejected by them for another chance at sex, I learned the hard way not to be stupid. It also took the help of an understanding older woman, that helped educate me on it, too.

Sex is definitely supposed to be a mutual experience. There are unfortunately guys who don’t realize that. Similarly to how there are women who don’t understand how important it is for the men.

Glad you matured and gave us ladies our share too!

 

[hanban24]

I had a tendency to shoot too quickly. Nowadays with my blood pressure meds I don't even think it works anymore, but since I haven't had sex in years I wouldn't know.

Question for the guys- After you all shoot, do you just stop? I’ve seen a few people say this is their issue. I’ve been with guys who cum quick but can still stay hard long enough for me to get off too.

 

[ctarrantella]

Question for the guys- After you all shoot, do you just stop? I’ve seen a few people say this is their issue. I’ve been with guys who cum quick but can still stay hard long enough for me to get off too.

I usually take care of my wife first orally. This way after I shoot it’s just holding each other. However, if I shoot first I always make sure she finishes orally or someway.

 

[hanban24]

I usually take care of my wife first orally. This way after I shoot it’s just holding each other. However, if I shoot first I always make sure she finishes orally or someway.

But do you immediately go soft, or do you just stop as soon as you finish?

Some of this is because I’m on top, but I can normally keep going even as he is cumming or has cummed. Can’t go for an eternity, but can normally get a little longer out of the experience.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Love a generous lover, but you are right, sometimes focusing too much on the other person keeps us from truly enjoying the experience ourselves. Important balance to strike!

Not if being generous is his "thing"...

 

[hanban24]

Not if being generous is his "thing"...

Ehh, I agree somewhat. I’ve been with guys who put my pleasure so above their own that it was annoying. I like the satisfaction of pleasing the guy too. Being generous is good, but there is the possibility of being too generous.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Ehh, I agree somewhat. I’ve been with guys who put my pleasure so above their own that it was annoying. I like the satisfaction of pleasing the guy too. Being generous is good, but there is the possibility of being too generous.

He has to be able to read her reactions. It's as simple as that.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Recommend* damn autocorrect lol

Most got it...

 

[ctarrantella]

But do you immediately go soft, or do you just stop as soon as you finish?

Some of this is because I’m on top, but I can normally keep going even as he is cumming or has cummed. Can’t go for an eternity, but can normally get a little longer out of the experience.

I go soft pretty quickly. My wife usually stops when she is on top.
I got lucky this morning and continued for maybe an extra minute or so. But then it was pretty much soft. When I was much younger I remember I’d be able to cum and go right back in and stay hard. Those days are about 15 years ago though. Maybe more.

 

[Anker2019]

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a man who can manage 30 minutes is a bit of a rarity. Unless you like stop and watch TV or make coffee part way through! I'd rather have intense sex than an endurance exercise though.

Really.... I guess I'm a rarity then; I like sex to last at least 30 minutes. I need time to go down on her and have her reciprocate before we get to the main course.